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51 La Mesa, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 20–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, casual sex

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 11:37am
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Hi I'm Vinnie! I'm the male counterpart to Lo-and-Vin. We are a poly couple looking to find other poly couples or poly-friendly singles for play, dating, and friendship. We date both together and separately, but always with each other's knowledge. We practice ethical non-monogamy.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm in an on-going polyamorous relationship - extremely successful, thus far, and enjoying a rather kinky and exciting life.

I live a life of sex positivity - no shame in any type of sexuality, orientation, or sexual experiences. If you aren't hurting others (apart from consensual bdsm), then your kink and sexuality is a wonderful part of you!

I've learned to zen-out, relax, go-with-the-flow, and not worry about things very much. But don't mistake that for apathy or indifference. I'm passionate about many topics and have strong opinions. I'm passionate about language and literature, and I'm also an excellent listener. I'm always looking for great books to read.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
* knowing the difference between sex and love
* keeping an open mind
* kinky stuff and BDSM
* puzzles and games
* picking out thoughtful gifts for people
* making mixed drinks
* movie trivia
* packing the trunk of a car to use every last inch of space
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm tall and thin.
I have a nice smile.
I wear smart-boy glasses.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I studied literature for a profession - too many to list! Love classics - Anna Karenina, Lolita, The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn, The Great Gatsby, Ulysses, The Waste Land, The Catcher in the Rye, One Hundred Years of Solitude, The World According to Garp, A Prayer for Owen Meany - most John Irving, everything by Faulkner, Homer, Shakespeare, Chaucer, Tristram Shandy, but then I like modern works too, This House of Sky, Fight Club, Howl, On the Road, and lots of non-fiction, too. I read widely and always have a book and a Kindle or two available!

Movies - again classics and best pictures -American Beauty, Chinatown, Gone with the Wind, Lawrence of Arabia, One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest, Saving Private Ryan, The Deer Hunter, Apocalypse Now, and all of Kubrick - Lolita, the Shining especially. - and musicals! (West Side Story, The Music Man, Bye Bye Birdie, My Fair Lady, Mary Poppins etc.). Pixar Pixar Pixar!

Not much for TV - but our poly group is watching American Horror Story. Loved me some Battlestar Galactica (old and new!).

Music - raised playing classical piano (which I play poorly), and like all kinds of music, including standards from the 20s to today, and everything in between, with a penchant for classic rock. Not a fan of country music, but oddly enough I can stand some rap and hip hop.

Food - I enjoy good food but I wouldn't call myself a foodie. Not a fast food fan. Breakfast!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
HOT: Honesty, Openness, Transparency
open mindedness
the ocean/beach
cuddlefucking, and other sexual experimentation!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
my kinky life
my writing
my poly family
my dog
whatever I'm reading
the next kinky thing I want to do and learn
how to squeeze the most out of every day and keep up with everything!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At a kink event or spending it with my poly family or new friends. No set plans - being open to life and possibilities

Spending time with my Lolita (gf) and getting up to some kind of trouble, whether finding people to invite in, or going out. I like to let loose when I can and howl at the moon when possible.

Sometimes it's just a quiet night with a movie and cuddles.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am comfortable with my sexuality. I am listed as pansexual on Fetlife and am open to most experiences.
You should message me if
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You are single, available, or a poly couple open to meeting up and being friends with a poly couple with a 20+ year age gap (I'm 51, she's 29).