Why do I hide my identity? Because it's a good choice. When I feel like it, I share my identity with individuals. There's just no need to offer myself up for judgement to the Internet in general. I think of myself as a mixed ethnicity Californian, but I am sometimes assumed to be Asian or Hispanic. I am not a fluent Spanish speaker, but I do speak video game decently. =P
I'm going to use a few shortcuts in this description and leave my paradoxes as a side note. I'm a quiet atheist. I am a casual gamer female. I majored in a social science and minored in art. I love ideas and abstract thinkers. I feel deeply and work hard. I believe in polyamory ideals, but I am content with my partner whether or not we decide to in twine our lives with another couple's in the future.
I am "bisexual" (or pansexual or heteroflexible, whatever) when I am in intimate (trust-based), committed (which for me means time investment on both sides) relationships with other poly minded people I am also sexually attracted to. If any of those ingredients are missing, I am not generally open to intercourse.
I am trying to figure out how to describe the kind of life that I and my partner are enjoying and building together. The kind of paradise that is made. The key words for me are safe and authentic. Maybe the key words for my partner are the flip sides: fun and games. I found one of my soulmates and I am deeply in love with him. He is an intelligent, playful, easy-going, nonconformist, amazing person, and I just got lucky enough to find him before the rest of society noticed. I think he will make an awesome dad. I have no doubt that his inner calm will attract others as he is able to come into his own space in the world.
I am in a transitional time of building my own family, career, and space in the world as well. I dream of sharing a home, tasks, and resources. I believe in complimentary differences and basic equality in intimate relationships. I see the value in sharing responsibilities and accentuating strengths. I am strongly oriented towards tribal communities that are not really supported in today's society.
So what am I looking for? Ideally, a few more local, amazing, likeminded people to be the kind of friends you see all the time. And maybe, just maybe, we would be so compatible with, say another couple, that we could join forces in life and love, share resources and tasks, share laughter, support, and successes, buy a home even, raise our kids together... who knows how good it could be when you believe in multiplying instead of only subtracting. Somewhere out there, other people are thinking similar things and are daring to aim for more. This is just one more way that makes that slight chance of connecting not just a dream, but a possibility.