I'll try to be proactive. What am I looking for? Ideally, a few more local, amazing, likeminded people to be the kind of friends you see all the time. Yes, I am in a committed, stable, fulfilling partner/lover-type relationship.
Why do I hide my identity? Because it's a good choice. When I feel like it, I share my identity with individuals. There's just no need to offer myself up for judgement to the Internet in general.
Who am I? I think of myself as a mixed ethnicity Californian, but I am sometimes assumed to be Asian or Hispanic. I am not a fluent Spanish speaker, but I do speak video game decently. =P My unlawfully wedded husband speaks video game pretty constantly. He's a white guy with Irish and Russian ancestors.
I don't try to speak for him on this OKCupid account, just in this section.
I'm going to use a few shortcuts in this description and leave my paradoxes as a side note. I'm a quiet atheist. He is a respectful atheist. I am a casual gamer female. He is a hardcore gamer. I majored in a social science and minored in art. He went to the school of life-experience and is still considering dabbling in academics. I love ideas and abstract thinkers. He loves the art of story-telling and rationality. I feel deeply and work hard. He goes with the flow and withdraws to recharge. We believe in polyamory ideals, but we are content. We are pretty low on money and resources at the moment, but we live a great life.
I am trying to figure out how to describe the kind of life that I and my partner are enjoying and building together. The kind of paradise that is made. I found one of my soulmates and I am deeply in love with him. He is an intelligent, playful, easy-going, nonconformist, amazing person, and I just got lucky enough to find him before the rest of society noticed. I think he will make an awesome dad. I have no doubt that his inner calm will attract others as he is able to come into his own space in the world.
I am "bisexual" or "heteroflexible" when I am in intimate (trust-based), committed (which for me means time investment on both sides) relationships with other poly minded people I am also sexually attracted to. If any of those ingredients are missing, I am not generally open to intercourse. Right now I/we have all the sex I/we need, and it's amazing.
We are still in a transitional time of life, building our own family, career, and space in the world. I dream of sharing a home, tasks, and resources. I believe in complimentary differences and basic equality in relationships. I see the value in sharing responsibilities and accentuating strengths. I am strongly oriented towards tribal communities that are not really supported in today's society. And maybe, just maybe, we would be so compatible with, say another couple, that we could join forces in life, share resources and tasks, share laughter, support, and successes, buy a home even, raise our kids together... who knows how good it could be when you believe in multiplying instead of just adding. Somewhere out there, other people are thinking similar things and are daring to aim for more. This is just one more way that makes that slight chance of connecting not just a dream, but a possibility.