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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 45–58
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Today – 3:16pm
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Graduated from Ph.D program
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), Japanese (Okay), Chinese (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)
My self-summary
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Feet on the ground, but eyes towards the skies: Literate, considerate, down-to-earth, articulate, adventurous guy loves jazz, cultural journeys, kitchen creations, Asia, linguistic twists, and discovering! Other interests include crafts/art, photography, writing and playing music, creative writing, poetry, travel, bicycling, and personal development.

I'm someone who believes in mindful appreciation for the world, and the ability to step back and reflect on one's self. At the same time, I can be mischievous: a person who loves to ask "what if" and to see not what is, but what could be. Inveterate learner...
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Making a difference: Helping others have successful and happy lives, both at work and in their personal lives. Helping people understand how to reach out to and work with cultures other than their own. Helping people understand that the most important and difficult problems at work are often not technology or money, but rather people and relationships. Helping people connect with others by teaching, writing, and consulting.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
listening to others and hearing what they are trying to say. Being patient and supportive. Helping people think in ways they had never done so before. Connecting with people from other cultures. Finding new ways to do old things. Making connections between things that not everyone sees. Finding new recipes.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My passion for things that are important to me. My smile. My eclectic curiosity for the world.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Quote: "We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give."--Winston Churchill

Movies: Cinema Paradiso, In the Mood for Love, Annie Hall, Toy Story, Tampopo, Inside Job, Lost in Translation, Life is Beautiful, The Wizard of Oz, Casablanca, Food Inc., Spirited Away, Chariots of Fire, Dead Poet's Society, The English Patient, foreign and indie films

Food: all, with Vietnamese, Cuban, Moroccan, Afghani and good Japanese among my favorites. Dim sum and gelato. A comforting bowl of homemade soup in the wintertime. Freshly baked bread.

Music: eclectic--Pat Metheny, Bela Fleck, Alison Krauss, Beethoven, Cat Stevens, klezmer, flamenco, Celtic, Japanese music, Zydeco, guitar music from Madagascar, Scarlatti, the Beatles, Aaron Copland, Bobby McFerrin, Wes Montgomery, Chinese folk music; Bill Evans, Miles Davis; a cappella harmonies, Steely Dan

Books: The Little Prince, A Natural History of the Senses, 1984, Traffic, Flatland, The Psychology of Everyday Things

Media: NPR, NY Times, The Atlantic, New Yorker, Daily Show, PBS, NY Review of Books, The Economist
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Good conversation, good friends, music, NPR, intellectual stimulation, a creative spark, good dark chocolate (okay that's seven)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How little things can make a big difference in people's lives. If I read dessert recipes before going to sleep, will I have sweet dreams? How so many things in life can't be anticipated, but still work out better than one ever could have imagined ("Man plans, but God laughs.")

The richness of the world's cultures. Why people think and feel as they do. Why we have so much trouble learning from history. Why education is not as valued as it should be, and why certain professions are overvalued. The next great recipe to try. An idea that can lead me somewhere new. The connections among art, society, and science. How I can make a difference to society, and in the lives of those I teach.

Who will I meet next? What's for dinner?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At a movie or concert, having dinner with friends, home relaxing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Better to have some secrets for when we meet...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you are a sensual, energetic, open-minded explorer who wants to create, connect, and celebrate: Someone who is playful, likes learning and taking chances, and is never bored with life.

You are someone who appreciates the ironies of life and can appreciate the small details of a situation; Someone who is more interested in the journey than in getting there.

Someone who would rather be dated not sedated; chased, not chaste.

Someone who is a kindred spirit and explorer at heart; Someone who loves the world of ideas, but also loves people. Someone who values balance between complexity and simplicity, challenge and serenity, mind and body. Again, in the end, someone who wants to create, connect, and celebrate!

One last request: If you "adjusted" your age for your profile (as some seem to do), please let me know in a first exchange. Honesty and trust are the foundations of an authentic relationship; significant mis-representations simply send the wrong message going forward.