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Volmin

29 F Helsinki, Finland

My Details

Last Online
Jul 7
Orientation
Gay
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Strictly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Student
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Married
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Finnish (Fluently), German (Okay), Swedish (Okay), Latin (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I identify as neutroishomoflexible and polyamorous.

I'm only attracted to people who I find to be feminine in a certain unspecified way. All of them have been non-male and okcupid only provides two gender options, thus the label "F / gay" is convenient enough. However, if you use the OkChoices script, like I do, you will see things in a little bit different way. You can find and install it here:
http://userscripts.org/scripts/show/108791
EDIT: Seems like the script doesn't work at the moment. :(

I'm married to mafialegs. It would be nice to appear as "available" but to achieve that I would have to lie and say I was looking for something. I'm not, but that doesn't mean I'm not available. I'm poly and open for meeting new people if they happen to come my way and be awesome.
What I’m doing with my life
I work on my second bachelor's degree. This one is all about podiatry. In the first B.Sc. I majored in solid mechanics and minored in mathematics. I don't think the years within the field of technology were a waste of time, but it does feel wonderful to finally study only things I can actually use to something meaningful.

Helping people is meaningful.

When I'm not studying, I go bouldering, read articles (about pretty much anything in the world) on the internet and sometimes also books, spend time with my loved ones or just try to chill the (over)activity between my ears for a moment by contemplating pictures of cute animals and some internet memes. Nowadays I don't do any martial arts, or NGO or political activities, but I do think they will be a part of my life again in the future.
The first things people usually notice about me
The colorful clothes. The barefoot shoes I'm wearing or the fact that I'm not wearing any shoes.

I hate the fact but sometimes people find me intimidating at first. When I'm not sure what to say I tend to either be quiet or ask questions, and no matter how gently and respectfully I try to express them, it makes some people feel that they are stupid and I must know things better than they do. That's not what I mean at all!

I also tend to sound very confident when I speak. It probably doesn't help that I have a bad habit of using long words and complicated complete sentences, especially whenever I get excited about something. And that happens a lot.

Anyway, I try to learn to be less assertive and less demanding, especially with new people. The old ones mostly know I'm all soft and fluffy and only mean good.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The question about books always confuses me. I don't know! What do you mean by favorite? I absolutely love some books, many I absolutely refuse to read and some I always plan to read but never really do anything about it, even if I have the book in my very own bookshelf. The scent of an old book (or a library or an antiquarian bookshop) is one of my favorites in the whole world. I must avoid bookstores, because I would like to buy so many books that I couldn't carry them home, let alone fit in my side of our bookshelf. And we would need to get a bigger home, which we can't really afford, if we were to buy another bookshelf! And I still probably wouldn't read the books. I would just stand there looking at them and wanting to read all of them at once. And be late from school, again!

Do I have a problem?

Film festivals. They are my favorite.

Extremely diverse types of music, but selective taste.

Fantastic food, especially vegan and only very mildly hot. That pretty much sums it up.

Also: Contemporary dance and art. Pretty much any kind of opera. Sometimes theater. Some very specific computer games.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to best make use of the little I have, to make the world a better place. How to be worthy of every wonderful, beautiful and lovable person in my life.

I spend very, very much time thinking about everything and anything. No, really. My friends and loved ones can't decide whether I'm more like a slow loris or like a sloth. Can't really complain as long as they think I'm even half as cute as the critters.

My sense of time is polychronic and I live in the midst of a perfectly monochronic society, which means I need to use tremendous amounts of energy to avoid accidentally insulting people for example by being late. What ever I'm doing or thinking, I tend to have trouble realizing when to stop and move on to something else.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
The women I'm attracted to are often considerably older than me, and the shorter the better. Definitely not all of them, but that's how it usually goes.

As far as I know, I have met only a couple of women who have otherwise only ever been attracted to women and are attracted to me. This is a pleasant thing for me because I don't like to be thought of or treated as a woman. If you would like to think of me as a woman or to treat me like one, I beg you to keep your distance and keep your thoughts to yourself.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like girls
  • Ages 24–100
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends
You should message me if
... you are LGBTIQWTF-positive.

... you like people who are very interested in a broad number of topics. And who really like to have a lot of argumentative conversations on all of those topics with other people, including with you.

... you are tolerant of extensive presence of social and environmental consciousness, foot health and footwear in daily conversational topics.

... you happen to know a dog, an octopus, a cat, a horse, a pig, a goat, a parrot, a lizard, a dragon, a snake, a bunny or other animal who is nice and in need of hugs. And you would like to talk about it.

... you are awesome.