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35 • Montreal, Quebec, CA • Cis Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 25–45
- Near me
- Who are single
- For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
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- Today – 1:45pm
- Bisexual, Pansexual, Queer
- 5′ 10″ (1.78m)
- Body type
- Mostly anything
- Not at all
- Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
- Leo, but it doesn’t matter
- Dropped out of masters program
- Rather not say
- Seeing Someone
- Strictly non-monogamous
- Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
- Has cats
- English (Fluently), French (Fluently), C++ (Fluently)
I care about workers rights and as such I have often talked about unionizing in my field. But that's just not in the mentality of people who work in software. Programmers tend to think of themselves as white collar workers and temporarily frustrated future millionaires.
I always feel really annoyed that there aren't more women in my field. I do try to cultivate good relationships with women employees to try and do my part, knowing that in this field they're usually being treated as inferiors and that it's best if they feel they have allies on the job. I work directly with a woman in my team and she's one of the greatest engineers I know. I have never accepted the idea that women can't do STEM work as well as men, and I think anyone who worked in our team would find that concept ludicrous.
Outside work, my main hobby is that I am a gamer, both video games and tabletop games. I have had a stint as a competitive gamer, touring Canada and the USA playing various games for prizes and typically being able to break even. Didn't make money there but was able to finance a lot of travelling and awesome experiences. I've done a bit less of that recently because the communities I was in have folded and some of the gaming communities left are a bit toxic on their views about women and LGBT people.
I've written articles on gaming from a standpoint of statistical analysis. That's the sort of geek I am. Most of the time I like to tweet or post on FB in activist spaces. I used to have a blog about anarchist issues and some feminism, but that's not really my medium I guess? I do my best writing when I only have to do 140 characters. ;)
I have a strong interest in anarchism, social justice, feminism and queer liberation. I've always wanted to pursue education in those fields but I felt my natural talent in STEM fields would be wasted if I didn't use it. I'm mostly an autodidact when it comes to politics, didn't go through a liberal arts degree in university, but I did spend half my classes reading political and activist books while spending the other half paying attention to the class.
I occasionally go to protests (though I now often trigger at the sight of cops since the Maple Spring, so post-P6 I had to keep away from gatherings for my own mental health) but my real interest lies in skill sharing. I've done a bunch of workshops related to technology, STEM and anarchist politics in the past and I'd like to do more of that. I love sharing ideas and transmitting skills to other people.
Making people laugh
Listening and caring
Talking too much about some random trivia that got my mind occupied at the moment, figuring that out, then being a bit shy and self-conscious about it and hoping you'll have some of your own endlessly fascinating trivia to talk about
On TV, I am a great fan of Game of Thrones again. I also like shows like Leverage because of my love for con and heist movies as an art form. That's why one of my favorite movies of all time was Foolproof (the fact I have a crush on Ryan Reynolds helped. I also like satirical comedies like Community and Better Off Ted. But of course, the best thing ever to be on television involved a little thing called Firefly. I'm a browncoat for life and I will always cherish my DVD copy.
When it comes to music, I tend to gravitate towards two poles. The first is early hardcore punk (Bad Religion, Dead Kennedys, Minor Threat), more modern straight edge hardcore (XLimp WristX, Have Heart, Death before Dishonor, Madball) and doom/gloomy hardcore, d-beat and crustcore like His Hero is Gone, Nux Vomica, World Burns to Death (it's my nick, get it?), Fall of Efrafa, Tragedy. I also incorporate some metal in there because of past relationships with metalheads: Dimmu Borgir, Ensiferum, Nightwish, Turisas, Nekrogoblikon, Lamb of God, Amon Amarth...
The other pole is an interest in folks music and historical anarchist or socialist hymns. I like Utah Philips and Billy Brag, as well as the whole catalog out of the IWW song book. This sort of overlaps with the previous pole through bands like Dropkick Murphys and so forth.
I also have a passing interest in politically aware hip hop, but mostly French (as in France). Sniper and Keny Arkana.
If you want to hear what that sounds like, here is a 2010s style mix tape, i.e. a YouTube playlist
As for food, I'm an on-again/off-again vegan (i try but I have food addictions and bad stress coping mechanisms) and mostly enjoy Thai and Indian food because it is easy to find good vegan food from those culinary schools.
And finally, I listen to the Citizen Radio podcast. Every. Day.
My iPad (which covers 1. and 2.)
Have I mentionned sex?
I also read a lot of news and articles on any given day about subjects like trans* rights, queer liberation, feminism, people of color activism. I produce a lot of ephemera in the realms of online political discussions. Like I said above, Twitter and FB are my main spots. Blogs are too much of a commitment I guess. These days it means a lot of yelling at people about the Charter of Values. Fuck I hate the Charter of Values.
I also am interested in sexual politics and kink, and so I do practice ties and knots and think about different bondage or bdsm stuff I might get to try out with my partners at any given time. I think a lot of it overlaps my interest in feminism and queer rights, though I am always disappointed in the kink community for not being as awesome as I wish it was on those subjects.
I am fat. I am not chubby or whatever other cutesy euphemism. I do not have "extra pounds" like a tall guy does not have "extra inches". I am militant about self-love and body autonomy, for myself and for others. I am not "sexy for a fatso", I am DAMN sexy, as many of my previous lovers have reminded me over the years. I am not looking for your pity fucks. If you are into fat people you are not doing me a favor by dating me, you are doing yourself one. If you are a decent human being who accepts body diversity then maybe I will also be doing myself a favor and date you.
Geekitude turns me on. Is there a subject you know way too much trivial information about and can't stop yourself from talking about it non-stop? I am listening. I will probably do the same to you later. Maybe we can retire to the boudoir and you can explain to me all about the obscure comic book villain you are obsessed with, or the history of Polka music, or whatever...
* You're looking for a friend with benefits or an open relationship.
* You just need a friend to go do stuff with.
* You think this is hot: http://www.criminalwisdom.com/hysterical-literature-the-orgasm-as-art/
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