I am actually quite happy where I am right now, I've got two happy, healthy, beautiful daughters who I adore and get along with swimmingly, a career in full swing, a cadre of great friends who really care about me as I do them. The only thing missing....well it's why we're here. I'm looking for some company; hopefully, something real and long lasting, I hope to find someone wonderful, a true connection, someone I enjoy spending time with and she with me.
I am an easy-going person, quick witted and like to goof, joke around and don't take things too seriously (unless absolutely necessary). I work out a lot, running, weights, yoga, etc and watch what I eat fairly carefully. I've been working steadily with a trainer for more then two years now but I haven't given in to unnatural growth methods and started with the body of an accountant so I've got a way to go before I achieve all of my goals.
I try to eat non-processed foods as often as possible (not afraid to sneak a burger or some other sinful food items here and there - I am no extremist). I am looking for someone who cares about how they look and feel as well. No need to be super skinny or super in shape (geez, I'm not perfect by any means) it would just be nice to have a partner who shares these interests and is not interested in growing fat together just old together.
I am a really good cook and make most everything from scratch. However, I love to eat out and try new foods/restaurants whenever I can. I don't have any hang-ups over food and eat just about anything (low-carb, less sugar tho). I like to taste the local fare when travelling. I once ate a Guinea Pig while travelling in Peru. Please don't tell my kids' Guinea pig if you should meet, I see the way she looks at me as though she suspects but she doesn't need confirmation. BTW no need to try Guinea Pig again, kinda like pigeon - not a lot of meat - more trouble than it's worth.
I love to travel both within the US internationally. I've been to a lot of really cool places but there is still so much to see and do.
I try and live a spirtual life, striving to increase my spirtual relationship with the rest of the world, its inhabitants and nature. I don't conform to any religion and am happy just learning about all of the worlds varying theories right now - no need to commit to any one.
Honesty is very important to me, I work hard to ensure I am being honest to myself and others. I will tell white lies, however, in order spare one's feelings, so don't worry I won't be telling you that that dress makes your butt look big or that I don't like your cooking (If however, I start volunteering to cook every meal - it could be a sign). When I say honesty I presume that cash register honesty and George Washington honesty are a given. What I really desire is to have an honest relationship with my partner. Let's face it, we won't agree on every politic, religious idea, movie, dislike and like. What I want is a relationship where I accept my partner, differences and all, and she me. That we are free to speak our minds and express our feelings without reproach or judgement. That's what I want!
I'm looking for a partner who is faithful, honest and caring. Someone who is not afraid to show affection, has a positive attitude and is able to be introspective and own up to their own faults when the fault is theirs as I will mine.
I am not into pretending to be someone I am not and don't play games (although sometimes I can be quite naive about dating and protocol - so you may have to smack me once in a while). I was in a relationship for all of my twenties and thirties and never learned all of the dating "rules" and "games". I'd rather just play it the way I feel it so if I respond right away or twice in a row it's because I'm interested in you and not interested in "playing it cool"
I am the AVP for Finance at my work, which means I'm the top finance guy at my company; in charge of budgets, debt, investments, treasury management etc. I really like what I do, where I work and have a great staff of folks that do all of the heavy lifting for me. I am not a slave to my job and like to keep a good balance between work and the rest of my life. I usually keep a 9-5 schedule, balance is so important.
I take issue with okCupid's assessment that I am somehow not ambitious. I've got a CPA and an MBA and have worked my ass off to get where I am. Admitedly, I have slowed my career progression over the past few (13) years to spend more time with my kids. As soon as they are off to College I'll seek a VP position. I don't say this to impress you - just to refute okCupids contention that I am somehow not ambitious, ambition doesn't always take the form of must need more money. When I set me mind to just about anything I succeed at it. I can be quite stubborn and driven.
I found this poem and love it. I put it on my outgoing email and read it all the time. I'd love to live up to all of its requirements but I am not perfect - far from - I will accept progress toward the goal however.
"Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass. Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul. With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy." ---Max Erhmann