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27 Philadelphia, PA Genderqueer, Androgynous

Genderqueer, Androgynous

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–33
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Online now!
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
6' 1" (1.85m)
Body Type
Atheism and laughing about it
Doesn’t want kids
English (Fluently), English (Fluently), English (Fluently), English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Gamer struggling balancing competitive fantasies with cooperative philosophies
Pro Chef; starting a side-hustle doing one-pot catering on top of my 2-12 job
Intersectional Feminism or GTFO
Queer AF
Enthusiastically LGBTQAIXYZN7-friendly
Kinky AF
Poly AF
Nerd reference ------------------------^
Semi-pro cuddler. I'll trade you dinner if you review me.
Aggressively honest, forthcoming, authentic.
Kawaii AF.
Otaku AF
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Work an unhealthy amount. Getting this new gig off the ground isn't helping.

Launching Philadelphia Service Cooperative; a low-cost housing solution for persons wanting to dedicate portions of their lives to community/social work.

Cooking at home, drooling over my friends cats or knitting/crocheting skills, blues/contra dancing mondays and thursdays sometimes, chasing cute pplz to smooch, having not enough time for too many interests, and playing board games.

Struggling with how to approach cute people without being like EVERY MONOCISHET DUDE EVER. It's crippling, really. I'm so cognizant of how much shit y'all get every fucking day that I miss out cause I refuse to be just another person hitting on you.

~*Trying to find meaningful ways to realize my life goal of removing competitive social models from our society and replacing them with sustainable cooperative ones.*~
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
- Cooking. Unless it's some new-age science-driven gastronomic shit that just got published recently (I'm looking at you, Modernist Cuisine), I can probably do it with little study.
- Communication.
- Cuddling
- Games/identifying systems and abusing them
- Teamwork
- Sex
- Problem Solving.
- PC building
- Pretty much any outdoor activity. Name one; I like it. Yes, especially that one.
- Eating
- Making out
- Dancing
- Tying knots ;3
- Leading
- Following
The first things people usually notice about me
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Adjectives/phrases I hear ascribed to me regularly: Adorable, genuine, sweet, honest, real, safe, weird, REALLY nerdy, introspective, methodical, decisive.

At rest, I'm quiet. I don't feel the need to impose my ego upon others in conversation/through actions; I'd rather analyze situations and think slowly. I'm only particularly interested in people enthusiastic about me. Engage me though, break that initial barrier of communication and I will drown you. Emotionally, intellectually, logistically, sexually.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
TBH, I'm really not into basing my matches on media preferences unless you want to watch tentacle porn with me. I want you for your mind, your philosophies, your beliefs, and your body, not what fandom you prefer to be spoonfed

Food = Everything. Jk but srsly tho. Here's a few for fun: Okra, Dr. Pepper, Goat cheese. Why do all of these things sound better in my head when I put MOTHERFUCKING in front of them? You wanna see me geek out? Talk food.
Wine and beer are cool, but I can't handle bitterness cause of a genetic thing.

Movies: Anything Quentin Tarantino or Sofia Coppola, Fight Club, Ghost in the Shell, *Lost in Translation* (AHGH ITS SO GOOD), Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Scott Pilgrim, Science of Sleep, Schindler's List, Virgin Suicides, Sunshine, Amelie

Television: I'm not much of a TV guy. IRON CHEF (I worked with Morimoto once!), Anthony Bourdain, Adventure Time, The Walking Dead, Firefly, Battlestar Galactica, Big Love, Band of Brothers, Top Gear, Mad Men, Neon Genesis Evangelion, Community.

Books!: bell hooks, Judith Butler, The Time Traveler's Wife (don't you fucking laugh), R.A. Salvatore, Stephen King. I read a ton of professional cooking technical manuals/cookbooks. Modernist Cuisine, Under Pressure, stuff like that.

Music...I'm open to any genre. Jazz (Big Band Era) and Electronica (Trance, Downtempo, Ambient, Dubstep, Lo-fi, House). The more lyric-centric the genre, the less I listen to it.

I'm mostly into ambient stuff that either chills me out, turns me on, or both.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- Good food.
- Really fracking good hugs. At least 20 seconds long, preferably.
- Internet. It was a sizable moral victory to have made it to number three without having listed this yet.
- Cats. If you have a cat(s), you should let me see them :)
- People. I fucking love all of you wonderful human beings.
- Sex.
- Community. Yeah it's eight fuck you.

Honestly, I have few needs; I live a simple existence, my goals are not expensive, they just require time and effort (and a little bit of money, but what doesn't?).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Games as an emergent, interactive art form. Esp in relation to more traditional artistic mediums.
Intersectional Feminism, and how I can be a better ally for women and minority groups without inadvertently drowning out their voice with my stupid white man privilege.
The relationship (or lack thereof) between kink, fetish, and sex.
Reading More.
Meeting people.
Gender Roles.
The juxtaposition between competition and cooperation.
Making my own porn.

This is where I throw out a lot of buzzwords for people to find me by searching. Rape culture, intersectionality, sex+, sex positive, mysoginy, GQ, Genderqueer, Trans*
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Getting my ass kicked behind a stainless steel counter top standing in 120 degree heat next to a 750 degree grill with 20 orders hanging in front of me.

Calling out my coworkers for being sexist, misogynistic, bigoted assholes.

Hanging out with you?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm pretty damned nerdy. We're talkin' king of the nerds shit here folks. Be ye warned.

Waaaahhhhh~ Sugoii kawaii desu-ne???

I (not-so) secretly want to be domesticated.

I'm sexually aroused by the explicit exchange of consent between persons.

I'm two degrees removed from Stoya sexually, and therefore three from James Deen.

I'm not opposed to casual sexual relationships, but that doesn't mean I'm (necessarily) into hooking up blindly. I want my partners to be my friends. I want to hang out and have fun doing whatever and understanding that sometimes as humans we want and need that social/emotional contact with someone, even if it's just us saying "I love you. It's no big deal. It doesn't mean you're The One, or even one of the ones. It doesn't mean you have to love me back. It doesn't mean we have to date, or marry, or even cuddle. It doesn't mean we have to part ways dramatically in a flurry of tears and broken dishes. It doesn't mean I'll love you until I die, or that I'll still love you next year, or tomorrow."
You should message me if
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Fetlife. PLEASE let me tie you up.

You vehemently identify as an intersectional feminist and want to invite me to any kind of event or gathering with like-minded people, even in a casual context. I'd like to help somehow but if not I'll gladly take the chance to hang out with awesome people who share the same values as me.

You want to cook sometime! Bonus points if you have dietary restrictions like Celiac's, Veganism, Vegetarianism (and it's various forms), etc. I NEED people to cook with/for to keep myself motivated to cook on my off time; be my muse!

You can cut through the bullshit to get to who you really are as a person.

You think this is amazing:

You play League!