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29 M Arlington, VA

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 21–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Oct 22
Asian, Indian
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Buddhism, and somewhat serious about it
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Japanese (Okay), Italian (Okay), Spanish (Poorly), Chinese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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If life is a road from start to finish, then I'm the dude with a backpack and a machete, blazing my way through the backcountry. I'm a defense policy geek, an epicurean, and a lifelong martial artist with a penchant for running wild through the outdoors.

Having grown up as a foreign service brat, I'm a cultural mutt. My walls are decked with souvenirs from a dozen countries, and my spice cabinet is as representative as a UN conference. I'm a progressive, sex-positive feminist with a penchant for making I Ching predictions and quoting Japanese swordsmen. I feel that scars and flaws, physical and otherwise, are essential to beauty, and that the quality of the stories that a person can tell are the metric for the quality of their life. I'm always on the lookout for strong, opinionated folks who aggressively follow their passions or can at least spin a great yarn.

Important note:
I'm in a committed, non-monogamous relationship with Tess_in_urbem. If this is a problem, kindly do not message me.
What I’m doing with my life
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I moved to the DC area a few years ago, leaving behind a career in the world of business consulting to follow my passion for working in national security. I'm not new to the DMV area, but am glad to be back here and enjoying its gifts.

I love being outdoors and expressing myself physically. Camping, kayaking, trail running, climbing, Crossfit, and full contact medieval sword fighting are regular activities for me. These 90+ degree summers we have? Love em! I'm into the Primal/Paleo lifestyle and try to live it as much as I can, though never to the exclusion of new adventures. One of these days, I'm gonna get picked to be on "Wait wait don't tell me!" on NPR. Just you see.

Intellectually, I'm a jack-of-all-trades. I craft leather, and have lately gotten into acid-etching metal jewelry. When I can find someone up to the challenge, I love to break out the board games - you name it, I'll play it - and blaze through a few rounds. If you can intelligently talk foreign affairs and religion, and relish the feel of the sun on your face, you already have a foot in the door!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Regurgitating trivia or spelling out difficult words with frightening accuracy. I would own on Jeopardy.

Cooking. Mainly Cantonese or Japanese food, but I can put together a mean pasta bolognese or a shakshouka when the mood strikes me and I have an afternoon to myself.

Finding stuff in the Library of Congress. Seriously, that place is amazing. I never thought I'd enjoy being stuck in a library, but after seeing how much amazing stuff is in there, I felt a strong compulsion to get a cable-knit cardigan and spend a weekend researching.

Getting through airport security lines and smooth-talking customs officials. Clooney's character from "Up in the Air" would be proud.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My shoes. Or lack thereof. I saunter around barefoot as often as I can get away with it, and otherwise tend towards the most minimalist footwear that decorum and weather permit. What's ironic is that despite this, I still have a pretty large shoe collection.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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For books, I'm a big fan of soft sci-fi and classic horror:
Robert Heinlein, Philip K. Dick, Neal Stephenson, H.P. Lovecraft, Stephen King, Terry Pratchett, Frank Miller, and Neil Gaiman, George R.R. Martin, for starters.

As for what's really moved me and is still sitting on my shelf:
Starship troopers, Stranger in a strange land, The Ethical Slut, Romance of the three kingdoms, Snow Crash, Watchmen, Sandman, Kitchen Confidential, Sex at Dawn.

For movies, here's my top 10, to date:
1) Gangs of New York
2) Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind
3) Shall we dance (the original Japanese version)
4) Sin City
5) Braveheart
6) V for Vendetta
7) Tae Guk Gi
8) My Sassy Girl
9) Princess Bride
10) Letters from Iwo Jima

TV: Doctor Who, Breaking Bad, Battlestar Galactica, Game of Thrones, Mad Men, Avatar: Last Airbender, and anything by Joss Whedon. This list is non-exhaustive, but I get all my TV from Hulu and Netflix, and I don't tend to watch very much.

Music is a fun category. My favorite Spotify playlists have Billy Idol, Muddy Waters, Jewel, Mumford & Sons, The Eagles, and Iron Maiden. Recently, I've also been gorging myself on Irish and Celtic music, both traditional and modern. I haven't met a genre that I can't appreciate, but I do require some artistry from music for me to enjoy it. It's also a major plus if the song has some fancy guitar fingerpicking or complicated vocals that I can be motivated to learn.

And that brings us to favorite food. This is a rough one, since food is a big thing for me. I'll try to keep the list down:
- A bowl of tempura-udon with strong oolong tea.
- A Tuscan Cabarnet Sauvignon wine with a variety of cheeses, breads, olive oil, prosciutto, and olives
- Fresh seafood, I don't care how it's cooked, though I'm partial to southern Chinese and sashimi.
- Barbecued pork banh mi
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
An abundance of agape
A classy wardrobe
A sharp pocketknife
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Don't think. Do.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Some highlights from the past few months:
- Camping, hiking, and kayaking in Shenandoah
- Karaoke
- Taking an impromptu weekend to NYC to catch a show
- Cuddling in front of the fireplace with the girl, dog, and cat
- In the gym, building up my squat/deadlift/press numbers or doing fun things with kettlebells
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I've gotten into quite a bit of counterculture over the years, and most of my good friends are very non-traditional. "Safe, sane, and consensual" and "ethical polyamory" are bywords I live by.

Also, pedicures are amazing. It's a shame more dudes don't do them. In fact, my girlfriend wants me to paint my toes purple. She hasn't gotten her way... yet.
You should message me if
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- You have joie de vivre! It doesn't matter in what.

- You're not a Disney princess and you're not looking for a Disney prince. I make special exception if you're Mulan or Merida. Those girls are badass.

- You've ever been intrigued by the Paleo lifestyle, follow it, or want to learn more about it. Bonus sexiness points if you lift barbells or do Crossfit.