30 Arlington, VA
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My self-summary
If life is a road from start to finish, then I'm the dude with a backpack and a machete, blazing my way through the backcountry. I'm a defense policy geek, an epicurean, and a lifelong martial artist with a penchant for running wild through the outdoors.

Having grown up as a foreign service brat, I'm a cultural mutt. My walls are decked with souvenirs from a dozen countries, and my spice cabinet is as representative as a UN conference. I'm a progressive, sex-positive feminist with a penchant for making I Ching predictions and quoting Japanese swordsmen. I feel that scars and flaws, physical and otherwise, are essential to beauty, and that the quality of the stories that a person can tell are the metric for the quality of their life. I'm always on the lookout for strong, opinionated folks who aggressively follow their passions or can at least spin a great yarn.
What I’m doing with my life
I love being outdoors and expressing myself physically. Camping, kayaking, trail running, climbing, Crossfit, and full contact medieval sword fighting are regular activities for me. These 90+ degree summers we have? Love em! I'm into the Primal/Paleo lifestyle and try to live it as much as I can, though never to the exclusion of new adventures. One of these days, I'm gonna get picked to be on "Wait wait don't tell me!" on NPR. Just you see.

I'm fascinated with creating things, and dabble obsessively. Leatherworking and jewelry-making are my go-to hobbies, and it's a rare weekend when I don't get spattered by leather dye or metal shavings. I've also been trying to up my woodworking skills with wood-burning and figuring out how to make a snug dovetail join. I love to fail often, fail hard, and try again!
I’m really good at
Regurgitating trivia or spelling out difficult words with frightening accuracy. I would own on Jeopardy.

Cooking. I span the gamut, and demand good mise en place in my kitchen. Over the past year I've been particularly proud of my cassoulets and tagines. My resolution for 2016 is to develop a better eye for presentation, and maybe find ways to make Eastern European cuisine appeal to my palette. Suggestions welcome!
The first things people usually notice about me
My shoes. Or lack thereof. I saunter around barefoot as often as I can get away with it, and otherwise tend towards the most minimalist footwear that decorum and weather permit. What's ironic is that despite this, I still have a pretty large shoe collection.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
For books, I'm a big fan of soft sci-fi and classic horror:
Robert Heinlein, Philip K. Dick, Neal Stephenson, H.P. Lovecraft, Stephen King, Terry Pratchett, Frank Miller, and Neil Gaiman, George R.R. Martin, for starters.

As for what's really moved me and is still sitting on my shelf:
Starship troopers, Stranger in a strange land, The Ethical Slut, Romance of the three kingdoms, Snow Crash, Watchmen, Sandman, Kitchen Confidential, Sex at Dawn.

For movies, here's my top 10, to date:
1) Gangs of New York
2) Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind
3) Shall we dance (the Japanese version)
4) Braveheart
5) Tae Guk Gi
6) The Artist
7) Gran Turino
8) Letters from Iwo Jima
9) Princess Bride
10) The Incredibles

TV: Doctor Who, Breaking Bad, Battlestar Galactica, Game of Thrones, Avatar: The Last Airbender, and anything by Joss Whedon.

Music doesn't jive with me, so let's talk board games:
My go-tos for small gatherings are Pandemic and Carcassonne (Settlers of Cataan is no longer welcome at my house). For parties, I've always enjoyed Curse of the Temple, Cash n Guns, Once Upon a Time, "Aye, Dark Overlord!", Resistance/Werewolf/Mafia, Betrayal at House on the Hill, and pretty much any other co-op game with crazy backstories and a propensity for funny accents. Netrunner has been my latest obsession, and I've been dying to get into Twilight Struggle or other heavier stuff with real life implications.

And that brings us to favorite food. This one's tough, so here goes:
- Tonkatsu. Or katsudon. Or katsu-kare. Just bring on the breaded, fried pork!
- Pasta bolognese. The darkest, reddest, meatiest one we can find, that's been cooking so long that the meat fibers all but dissolve in your mouth.
- Fresh seafood. I don't care how it's cooked, though I'm partial to south Indian fish fry and sashimi.
- Most Vietnamese food fits the bill. Very fond of banh mi and thit nuong. Eden Center is like a second home to me.
The six things I could never do without
An abundance of agape
A classy wardrobe
A sharp pocketknife
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Don't think. Do.
On a typical Friday night I am
Some highlights from the past few months:
- Camping, hiking, and kayaking in Shenandoah
- Karaoke
- Taking an impromptu weekend to North Carolina
- Binge-watching Narcos or The Americans
- In the gym, either moving heavy barbells or spending some quality time in the pool
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've gotten into quite a bit of counterculture over the years, and most of my good friends are very non-traditional. "Safe, sane, and consensual" and "ethical nonmonogamy" are bywords I live by.

I'm a huge fan of pedicures, and painted nails are an occasional pleasure. It's a shame more dudes don't do them.
You should message me if
- You have joie de vivre! It doesn't matter in what.

- You're not a Disney princess and you're not looking for a Disney prince. I make special exception if you're Mulan or Merida. Those girls are badass.

- You've ever been intrigued by the Paleo lifestyle, follow it, or want to learn more about it. Bonus sexiness points if you lift barbells or do Crossfit.