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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 21-40
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 10:50am
Straight, Heteroflexible, Sapiosexual
Asian, Indian
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Buddhism and it’s important
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
Has dogs and Has cats
English (Fluently), Japanese (Somewhat), Italian (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat), Chinese (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
If life is a road from start to finish, then I'm the dude with a backpack and a machete, blazing my way through the backcountry. I'm a defense policy geek, an epicurean, and a lifelong martial artist with a penchant for running wild through the outdoors.

Having grown up as a foreign service brat, I'm a cultural mutt. My walls are decked with souvenirs from a dozen countries, and my spice cabinet is as representative as a UN conference. I'm a progressive, sex-positive feminist with a penchant for making I Ching predictions and quoting Japanese swordsmen. I feel that scars and flaws, physical and otherwise, are essential to beauty, and that the quality of the stories that a person can tell are the metric for the quality of their life. I'm always on the lookout for strong, opinionated folks who aggressively follow their passions or can at least spin a great yarn.

Important note:
I'm in a committed, non-monogamous relationship with Tess_in_urbem. If this is a problem, kindly do not message me. I'm happy to answer questions, if you're curious about what this means to me.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I moved to the DC area a few years ago, leaving behind a career in the world of business consulting to follow my passion for working in national security. I'm not new to the DMV area, but am glad to be back here and enjoying its gifts.

I love being outdoors and expressing myself physically. Camping, kayaking, trail running, climbing, Crossfit, and full contact medieval sword fighting are regular activities for me. These 90+ degree summers we have? Love em! I'm into the Primal/Paleo lifestyle and try to live it as much as I can, though never to the exclusion of new adventures. One of these days, I'm gonna get picked to be on "Wait wait don't tell me!" on NPR. Just you see.

Intellectually, I'm a jack-of-all-trades. I craft leather, and have lately gotten into acid-etching metal jewelry. When I can find someone up to the challenge, I love to break out the board games - you name it, I'll play it. If you can intelligently talk foreign affairs and religion, and relish the feel of the sun on your face, you already have a foot in the door!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Regurgitating trivia or spelling out difficult words with frightening accuracy. I would own on Jeopardy.

Cooking. I span the gamut, and demand good mise en place in my kitchen. Over the past year I've been particularly proud of my cassoulets and tagines. My resolution for 2015 is to develop a better eye for presentation, and maybe find ways to make Eastern European cuisine appeal to my palette. Suggestions welcome!

Obsessing over a new creative venture and then spectacularly abandoning it once the first project is finished.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My shoes. Or lack thereof. I saunter around barefoot as often as I can get away with it, and otherwise tend towards the most minimalist footwear that decorum and weather permit. What's ironic is that despite this, I still have a pretty large shoe collection.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
For books, I'm a big fan of soft sci-fi and classic horror:
Robert Heinlein, Philip K. Dick, Neal Stephenson, H.P. Lovecraft, Stephen King, Terry Pratchett, Frank Miller, and Neil Gaiman, George R.R. Martin, for starters.

As for what's really moved me and is still sitting on my shelf:
Starship troopers, Stranger in a strange land, The Ethical Slut, Romance of the three kingdoms, Snow Crash, Watchmen, Sandman, Kitchen Confidential, Sex at Dawn.

For movies, here's my top 10, to date:
1) Gangs of New York
2) Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind
3) Shall we dance (the Japanese version)
4) Braveheart
5) Tae Guk Gi
6) The Artist
7) Gran Turino
8) Letters from Iwo Jima
9) Princess Bride
10) The Incredibles

TV: Doctor Who, Breaking Bad, Battlestar Galactica, Game of Thrones, Avatar: The Last Airbender, and anything by Joss Whedon.

Music doesn't jive with me, so let's talk board games:
My go-tos for small gatherings are Pandemic and Carcassonne (Settlers of Cataan is no longer welcome at my house). For parties, I've always enjoyed Curse of the Temple, Cash n Guns, Once Upon a Time, "Aye, Dark Overlord!", Resistance/Werewolf/Mafia, and pretty much any other co-op game with crazy backstories and a propensity for funny accents. Netrunner has been my latest obsession, and I've been dying to get into Twilight Struggle or other heavier stuff with real life implications.

And that brings us to favorite food. This one's tough, so here goes:
- Tonkatsu. Or katsudon. Or katsu-kare. Just bring on the breaded, fried pork!
- Pasta bolognese. The darkest, reddest, meatiest one we can find, that's been cooking so long that the meat fibers all but dissolve in your mouth.
- Fresh seafood. I don't care how it's cooked, though I'm partial to south Indian fish fry and sashimi.
- Most Vietnamese food fits the bill. Very fond of banh mi and thit nuong. Eden Center is like a second home to me.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
An abundance of agape
A classy wardrobe
A sharp pocketknife
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Don't think. Do.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Some highlights from the past few months:
- Camping, hiking, and kayaking in Shenandoah
- Karaoke
- Taking an impromptu weekend to NYC to catch a show
- Cuddling in front of the fireplace with the girl, dog, and cat
- In the gym, either moving heavy barbells or spending some quality time in the pool
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I've gotten into quite a bit of counterculture over the years, and most of my good friends are very non-traditional. "Safe, sane, and consensual" and "ethical polyamory" are bywords I live by.

I'm a huge fan of pedicures, and painted nails are an occasional pleasure. It's a shame more dudes don't do them.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
- You have joie de vivre! It doesn't matter in what.

- You're not a Disney princess and you're not looking for a Disney prince. I make special exception if you're Mulan or Merida. Those girls are badass.

- You've ever been intrigued by the Paleo lifestyle, follow it, or want to learn more about it. Bonus sexiness points if you lift barbells or do Crossfit.