27 Rochester, NY
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My self-summary
I'm not one to talk about myself but I do find it a fascinating subject. I am often a pretty quiet person but that's because my mind is always racing on a dozen different topics. When I find a topic or person interesting, I can talk for hours about it.
I love life even when it drags me to my knees and I want to experience as much of it as I can. Because of this I tend to say yes to pretty much everything. Whatever it is, I'll give it a shot and see where it goes from there. I am also quite whimsical and known to jump into things that catch my interest without putting much thought into it first.
I work a lot and i am currently trying to find a little more balance in my life. When I set a goal I tend to stubbornly barrel forward towards it to the point of self destruction. This is a flaw I've been working on for a while.
I am very sarcastic and tend to be a bit of a contrarian. This is another thing I've been working on because I sometimes find myself fighting against something simply because it's popular. I do love to play devils advocate though abs that will never change. I love a good discussion on really any topic and it's no fun when it's just an echo chamber. My opinions are very fluid and I'm always open to new ideas but if you are going to change my mind I'm going to make you work for it. There are few things I find more attractive in an individual is someone who can consistently challenge me. Also someone who realizes that not every question has an answer. Sometimes the value is in the discussion itself.

That's all you get for now but I'm sure I'll add to this a bit more in the future.
What I’m doing with my life
Right now I'm just enjoying the summer while it's still here. Life is a little bit up in the air right now but for the first time in a long time, I'm not really stressing about it. I'm in the process of a career change after finally realizing working 80 hour, 7 day weeks isn't what I really want to do with my life. I'll always be someone that works a lot but I'm looking to find a little more balance in my life. At the moment I'm just working on getting the new manager up to speed before I turn the office over to him and move on.
Other than work, I spend a lot of time with my family down in the southern tier, out on the lake and just hanging out by the fire with friends.
I’m really good at
I'm a really adaptable person. Whether it's a new city, new country, new job or just a new group of people, I'm comfortable in pretty much any situation. I actually like putting myself in situations where I have to push out of my comfort zone a bit.
It's along those same lines but I am also very good at finding the positives in any situation. I'd like to think I'm a realist but realistically I'm more of an optimist. I can normally see the negitive but have never seem the point in letting things you can't control bring you down. The secret to life is that no matter your situation, you're the only one that controls your happiness.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Current top 5 books in no particular order:
Into Thin Air by Jon Krakauer
Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy by Douglas Adams
How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
Animal Farm by George Orwell
Jonathon Strange & Mr. Norrell by Suzanne Clark
I read a lot of fantasy books mixed in with a lot of the classics. I also have a select group of people who's judgement I trust absolutely so I read pretty much anything they recommend.

Movies and TV are always up in the air as favorites change pretty regularly and I'll watch almost everything. I do have some staple shows such as Breaking Bad, Game of thrones, it's always sunny, Louie and community.

I have music on every opportunity I get and the type varies wildly based on the occasion. The one that always has a chance of being on no matter the occasion is classic rock. The top of the list being:
Tom Petty
The beatles
Jack Johnson
Dave Matthews
Barefoot truth
The six things I could never do without
Nature- At this point in my life I do prefer to live in the city, I would actually prefer a significantly bigger city at that, but I'm still a country boy at heart. I grew up hiking, climbing trees and laying out under the stars and no matter where I go, I always have to have access to that.

Friends- I do like to fly solo and go off adventuring on my own but life is just more fun when you have like minded people to share it with.

Family- I travel a lot so I often find myself far from home and may or may not even end up settling in the area but my family will always be one of the most important things in my life.

Home base- While I love being social and keeping busy, I'm still quite introverted. Eventually the batteries run out and I need to be able to retreat to a place where I can clear my head and reenergize.

Adventure- Life gets boring when everything becomes stable and normal. I want to experience everything I can in this worldwhile I'm here. Life begins at the edge of your comfort zone.

Books- They are how I relax, they challenge by beliefs, they expand my mind, they take me on journeys to far off places, they make me laugh and they make me cry. Even though I go through periods when I don't have the time for books that I would like, they permeate every level of my life and life wouldn't be the same without them.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I have a hard time calming my mind down. My mind tends to jump from topic to topic very regularly. I like to think about world affairs and how those same affairs might be perceived by different people around the world. I also really like to think about different traits or behaviors, in myself and others, and track them back to how they might have developed. I also like tackling the important questions like what is the meaning of life, why are we here and who would win in a fight, a polar bear or a Siberian tiger?
On a typical Friday night I am
Anything from going to the bar with friends to cuddling up on the couch with a book or movie to camping in the mountains.
You should message me if
You have something interesting to say. I'm not one for small talk but I like talking about pretty much anything. Tell me about something I know nothing about. Ask me about something you are interested in knowing about me.Tell me about something that you find fascinating. Ask me about something you've always wanted to know even though it may have nothing to do with me.
I'm pretty easy to talk to, just give it a shot.