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25 F Concord, NC

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5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Not at all
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Working on university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm a nerdy, introverted, dog-loving writer who should really spend more time writing and less time teaching the dogs how to do back-stalls and drop-on-recalls. I'm working on knitting a patchwork blanket of Doctor Who quotes. As of August 2014, my obsessions-du-jour are urban homesteading, digital painting, dog sports and binge-watching Fringe.

Did I mention dogs yet? Dogs. I spend a lot of time with dogs. Dog training is kind of my thing. My dogs are pretty much the coolest thing in the universe. Haven (the white aussie) is fully deaf, partially blind, and creepily brilliant. She makes dog training feel like honest-to-god magic sometimes. Coda (the darker aussie) is the "clever, lovable goof" type, and the closest thing I have to a best friend. Independence (the sheltie puppy) is clever, patient, enthusiastic and utterly fearless. Training with my dogs is one of my greatest joys in life, and also something that I geek out over a lot. (No, really, a LOT.)

I am fascinated by geek culture, but I seem to enjoy it vicariously more than directly. I like to spend time with people who are really involved in geek culture and I like to spend time on the periphery of it, but rarely feel comfortable actually partaking of the nerdery. That said, I play a handful of truly terrible video games that you've never heard of (yes, they're really that bad, and no, you've really never heard of them), and I can geek out about Doctor Who or Dragonriders of Pern with the best of them. I've also intermittently played a dog show simulation game for the past decade and show no signs of stopping.

My house flooded a few months back and I am currently living in a garage. I have chosen to view this as an ~adventure~ instead of a massive inconvenience. I had better be getting some serious experience points for this.

I've written novels, taught a rat to shake hands, spun yarn from dog fur and made dinosaur noises during sex (for the record: he started it). I am a proud creature, but I have a healthy dose of flailing idiot running around in my head, too. I don't like being trapped in any single worldview, be it silly or serious, masculine or feminine, old or young, hatefully misanthropic or irrepressibly idealistic. I like to play puppets with life and I adore people who will match me without question in any emotional arena we happen to stumble upon.
What I’m doing with my life
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In theory, I am writing. In reality, I am pressing refresh on some meaningless corner of the web. And most of the time, I am at least somewhat capable of feeling guilty about that.

Right now, my big focus is on training Independence, my service dog candidate. We're still working on the basics so far. He's only four months old as of mid-August and won't be fully trained until around two years, so we have a ways to go, but I have high hopes for this pup.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing, dog training and leaning new things are my favorite ways to entertain myself.

I'm really good at lateral thinking and really bad at having common sense.

Canine body language is typically easier for me to read than human body language.

I can spout random trivia with the best of them.

I am a clicker-training evangelist and I am probably judging you by your dog's food.

I'm astoundingly talented at picking up a new hobby, deciding it's Absolutely My Goal In Life For Realz This Time, obsessing over it for about three weeks and abruptly losing interest.

I am a champion at having panic attacks over things which should not be panic-inducing.
The first things people usually notice about me
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If I'm out with my dogs, people notice Coda, Haven and Indi long before they notice me. But (if you'll excuse the mommy-pride) my dogs are fascinating and totally deserve the lion's share of the attention.

Ignoring the obvious physical features because you have eyes and I have several photos posted, people notice the dissonance in my maturity level pretty quickly. Upon first meeting, I usually present myself as a goofy, spontaneous child, but I'm told that it rapidly becomes clear that this impishness is by choice rather than by nature.

My dogs are sometimes dyed highlighter pink and electric blue, so there's that, too.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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General Books Preferences: When I'm reading a book, I want to crawl inside someone else's head and feel everything they feel, as sharply as I'm able to feel it. If I don't feel like I've been through an emotional cheese-grater after I finish a book, it probably wasn't a very good read.

Favorite fiction authors: Robin Hobb, Patrick Rothfuss, Anne McCaffrey (because I grew up in the Dragonriders of Pern fandom), Brandon Sanderson, John Scalzi, George R. R. Martin, Marion Zimmer Bradley, Sherwood Smith.

Favorite non-fiction authors: John Scalzi's blog, Coyne and Knutzen of Root Simple, Chris Baty (No Plot? No Problem!).

Favorite dog-related authors: Karen Pryor, Kathy Sdao, Patricia McConnell, Jean Donaldson (although I used to hate her), Debbie Jacobs, Laura VanArendonk Baugh.

Do not message me if you enjoy reading: Cesar Millan, Brad Pattison, Monks of New Skete, anything from Leerburg, anything Natural Horsemanship.

Television: Doctor Who. I lived under a cultural rock until about five years ago, so I'm struggling to catch up on TV shows and movies that everyone else takes for granted. If I seem more than slightly culturally ignorant, be patient. Other shows I enjoy: The IT Crowd, Sherlock, Superfetch, Bokurano, Heroes, Alphas, Fringe, Battlestar Galactica, Code Geass, Higurashi No Naku Koro Ni, Umeneko No Naku Koro Ni, It's Me Or The Dog, Elfin Lied, Star Trek: The Next Generation (I am going to marry Jean-Luc Picard and/or Sir Patrick Stewart. It's going to happen).

Movies: Anything I can rent from TawzerDog, The Invisible, Dr. Horrible's Singalong Blog, Crash, Repo: The Genetic Opera, Perfume: The Story of a Murderer, Spirit: Stallion of the Cimarron, The Fox and the Hound, generally anything that makes me cry.

Music: I think I'm the only person on earth who has managed to survive 23 years without scrapping together a genuine musical preference of my own. I listen to the local rock station because I need noise while I'm driving and I listen to industrial as the musical equivalent of comfort food, but I don't really have my own musical niche yet. Maybe eventually. At current, I'm equally happy listening to genCAB or Death Cab For Cutie, Sick Puppies or Skinny Puppy, miscellaneous j-pop and Simon and Garfunkel, Rise Against and God Module. I am not-so-secretly in love with Vertical Horizon, but there are several stories behind that. 80's music is my work music, because apparently I like to dance to Journey and Mr. Mister when I'm hanging out with the dogs.

Nerd Preferences:
10th Doctor, Rory/River/Amy, Jaime Lannister, Ravenclaw, Picard, archer class/ranged-weaponry class (or equivalent INT/DEX/SPD builds), dragons, shapeshifters, hellhounds, time travel, telepathic animals/bond-creatures/familiars, fantasy stories that involve a military academy.

Dog-Nerd Preferences:
Herding breeds, shelties, double merles/deaf dogs, clicker training/force-free training, LAT, Emily Larlham/Kikopup (also on my list of people to marry someday), Karen Pryor, Kathy Sdao, Susan Garrett, Grisha Stewart, Patricia McConnell. Looking for like-minded dog trainers in the area -- I have a serious shortage of trainer friends. I can offer a decoy dog or person for positively trained reactivity work or a training buddy. Would especially love to meet any other local SD handlers.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) Writing/reading/communication.
2) My dogs/dogs in general
3) The internet.
4) Moral questions to chew on
5) Doctor Who.
6) Introspection.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I've spent more time hammering out my moral code than most people I know. I'm not personally religious, so I don't have some external guide that I can point to and say "This is what morality looks like." I've spent a lot of time worrying about what I consider right and how that interacts with the world on a day-to-day basis. I chew on the conflict between loyalty and duty a lot, and how anxiety/fear seems to be the antithesis of morality.

I question the function and validity of systems a lot, from the higher education system to industrial agriculture to the relationship dynamic in my household. I like to make things more efficient and build patterns and connect things.

And obviously I spend a huge amount of time thinking about dog training.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
On a typical Friday night, I'm sitting at home with my dogs. I check the various pieces of my internet presence: email, Facebook, OkCupid, the blogs, whatever. I'm usually listening to an audiobook while I poke around the internet, or maybe casually knitting something while I listen to a podcast. If it's still light outside, I'll try to play frisbee with my dogs for a little while. If not, we'll play fetch around the house. If I still have enough energy left, I'll write a bit on my current novel before giving up on it for the millionth time and trying in vain to find some other career path.

In short, my typical Friday night is exactly like my typical every-other-night, and it involves me being home, entertaining myself quietly.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I almost drove off the road once because I saw a large blue box in a field and thought it was the Tardis. Reality: Portajohn.
You should message me if
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You should message me if you have a lot to say and no one to say it to.

You should message me if you want to talk about dogs, writing, reading, Doctor Who, Dragonriders of Pern or any flavor of nerdiness that you find appealing.

I love to learn, and it would be totally appropriate to give me a lecture about something you find fascinating. It would be okay to launch into a completely random lecture with no preliminary introduction -- if you're passionate about it, I'll manage to keep up my end of the conversation. I also love to ask and answer abstract questions, so questions like "What is your general impression of Tuesday?" would also be acceptable content for a first-contact message.

You should message me if writing a letter to another living person would make you feel less bored and alone, because goodness knows there's enough boredom and loneliness in this world without anyone willingly compounding it.

You should message me if you are willing to teach me about aquaculture.

You should message me if you are a force-free dog trainer and want a training-buddy.