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42 F New York, NY

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Last Online
Today – 8:30am
Hispanic / Latin, White
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Has kids
English (Fluently), Portuguese (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), French (Okay), Hebrew (Okay)

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My self-summary
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We are a couple; we love each other and ethical non-monogamy.

We are here on OkCupid seeking a smart, sexy, and fun woman or couple to join us for hot and playful adventures. If we become friends, that's even better. We are super sensual and happily committed to each other. Together we explore expansive, new situations that strengthen our own connection and intimacy. Let's approach this in a spirit of friendship. We can take it slowly; we certainly want to get to know you.

Girlfriends, your attention, please: beneath my silver fox's unassuming good looks and gorgeous curls lies the most sizzling lover and kindest man I have ever been with. The perfect combination of sensitivity and assertiveness. That is saying a lot.*
What I’m doing with my life
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He is Brazilian, from Rio de Janeiro, has a degree in Civil Engineering, and worked for more than a decade in finance. Now he works in a more soul-satisfying career as a film and television actor. He is also a firefighter. Father of three incredible boys, foodie, fan of film and TV, traveler, very affectionate, easy going, funny, sporty, and outdoorsy. He loves playing soccer, kayaking, and driving powerful cars. Feeling youthful and acting mature, he is relied upon by many as a responsible, helpful man. My boyfriend speaks Portuguese, among many other languages. Pisces.
According to me: super sexy, strong, kind, elegant - my best lover ever

I'm a hippy kid from backwoods Maine turned art museum curator. There are interesting twists and turns to that story, if you are curious. Scorpio.
According to him: beautiful body and energy, very hot, incredible blue eyes – his best lover ever

We summer in Maine and live in Manhattan the rest of the year.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
We have enjoyed award-winning threesomes, foursomes, and moresomes and want to keep learning by experimenting further. I loved being a unicorn for about a year, decades ago. (I was in my twenties, she was in her thirties, and he was in his forties.) We know how to navigate this complex situation, with all its excitement and, for some, worries. We are good communicators and would gladly talk through any questions you may have before diving in. We can be very discreet.

*Recently, regarding his oral skills, a lovely woman (after a 15 year lesbian relationship) said that he should teach a class. Yep. Let's just say that he is very popular at adult play parties.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That we are smart and down-to-earth. We put them at ease and we all laugh. And then there's that mischievous look in our eyes and sparks that set the curtains on fire... (Luckily he's a firefighter.)

I was told by a new woman friend that I have "a voracious sexual appetite." [Blushing.]
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.

My favorites are Hélio Oiticica, Lygia Clark, and Felix Gonzalez-Torres monographs. He reads sci-fi and mistery novels as well as the New York Times and many other periodicals.


A wide range of music that makes me dance. These days I especially like Juana Molina, Mala Rodríguez, Cornelius, Los Van Van. Hats off to Caetano Veloso, now and always. What about you, my sweet?
Me? I like all Brazilian music (especially Bossa Nova), rock (Led Zep), Beatles, Muse, and some other alt bands.


I love mango, avocado, maracuya, well seasoned lentils, and homemade wholewheat bread with homemade butter. He is a foodie with a soft spot for seafood.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Touching each other
Rio de Janeiro
Talking dirty
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Gender fluidity.

How not to come across here as pervy sex addicts since we feel like healthy, sex-loving adventurers.

He wonders when he'll be recognized on the subway or on the streets by a fellow OKCupidian.

"her seven button
three undone"
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
We are together, making anyone who knows what we are doing blush. One curious friend begged for action shots. We obliged.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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That is advanced. If you are open minded, see if you can get it out of us.
I’m looking for
  • Bi girls only
  • Ages 25–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
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You are interested in actually meeting as opposed to just extended sexting.

You're a woman who would like to be the center of attention on a date with a loving, open-minded, happy couple. No pressure or drama.

You're a sex-positive couple who would like to connect with us on a friendship level or just for play.

You are an intellectual who questions intellectualism in interesting ways or are otherwise refreshingly smart.