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33 Bloomington, IL Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 26–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Apr 12
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body type
Mostly vegetarian
Not at all
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Doesn’t want kids
Likes cats
English, Spanish (Poorly), C++ (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
This is just way too long.

After five years in Seattle and a long summer in northern San Diego county, I have returned to the Midwest for a bit to spend time with family. Other than this paragraph, I have made no effort whatsoever to make my profile current.

I would probably classify as nerdy based on my interests and curiosities, but I've got tattoos, and used to have piercings and motorcycles. I've lived in a vegetarian dance commune, but I'm not a hippie. I've made money building computers and websites, but I dance and teach movement. I grew up on the East Coast, but was born and went to college in the Mid-West, and now I live in Washington State. I am equally smitten by the library and REI. I have a wide array of handy-person type skills that are primarily self-taught. I am very outgoing and sociable, but frequently live the lifestyle of an introvert. I don't particularly think any of this makes me special.

I teach, I read, I dance. I bicycle (a lot) and like to explore Seattle. I go to museums, movies, and shows, often alone. I love cooking excellent food for dinner parties or just for myself. I try to frequent the symphony and Town Hall, which sounds awfully pretentious. I listen to NPR a lot. I'm totally into board games and the occasional card game. I very much enjoy outdoorsy things (kayaking, hiking, etc), but do not pursue them as a lifestyle; a few times a year is wholly adequate for my personal needs, though I am unopposed to more frequent excursions. I have VERY recently started to do some (indoor) bouldering, and am not yet sold on whether I want to allow it to take over as much of my life as seems common for people who do such things.

I sold my Jeep and motorcycle and now bicycle full time. I can't even TELL you how much I love not owning a car. ( edit - not having a car is much more enjoyable on the west coast than it is in central Illinois ) I once smoked and drank, but don't now. I don't care whether other people do or not. I like to take pictures, and sometimes I think I'm good at it. I like coffee, but I probably like tea more. I love having dinner parties, ideally of the potluck variety. I have a number of house plants, and they are important to me.

At 32, I don't make too much money and am noticeably starting to lose some hair. Alternatively, I'm educated, I've got beliefs, I've cooked professionally, and I own a massage table. Got to pick your battles I suppose.

If you are a power-career person or life-long academic, we'd probably get along well. If you also need your friends or partner to be, then it's much less likely. I've got a number of ambitions and variably well-defined goals, however it doesn't seem that the paths to them inherently result in a stack of either degrees or money. At least, not at present.

I. Love. Ice Cream.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
In terms of work, until recently I was splitting my time between doing some Android phone app development, managing a sustainable/organic sandwich shop, and teaching the Alexander Technique.

More on that last bit:

Right now I'm drifting a bit, in a state of transition, and it has yet to become clear in what direction I am drifting or at what point I will pick up speed. I'm okay with this; I find it valuable to sometimes grant myself space away from goals so that I can regain some perspective.

I opted out of an education and future career in computers and engineering to pursue expressive movement and holistic health. I still sometimes dabble in building websites and smartphone apps as a hobby. I source my identity from a variety of different things, and staying in the food industry has worked well for that. It is something I enjoy and am good at, and allows me the flexibility and energy to pursue other things as well.The past couple of years I've been focusing more on the sustainable and/or organic and/or vegan field. I'd like it if it paid triple what it does, but then, who wouldn't.

I recently bought a nice camera, and have been enjoying getting back into photography.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking, teaching, listening, having fun in relatively calm situations. Decorating. Sewing. (Really. In high school I was the director of our theatre department's costume and makeup crew)

Going for exceedingly long walks. Making curtains. Reading for long periods of time. Rapidly switching between conversation topics. Being active. Asking questions. Blending teas. Fixing things. Recommending books. Explaining cosmological models. Building custom plant arrangements and light fixtures.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I sit up straight.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Any and all books. Non-fiction is lovely.

As for books... The Gone-Away World, The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle, Surely you're joking Mr. Feynman!, Life After God, Daemon, The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier and Clay, White Noise, Leviathan Wakes, A Prayer for Owen Meany, Lullaby, The Information, A Picture of Dorian Gray, The Weathermakers, The God of Small Things, The Time Travelers Wife, House of Leaves, Crime and Punishment, This Side of Paradise, The Beautiful and Damned, The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, Post Office, Catch 22, Stiff, Bonk, Infinite Jest, A Supposedly Fun Thing I'll Never Do Again, The Great Bridge, Naked, His Dark Materials, Harry Potter, Jitterbug Purfume, 100 Years of Solitude, The Sirens of Titan, A Walk in the Woods, A Brief History of Nearly Everything, Guns Germs and Steel, In Defense of Food, Woman: An Intimate Geography, The Sword of the Samurai Cat, Sandman, American Gods, Neverwhere, oh so many others.

Movies: All things Miyazaki, The Fifth Element, I Heart Huckabees, WALL-E, Dirty Dancing, Aliens, High Fidelity, V for Vendetta, Match Point, Take the Money and Run, Drugstore Cowboy, The Professional, Brazil, Bringing Out The Dead, Dark City, Indiana Jones and the Raiders of the Lost Ark, Blade Runner, Melancholia, The City of Lost Children, There Will Be Blood, Zombieland, Rushmore, The Big Lebowski, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Pi, The Fountain, Blue Velvet, Edward Scissorhands, anything with spaceships.

TV: I don't have a TV or cable, but I like Game of Thrones and The Colbert Report, and Sherlock, and occasionally catch and episode of Castle. I watch a lot of BBC Horizon. I have an external hard drive with over 500GB of documentaries and educational programming. Does Dr. Horrible's Sing-Along Blog count as TV? Adventure Time! Oh, and True Blood. That's right, True Blood.

Music: ABBA, Alkaline Trio, Bach, Beatles, Ben Harper, Bob Dylan, CAKE, Cat Stevens, Chopin, Creedence, David Bowie, Etta James, Janis Joplin, Journey, KC and the Sunshine Band, Kate Miller-Heidke, Keith Jarrett (1970s), Lana Del Rey, Les Miserables, Ludovico Einaudi, Michael Jackson, Mozart, Neil Young, Norah Jones, Oscar Peterson, Philip Glass, Phish (yes, I know, deal with it), Pippin, Prince, Regina Spektor, R.E.M., Rilo Kiley, Queen, Rent, Rolling Stones, Sublime, They Might Be Giants, Tom Petty, Tommy Flanagan, Toto, Violent Femmes, Vivaldi, Wilco, Wu-Tang, Yann Tiersen

Food: risotto, pizza, stir-fry, baked casseroles, quinoa, kale, really delicious cheese, anything with portabella mushrooms, broccoli, stir fry, ice cream, balsamic vinegar, anything I don't already know how to cook, Thai, Indian, etc

Doctor. Who.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A Leatherman (or similar multitool)
Pleasant Smelling Candles
More garlic.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What I should make for dinner, how to stay alive and awake, what I should read next, and the variable degree to which we do or do not have choice over who we are and what we are like.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Probably being boring. Cooking dinner listening to NPR, then curling up with a book and a cup of tea. Or at a play, or dance performance, or possibly a movie. Maybe swimming. Euchre? Scrabble.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I miss taking math classes.
I've watched more anime than I openly broadcast.
I was in marching band in high school and I LOVED IT.

Actually, those are perhaps just vaguely embarrassing, not private.

I have physical flaws, and occasionally make bad choices. I have faults, weaknesses, and vulnerabilities that balance my strengths. I'd ideally like to meet people who accept such realities, in themselves and in others.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You see emails and text messages as a way of getting around to having real conversations.

You don't think it's weird to get dinner or go to movies alone with people you aren't sleeping with and aren't trying to sleep with.

As a feminist, I am bothered by people who confuse equality with the idea that men and women actually are (or should be) exactly the same. As a guy not overtly motivated by social competition and career ascendency, I can find myself challenged by people who have difficulty acknowledging that sexism is a street which runs both ways.