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40 M Seattle, WA

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  • Ages 30–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 14
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Strictly other
Other, and laughing about it
Working on Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I have been all over the world and I love traveling. I try to keep that perspective even when I'm not someplace new. Having a mind open to new experiences and being ready to see the world from other perspectives is so much more fun than the mind of a jaded local. Why should a spirit of adventure only come out when I go out of town?

I have done cool and impossible things for a living, mostly in the context of education. I built a bike armada for the after school program I ran. Then I learned how to fix all the bikes, then I helped teach the kids. I have organized numerous circuses, talent shows, and hula hoop performances. I helped 600+ kids have an amazing night of fun with their folks while learning math. Now I'm in school again to learn more about everything so I can do even bigger and more impossible things. Like save learning from bad educations, and make schools welcoming to ALL parents.

I have been in Seattle for enough years to forget that sunshine can be normal. When I go home to Berkeley and it is sunny even in October I am utterly confused about why I left. Then I get back and am all lovey dovey for Seattle again and its vegan donuts and amazing radio. I love Seattle and its dive karaoke bars, coffee shops, and extremely wide range of weird and cool and artistically brilliant. I'm really a city person. Though I've been outdoors sometimes. In fact, last summer I went on an epic camping road trip up the CA coast with my boys. I didn't know I liked camping so much! Now I want to do more!

I have tremendous nerd pride and love being unabashedly curious and enthusiastic about all kinds of things. I have been told that I am a nerd shell wrapped around a center of cool. Fooled them I did! Sure, there's social graces, physical coordination, and even basic grooming underneath that avid enthusiasm for Dr. Who and Firefly, but under that...
What I’m doing with my life
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I get to learn things for a living and it is AWESOME!!! Seriously, I'm a full time PhD student studying learning sciences and I kind of can't believe my good luck about that. I am also a dad and get to have my kids half time- week on, week off. Weeks with my boys are a whirlwind of awesome and I won't have as much time for dating unless you are free for lunch. Weeks without them are a different kind of whirlwind of awesome with many different options for fun and homework.

I am fascinated by people and am always happy to meet new ones. I like spending time with people who bring their sense of wonder with them.

I am an avid martial artist (aikido) and social dancer (blues, swing & salsa).

Frequently you'll find me in coffee shops or select quiet dive bar with headphones on reading, writing and people watching.
I’m really good at
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Being bad at really cool stuff until I am good at it!

We call that learning! In fact, every now and then I try to find a new thing to be really bad at until I'm good at it and this makes me happy.

My current thing to be really bad at until I'm really good at it is Lindy Hop. I'm trading a friend aikido lessons for Lindy lessons and practicing as much as possible.

Things I have been REALLY bad at: (and now do well)
Blues Dancing
Playing the bass (especially blues and soul music)
Cooking for folks with weird allergies (like me)
Fiddling with bikes (I am still a little bad at this, but undaunted)
The first things people usually notice about me
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If someone notices me first, I have failed as a ninja and must commit seppuku.
When the smoke clears, they usually notice I am kind and have a good sense of humor. I laugh a lot.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Lately I've been really into "Complementary Methods of Educational Research" Man! It's a page turner!! All 1000 pages. I sneak away and read pulpy sci-fi when it's not looking though.

I'm always reading Free Play by Stephen Nachmanovitch. It is about improvisation in art and life and inspires me greatly.

My favorite music is almost everything. Especially blues, soul, funk and vintage jazz. I used to think I hated electronic music, then I heard Electro-Swing and changed my mind. When I was young and cool I played in a ska/punk band and still have a soft spot for that. I love almost every kind of music though. Except commercial hip-hop. I hate commercial hip hop. The misogyny and materialism make my blood boil.
And now you know what my 8th grader's favorite music is!

Movies... Hmmm with a name like WhatwouldYodado? you'll never guess. Pretty much the standard nerd cannon. I also like martial arts movies, zombedies and have been working through the Marx Bros. movies with my boys. I will enjoy anything though, except icky-patriarchal rom/coms and tender, heart-wrenching dramas. Unless there is kung-fu.

oh, the best movie ever is called The Miami Connection.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Moving creatively
Things to learn about
My boys (9&13)
A zombie plan
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.

Playing blues and soul on my bass


What life might be like for other people. I'm always curious about that.

What is different about learning to dance with live music vs. recorded music.

What to cook on my twig burning stove from the future.

Holistic education and social and emotional learning in and out of school settings. Sometimes I think about this for kids too.

Lately I have been both astounded and delighted by all my good fortune (too much to list here) and utterly fascinated by the idea of luck. I don't believe in luck as an attribute people have or don't, yet here I am having the kind of life I can't take all the credit for nor can I simply write off to privilege (though I am aware I have a lot of that too). So many things fall into place beyond the explanation of my circumstances, my good planning or my optimistic nature. Gratitude seems to make such a difference for how things work out... What do you believe about luck?

Still more school.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Surfing waves of chaos on a sea of awesome.
Or it's movie night with my kids and we are watching something nerdy and ridiculous.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Ask me about jump-starting my car that one time.
You should message me if
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One or more of the following is true:

You love trying new things and introducing people to new things.

You have things in your life you are extremely excited about.

You are up to good things and are good at what you do.

You have ever considered running off and joining the circus. (if you HAVE run off and joined the circus, say hi to all my friends!)

You are bad-ass enough to message first. I like that. Stars are lovely, messages are impressive.

You haven't been to The Hummingbird yet.