If you don’t take online dating seriously, get out of online dating.
I am extremely pissed that OKC has chosen to remove "mandatory" as an importance level on match questions, I view this as a deterioration of quality on the site, but it is still the best dating site available.
If I’ve addressed a topic I consider important, I am not going to be nice about any attempt you make to lower my standards.
I am a polyamorous femmegeek tomboy hybrid, I LOVE comic book conventions (I've been attending Philly Wizard World since 2008, Wicked Faire since 2008 or 2009, and Dorian's Parlor since June 2010; Steampunk World's Fair 2013, and Gilded Festival 2013, I'm passionate about steampunk. I will be attending Atlanta Poly Weekend in June 2014, I hope to see you there!
In case you missed it, I am polyamorous, I'm not into swinging or cuckolding. I am in a serious, loving, committed, non-monogamous relationship with my fiance wfenza, I live with him and his amazing wife arcati101. If this bothers or intimidates you, take this into consideration because this is the long term arrangement. What you should be thinking about is what you have to offer, I like variety but I also enjoy having a lot of what I like- in the words of Madonna/Breathless Mahoney "I'm so happy with what I got, I want more!".
On a good day I can quote Albert Einstein, Marilyn Monroe, and Gloria Steinem, on a not so good day well I guess it's Animal House and Ren & Stimpy. I like camping, hiking, and the outdoors, but if the Charmin bears aren't shitting in the woods neither am I.
I love storytelling; good communication* is something I do not take lightly- I have much to say and I am never impressed by those who have nothing to say. I love the arts- literature, music, museums, theater- especially theater, I pine for the stage.
I'm a skeptic, but if there's going to be a revolution, I hope it's a Bohemian one, because I'm willing to fight for Freedom, Beauty, Truth, and Love.
I am looking for quality boyfriend material, someone who has time to date and is open to having a relationship.
I'm looking for non-hierarchical, loving relationships with men who are confident, fun, honest, and articulate; I get along well with female partners/metamours who are also confident and honest, and who are good-natured toward other women- I practice polyamory that allows all partners involved to experience the full spectrum of physical and emotional attachment- no second-class partners, no power trips, no assuming that we are unique credits to our gender and "other" men/women are awful.
Mystery and anonymity are turn offs.
For the D&Ders out there- I am looking for a man wants someone to quest with not someone he will quest for, I want to be your partner, another adventurer in your party, not the quest giver and not the damsel in distress. I don't need a man with a hero complex and a misguided, outdated sense of "honor".
*I define "good communication" as: carefully considered articulation of one's thoughts, plans, feelings, and opinions; complete honesty and full disclosure, no semantic loopholes and clear standards of definitions for words and concepts; direct statements that provide clear answers, especially about things that you do/not want to do, I prefer candor over roundabout excuses that I have to translate to be considerate of you.