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WickedMuse13

29 F Philadelphia, PA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 2:49pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Height
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism
Sign
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Dropped out of university
Job
Other
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Has dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Sign Language (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am not concise, I talk a lot.
I only want to talk to people who are positive about online dating, if you think the percentages, match questions, writing messages or other practical functions of the site are negligible then we aren't compatible.
I want the "Mandatory" option to return in the match question options, if you have any connections to the site who could make that happen, it would greatly improve the quality of the site and my experience here.
If I’ve addressed a topic I consider important, I am not going to be nice about any attempt you make to lower my standards.

I am a polyamorous femmegeek tomboy hybrid, I LOVE comic book conventions (I've been attending Philly Wizard World since 2008, Wicked Faire since 2008 or 2009, and Dorian's Parlor since June 2010; Steampunk World's Fair 2013, and Gilded Festival 2013, I'm passionate about steampunk. I will be attending Beyond the Love in November 2014, I hope to see you there!

In case you missed it, I am polyamorous, I'm not into swinging or cuckolding. I am in a serious, loving, committed, non-monogamous relationship with my "husband" (nope, not legal) wfenza, I live with him and his amazing wife arcati101. If this bothers or intimidates you, take this into consideration because this is the long term arrangement. I have also recently embarked on the adventure of dating HobblerWard, and he's awesome, just a friendly reminder that this site works when used correctly! What you should be thinking about is what you have to offer, I like variety but I also enjoy having a lot of what I like- in the words of Madonna/Breathless Mahoney "I'm so happy with what I got, I want more!".

On a good day I can quote Albert Einstein, Marilyn Monroe, and Gloria Steinem, on a not so good day well I guess it's Animal House and Ren & Stimpy. I like camping, hiking, and the outdoors, but if the Charmin bears aren't shitting in the woods neither am I.

I love storytelling; good communication* is something I do not take lightly- I have much to say and I am never impressed by those who have nothing to say. I love the arts- literature, music, museums, theater- especially theater, I pine for the stage.

I'm a skeptic, but if there's going to be a revolution, I hope it's a Bohemian one, because I'm willing to fight for Freedom, Beauty, Truth, and Love.

I am looking for quality boyfriend material, someone who has time to date and is open to having a relationship.
I'm looking for non-hierarchical, loving relationships with men who are confident, fun, honest, and articulate; I get along well with female partners/metamours who are also confident and honest, and who are good-natured toward other women- I practice polyamory that allows all partners involved to experience the full spectrum of physical and emotional attachment- no second-class partners, no power trips, no assuming that we are unique credits to our gender and "other" men/women are awful.
Mystery and anonymity are turn offs.
For the D&Ders out there- I am looking for a man wants someone to quest with not someone he will quest for, I want to be your partner, another adventurer in your party, not the quest giver and not the damsel in distress. I don't need a man with a hero complex and a misguided, outdated sense of "honor".

*I define "good communication" as: carefully considered articulation of one's thoughts, plans, feelings, and opinions; complete honesty and full disclosure, no semantic loopholes and clear standards of definitions for words and concepts; direct statements that provide clear answers, especially about things that you do/not want to do, I prefer candor over roundabout excuses that I have to translate to be considerate of you.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am a writer and a performer. I write fiction- mostly fantasy and horror, some historic fiction/steampunk. I perform in plays and in a burlesque troupe.

I flunked out of Temple University's Speech Pathology Program a few years ago because of my anxiety and depression. I like working, I can't afford to go to school anyway, and my mental health really can't manage both.

I used to work at a museum, I was a gatekeeper for a dinosaur exhibit and child whisperer, it's a tough act to follow.

I'm trying to find another partner who meets my standards rather than expecting me to lower them. I look at match questions, if you're concerned about how groomed I am, whether I'm going to burn a flag, or any other nonsense that puts you below 85%, you are expecting me to lower my standards, which isn't going to happen.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing, making costumes, crafts, acting (I'm told), talking (it still surprises me how inadequate some people are at talking), working with kids, trivia and word games like Catch Phrase, listening to people without judging, making people smile, speaking honestly- including saying things that provoke males to be dickstumps*.

*For the definition and usage of the term "dickstump" visit this blog
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
People usually notice that I am loud, energetic, and talkative but easy to talk to. As for aesthetics, I suppose they notice my height because I'm 5'2 with a big personality.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: His Dark Materials- Philip Pullman; Wicked- Gregory Maguire; Feminist Fairytales- Barbara Walker; Dance of the Dissident Daughter- Sue Monk Kidd; The Importance of Being Earnest, Oscar Wilde; The Canterbury Tales- Geoffrey Chaucer. Authors in general- Stephen King, Clive Barker, Edgar Alan Poe, William Shakespeare (Comedies).

Movies: (By Year)
The Philadelphia Story, Cover Girl, Gentlemen Prefer Blondes, Funny Face, Some Like It Hot, Breakfast at Tiffany's, Animal House, The Muppet Movie, The Blues Brothers, Labyrinth, Spaceballs, Tank Girl, The Fifth Element, Big Fish, Howl's Moving Castle, The Stepford Wives, MirrorMask, Stranger Than Fiction, Let Me In, The Cabin in the Woods, Brave, Guardians of the Galaxy

Shows: Mork & Mindy, The Muppet Show, I Love Lucy, Doctor Who, The Twilight Zone, The Addams Family, Parks & Rec, Classic Nicktoons/Cartoon Network.

Music: Arcati Crisis, The Dresden Dolls, Pysche Corporation, Billy Joel, 1920s music (as heard on WHRO), This Way to the Egress, Laura Shay, Idina Menzel, P!nk, Bette Midler.

Food: I love when people want to cook for me or take me out because I hate cooking. My favorites are cheesesteaks, pasta, pizza, Chickie's & Pete's crab fries with cheese, GooGoo Clusters, Whirly Berley candy bars, and Franklin Fountain root beer floats

Comic Books: X-Men, Gotham City Sirens, Harley Quinn, Black Canary, Zenesope's Fairy Tales and Wonderland series.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Writing Supplies- I can't just leave my thoughts and imaginings buzzing around inside my head, I can either stay up all night writing or sleep poorly from dreaming all night, but mostly I just love telling stories!
Entertainment- books, music, movies, people!
Food- this seems obvious, but no, I really LOVE food! I take eating more seriously than some other people it seems- I don't eat food that I don't like, I like to relax while eating, and I communicate very clearly about when I need to eat within a two hour range, mostly because I used to starve, while working in a restaurant!
Freedom
Friends/Loved Ones- I'm a social addict, I thrive being around a lot of people. The emotional support is also invaluable to me, because remembering the kind words of friends is one of the best ways to stop some of the nonsense that clutters my thoughts sometimes.
Comfortable shoes
Abreva- I have gotten cold sores/fever blisters since I was a child.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Writing, books, costumes, steampunk, zombies, school, horror movies, comic books...
How much I hate being called "cute" and "cutie", don't do it, this is usually the part of my profile where I can tell someone isn't reading this...
How our culture values "niceness" over honesty and where people stand in that spectrum...

Why some men ignore what my profile says, and how I can either educate or ignore them in return...

Why people are so concerned with *my* body hair...

Why people covet their jealousy, are selfish enough to expect one person to fulfill their every need, and settle for less than the maximum amount of love they can give/receive by only believing in "the one"...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Going on a date, seeing a movie or a play (preferably the latter), making costumes, performing, spending time with my friends.

Sometimes I go to awesome conventions and end up on podcasts like this one, Pedestrian Podcast is amazing, in case you haven't heard.
http://www.lifeontheswingset.com/15017/pedestrian-polyamory-45-live-from-atlanta-poly-weekend/

OR, I might be recording a podcast with the rest of my polycule!
http://polyskeptic.podbean.com/
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't answer some of the match questions that pertain to sex, because I don't need unsolicited messages from people wanting to replace or compete with my sex toys, or messages from people who think my sexual preferences are a "challenge" they want to take on to change my mind. These topics are things I prefer to discuss with people who I trust and feel comfortable with like friends, and with people I am sexually interested in.

Here is a good opportunity to specify (again) that I am polyamorous, and it's not going away.

I sometimes have anxiety attacks or mild depression, I am currently in therapy. I spend a lot of time trying to stay mentally healthy, sometimes this means sleeping a lot, or not drinking alcohol. It also means that I pay a lot of attention to my mood, I think a lot about why I feel the way I do and what fuels the thoughts that go through my head, I value being rational and reasonable as much as possible.

I have HSV-1, yes that's herpes, you might call it a "fever blister" or "cold sores" but let's be mature, this is not just sexually transmitted, you can get it from sharing a spoon with a relative at Thanksgiving or from from kissing.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 24–35
  • Near me
  • For short-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are Polyamorous (as in open to loving multiple partners), and your wife/girlfriend is also poly. I have a high standard of poly-positivity, this includes being open-minded; able to share; an articulate, informative communicator; self-confident; honest and forthright about relationship expectations/limitations (rules/ lack of rules); and responsible for your own time management and scheduling.

You actually have time to date. I've worked jobs with unpredictable schedules, but please be proactive about scheduling your free time. People work, people have school, family commitments, other partners, etc. I'm looking for a partner who can keep double booking, plan cancellations, and checking in with others for every plan to a minimum. A shareable electronic calendar is an extremely valuable tool, start one, stick to it, and hold people accountable when they don’t update it
Of the ways I do consider myself high maintenance, expectations on date activities is not one of them. I like hanging out in a comfortable home watching movies and playing board games, as long as we're taking turns at each other's houses, and occasionally going out to do things when weather/finances/scheduling permit.

Intelligence is sexy. I also love to laugh and making other people laugh, I'm not afraid to be ridiculous for comedy, so I hope you're willing to be silly too.

If you want to date, I prefer that you say so. If you’re looking for friendship/poly community, then say that. If you’re not sure, then I am going to assume you are comfortable being friends, if I am interested in dating you at that point, then I will tell you.

You are sex-positive AND believe in consent. My enthusiasm is usually clearly expressed, I am not afraid to initiate or reciprocate physical contact if I’m attracted to you. I like when men are not afraid to be affectionate with/close to me, all of the best first kisses I’ve ever had were initiated by my date. (If you tend to be on the shy/introverted side: holding my hand, sitting close to me, hugging will get the message across that you like me, otherwise silence and physical distance will suggest that I’m too aggressive and going to scare you.)

Match percentages matter! Your profile page is your dating resume, and your message is your cover letter. Being poly doesn't mean that this isn't a competitive field, if you don't want to put the effort into this site, then you probably don't want a relationship with me.

DEALBREAKERS
Please do not message me if you are any of the following:
A smoker, racist, homophobic, extremely religious/spiritual, sex-negative/slut-shaming, or a misogynist,.
I don't want to get high with you, I don't want to hear about your penis, and I don't want to be propositioned for one night stands, threesomes, modeling, or anything to do with 50 Shades of Grey.