In case you missed the most important word in that first statement, I am polyamorous, I'm not into swinging or cuckolding. I am in a serious, loving, committed, non-monogamous relationship with my fiance wfenza, I live with him and his amazing wife arcati101 , what can I say other than "Life is Good"? If this bothers or intimidates you, take this into consideration because this is the long term arrangement. What you should be thinking about is what you have to offer, I like variety but I also enjoy having a lot of what I like- in the words of Madonna/Breathless Mahoney "I'm so happy with what I got, I want more!".
On a good day I can quote Albert Einstein, Marilyn Monroe, and Gloria Steinem, on a not so good day well I guess it's Animal House and Ren & Stimpy. I like camping, hiking, and the outdoors, but I've never roughed it (I can deal with most things, but I really don't care how easy you think it will be for me to not piss all over myself). I think living without writing or storytelling would be an excruciating existence; good communication* is something I do not take lightly- I have much to say and I am never impressed by those who have nothing to say. I love the arts- literature, music, museums, theater- especially theater, I pine for the stage. For all of my cynicism, skepticism, and sarcasm I do believe in love and value it highly. So there'a a little mix of Bohemian ideals of Freedom, Beauty, Truth and Love with City Girl attitude for those of you keeping track.
I'm looking for honesty and intelligence, something passionate, maybe a little nonsense, and I'm beginning to think my cynical side wants a little romance. I am looking for quality boyfriend material, someone who has time to date and is open to having a relationship.
I'm looking for non-hierarchical relationships with men who are confident, fun, honest, and articulate; I get along well with female partners/metamours who are also confident and honest, and who are good-natured toward other women- I practice polyamory that allows all partners involved to experience the full spectrum of physical and emotional attachment- no second-class partners, no power trips, no assuming that we are unique credits to our gender and "other" men/women are awful. Mystery and anonymity are turn offs.
For the D&Ders out there- I am looking for a man wants someone to quest with not someone he will quest for, I want to be your partner, another adventurer in your party, not the quest giver and not the damsel in distress. I don't need a man with a hero complex and a misguided, outdated sense of "honor".
*I define "good communication" as: thoughtful articulation of one's thoughts, plans, feelings, and opinions; complete honesty and full disclosure, no semantic loopholes and clear standards of definitions for words and concepts; direct statements that provide clear answers, especially about things that you do/not want to do, I prefer candor over roundabout excuses that I have to translate to be considerate of you.