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Last online
May 7
Native American, White
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Other, and very serious about it
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Working on university
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)
My self-summary
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Kindness, humor, respect, listening, and friendship are the roots of my important relationships. At the same time that you are being kind, you can also be strong and firm, or be silly, or be honest and compassionate about difficult truths. Kindness is always appropriate and valuable.

I spend much of my time watching, listening, and feeling the world around me, and working to increase my perceptiveness. I participate in making decisions through shared listening and I learn a lot while doing this – this kind of consensus is how my life is guided.

Many of my clearest and most meaningful memories are from when I was laying or sitting on the ground, while sensing Nature.

Dance is a fundamental metaphor for much of my life because it is like the swirling interactions in life, and the more I see this and work with it, then the happier I am. I love to watch the wind swirling and dancing in Nature.

Respect, curiosity, sharing, listening, participating in community, and service to others are part of the foundation of my holistic interdependent view of life. All this is balanced by diligently working on individual responsibility and self-reliance.

Having a congruous relationship between my words, actions, thoughts, and feelings is very important to me. Given the evolving complexity of life and our inner self, and my gradual increase of understanding of all this, congruity is more a goal I steadily work towards achieving rather than a state I have achieved.

I’ve lived most of my life near wild areas southeast of Seattle and most of the rest of it near the coast in California. As a result of this, I like living close to saltwater and within couple hours of prairies, deserts, rainforests, and mountainous alpine zones. I cherish being near both ecological and cultural diversity.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
While I’m not real good at all of this yet, it is a relief to be feeling some solid clarity about what I really truly want to be and do, so I can focus on working to get better at it.

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To me it seems that the common concepts of masculine and feminine are mostly cultural programing that limit many people to half the person they could be. I work on developing the full range of skills, wisdom, and expression, which are available to all humans, and I find the most synergy with others who are doing the same.

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In many ways I’m making a new start with life by working down to my roots and building up from there. In particular I’m learning how to heal the causes of my many allergies.

Although I have an affinity for cats and pet people in general, I’m allergic to pets and animals. So for now, pets are okay, as long as they don’t go anyplace I go. My long-term plan is to get healthy enough to calm the allergies down.

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I spend much of my time and energy on learning, growing, and applying my improved understanding to my own life, and then helping others do the same. My life is more like the life of a student immersed in learning or a monk focusing on doing service, than the life of a person devoted to seeking exciting entertainment – I find life itself very entertaining.

I find my fun in the process of living my life. Some of this fun comes from: joking about the humor I see in my life (especially about the serious stuff like I wrote about here), creating a new recipe that turns out wonderful, the glow of satisfaction in work well done, watching for the first ripe blueberry of the year, and having an occasional feast or celebration. It’s stultifying to live a life of drudgery while waiting for relief at some future date - fun needs to be happening throughout each and every day (at least this is the plan). LOL

Though my life is simple, I have things like high quality rain gear and warm clothing for being outside on damp or cold days, and I use high quality ingredients for my simple food. When a simple life is done well, then it feeds your well-being in many different ways, on many different levels. What more can you ask for than to have well-being?

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For me Sharing is more than just giving somebody something you have – its both practical and spiritual, and is something like an intermingling of many lives, activities, hearts, experiences, and resources in an ongoing way. Deeply Sharing is a profound experience that changes everything involved in the Sharing. This Sharing pervades and underlies much of what I do.

However, this kind of sharing only works well when it’s balanced by diligent selfless responsibility and conscientious self-reliance of each person involved with the sharing.

A large part of sharing, from my point of view, is to:
- Cooperate in gathering and creating resources and to diligently work together in doing this.
- Cooperate together in enjoying life.
- Cooperate in being a steward for all resources and life around you.
- Cooperate in using these resources to increase balance and synergy in the world around you.

I'm slowly gaining understanding on how deep the difference is between an indigenous focus on cooperative stewardship of resources and using these resources to create balance, and the euroamerican focus on ownership of resources and competing to own and consume the most resources.

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Because of a complicated and messy family-of-origin history, as a kid I identified as indigenous, and I don’t have any tribe to associate with. Eventually I got really confused and lost my way for a long time. Now, once again, I am listening to our Mother the Earth, who gives me guidance and support in finding my way home again.

The book “How it is: the Native American philosophy of V.F. Cordova” does a good job of describing how I see life, and how this is fundamentally different from the worldview and belief system of western civilization (and eastern civilization too). The book does this in plain speech with very little philosophy jargon.

A couple authors, who can help you to understand the distinction between attending an indigenous spiritual ceremony and living an indigenous way of life, are Joseph M. Marshall III and Luther Standing Bear.

Some people don’t realize that even if you are living in an apartment in a big city, you are eating food, using water, and creating waste, and how you do this can help or hurt the Land that nurtures us. Always working to be a respectful conscientious steward of the Land, and carefully looking at how everything you do affects the Land, is part of living an indigenous way of life.

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Being indigenous isn’t genetics or where you are living (though it’s easier to learn an indigenous way of living when you are immersed in Nature), it’s the way you are living your life right now, wherever you happen to be.

A core part of an indigenous worldview is that everything is alive and everything is sacred, and at the same time this is balanced with a pragmatic approach to dealing with daily life. This results in a complexity in making day to day choices, which is difficult for many people to understand. This balance is often challenging to understand because most people are used to the simplistic, abstracted worldview of western civilization, where things are right, or wrong, and that’s that.

Another way to say this is that the western civilization approach to life is based on following rigid idealized rules, and an indigenous approach is based on figuring out how to sustain a working balance of essential values, for each individual situation, every day.

An example of balancing values is that it is important to be generous and it is also important to take care of your family, so balance needs to be found between generosity and the needs of your family. Then as the circumstances evolve over time, this balance will also evolve over time.

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Many people will say "oh yes, I respect and love nature" and they respect and love nature like a pet they own and control, that doesn't have any rights of its own.

On the other hand, I respect and love Nature like a small child respects and loves their Mother, whom they are completely dependant on for their survival.

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I prefer to have deep rooted, grounded connections with both people and the Land, this takes a lot of time to do well and so I work towards depth, not breadth.

I spend a lot of time in stillness, watching and listening, and feeling for the essence of what is going on around me.

Many people don’t realize that a simple frugal life can also be a life rich in meaning and experience. When I’m walking in Nature, usually I’m socializing, doing a walking meditation or spiritual practice, or doing service.

Basically, what I’m doing with my life is working on finding my way home, and looking for companions along the way.

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A consequence of being indigenous is that I have been badly injured (like millions of other people for hundreds of years) by the program of cultural genocide that the federal and local governments are continuing to conduct against indigenous peoples in North America. This cultural war is intended to exterminate indigenous cultures, and the violence of it causes huge amounts of misery.

Warfare wounds everybody involved with it and so indigenous peoples, euroamericans, and our Mother the Earth all need healing from the injuries caused by this war. A focus of my life is working to heal the damage caused by this cultural war, both in myself and others. Is doing this healing work compatible with your worldview and interests in life?

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Much of what I’ve written in this profile can sound like mainstream New Age culture, when heard through the intellect from a mainstream perspective. The same words sound indigenous when heard through the heart from the perspective of a person rooted in the Land. Which way are you hearing these words?

While I do have the light colored skin, lots of education, and the skillset of a white, Anglo-Saxon, protestant, professional social-class person – these skills are just useful tools, not a lifestyle (at least not for me) and I’m being very firm about this now.

Deep inside I see life from an indigenous perspective and keep using understanding, based on my indigenous roots, to help things work well around me. Are you interested in sharing my roots?
I’m really good at
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Listening, cuddling; being intuitive, empathic, and conscientious; being courageous and resolute during hard times, seeing the essence of what is going on around me, bridging viewpoints and cultures, growing native plants and doing permaculture, being part of the Land, building and rebuilding, healing, holistically working with complex system dynamics; learning, mentoring, writing and passionately speaking about all of this; creating innovative projects, surmounting challenges, self-reliance, finding amazing opportunities, sincerity, respect, and being responsible and kind.

And joking around, being sweet and gentle, and laughing with twinkly eyes.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Sometimes they notice my thoughtfulness, kindness, perceptiveness, wheels inside my head, big grin, intensity, tenacity, whimsy, goal orientation, talkativeness, stillness, sweetness, generosity, or sensitivity to mood. Sometimes they notice how oblivious or stressed I can be.

People comment on my hands when it feels like I’m seeing and talking with my hands.

When my eyes and heart are very open, then often people mention my eyes are amazing or that they change color.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I have a great fondness for the friendly, courageous, and inspirational heroines created by Monica Furlong and Robin McKinley. The deep connection to the Land in Robin McKinley’s recent books nourishes and validates me. Terry Pratchett is the most amazing author and writes many levels of insight, wisdom, and humor into most of his stories. My favorite nonfiction area is natural history, such as “The Klamath Knot”.

I always loved listening to stories and the adult version of this is listening to audio books.

I rarely watch movies because I’d rather read books, listen to stories, write, be outside, or do stuff in person with people.

I can appreciate a pretty broad range of music, particularly upbeat acoustic music that speaks to the body and heart. I think maybe I favor music with a strong heartbeat. Lately I’ve been enjoying listening to stillness.

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I have a lot of food intolerances, so my diet is pretty simple and limited. I’ve tried many different diets. Currently I eat mostly organic food and alternate between raw vegan meals, and meals of cooked fish or pig meat with cooked vegetables.

Regardless if they are raised for food or foraged for food, I work to treat all plants and animals with respect and consideration. A carrot deserves respect just like a pig deserves respect. Then, as they are eaten, I honor them for their contribution to my life.

Part of how I honor them is to conscientiously use every bit of them in a respectful way, and then work to make my life worthy of the sacrifice of their life to give me energy. If I have an accident and waste some food, then I apologize to the spirit of the being, whose energy was wasted, as I place the food in the compost.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The things I probably really can’t do without, both in myself and in others around me, are a sense of humor, balance, clarity, strength, opportunities to learn, warmth, grace, hope, touching, rootedness, the satisfaction of meaningful activity, going on walks in Nature, healthy food, more balance within being grounded in the Land, and friendship.

Things I think I can’t do without are laughter, cuddling, sunshine, books, art, fresh fruit, and to be living near mountains, prairies , rivers, and the sea, where I can see lots of open sky and weather with vistas of sunrises, sunsets, and stars.

Fully expressing my creativity and stewardship seems to require a really big pile of tools of all kinds. Besides tools like wrenches and saws, my tools include: books, CDs, sewing equipment, household linen, work clothing, and camping equipment. In this sense, most of what I own is tools. Probably a pile of tools counts as a single thing, right :)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to be an indigenous harmonious part of the Land when I am surrounded by an urban industrial civilization focused on competing to hoard and consume resources.

How much of life is loops and spirals and how often efforts at improvement just stir the pot again or even make things worse.

How to help people step out of the trap where they are too numb and disconnected to listen to their heart or to our Mother the Earth, and because they fail to listen, they keep hurting themselves in ways that leave them numb and disconnected.

I really wonder a lot about how deep friendship and cooperation can fit into our current civilization.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Is how I feel about intimacy, friendship, and polyamory - I prefer to spend my time sharing with friends and potential friends, with people who share some deep open simpatico with me, rather than to spend time with activity partners where there isn’t any interest in being open or becoming closer.

For me intimacy feels safer and more meaningful when shared within friendship. Deep balanced connection, Continuity, and diversity in life are very important to me, and polyamory supports all this far better than serial monogamy does.

Once friendship, caring, and simpatico exist on a deep emotional level, then it’s easy to intentionally cultivate physical chemistry within the safe container of friendship.

At the root, poly is a way of responding to all aspects of life with cooperation, discussion, listening, and agreements, and then adapting as situations evolve.

The rigidity and isolation of exclusive pairs of intimate relationships often blocks opportunities to build webs of connections, regardless if they are intimate or not. To me, a stance of not-cooperation and not-sharing seems very self-defeating.

Humans lost ground when they switched from cooperative sharing to the competitive hoarding of resources that is so common today. The strongest ecologies in Nature are where there is the most diversity and interdependency and the same is true for social networks.

A resource for learning about this interdependent approach to sharing is the book “Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality”. Another resource is the online article “Sexual Behavior in Pre Contact Hawai‘i: A Sexological Ethnography”.
You should message me if
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You work to have the courage and strength to see life as it is, to seek a vision for a better life for yourself and your community, and to do the day-to-day work to make this vision happen.

What I’ve said sounds good to you, and you want to work together with me in learning to live like this – it’s much better to be a sincere learner than to be a complacent expert. Much of what I learn is discovering what I don’t understand yet – in some ways learning is my avocation and entertainment in life.

You feel happy and safe in natural areas of diverse self-sustaining life away from urban areas, you ground yourself in Nature, and you do okay for a while without indoor plumbing.

Responsibility, self-reliance, sharing, cooperation, and respect for all life are fundamental in your life, and you work each day to center yourself in this way of living.

You are pragmatic about encouraging and sustaining balances.

You work hard in being open and honest with others (and especially with yourself), are kind and compassionate when expressing your honesty, and alternate self-expression with deep listening. You combine all this with consensus to learn about others and to help make decisions.

Or you are curious about me, want to give me some feedback, feel we are on parallel paths, or if any of this sparked your fancy or touched your heart.

You should definitely contact me if you believe shared laughter is a key ingredient for a wonderful life.

All this is really hard to put into words so people will hear what I’m trying to say. Misunderstandings are rampant in the world – please ask me questions so you will have a better understanding of what I’m meaning here.

I suppose deep in my heart what I want most is to be with people who like to collaborate together in working to make the best of what happens in our lives and in the world around us. I want to do this collaboration through deep listening and cooperative learning.

I also suppose I need to clarify that when I say “to make the best of what happens” I mean seeking the most appropriate service to family and community (and balancing this with stewardship for your own life), and being humble and respectful while doing this work.