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48 M Royal Tunbridge Wells, United Kingdom

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Graduated from university
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My self-summary
One of my female friends described me as 'romantic and idealistic with a short fuse'. That's fairly close to the mark. The short fuse bit happens increasingly rarely...
I'm a writer, a journalist, an occasional (these days) broadcaster. I’ve been a foreign correspondent (fantastic fun), lived on a boat, played in bands, got up to all sorts of crazy shit for which I probably should have been arrested but either through being smart or plain lucky managed not to and generally had a good time.
These days I have a communications agency which is what makes me a living. I live in a beautiful house out in the sticks but like to spread my wings and hang out in cool cities, enjoy the ambience, the food, the culture… I am a big fan of airbnb – way better than booking a hotel.
One of the things I really like about journalism is the way it brings you into contact with the widest group of people imaginable, especially when working abroad. It probably reflects my attitude towards people. My relationships are coloured by interests and personality rather than background. I made a lot of friends while working in SE Asia and our shared interests always seemed to bridge any differences.
I enjoy reading immensely – I think many writers are avid consumers of the written word. It’s almost a prerequisite. I’m quite bookish. I love ideas. However I find intellectual snobbery pretty offputting. I think almost everyone I’ve met has been able to teach me something – even my six year old who was adamant that zero is an even number (he was right as it happens, though I argued that zero isn’t a number because it denotes the absence of number – he likes maths, I read philosophy). His mother and I have been separated for five years now but I’m very hands on. It’s occasionally tough but we generally work things out.
Goals wise I’m not very materialistic but I am fortunate. I like to have fun and new experiences but my tastes are pretty down to earth. And I like to feel I make a difference.
What I’m doing with my life
Vascilating between frenzy and torpor. I have a dozen different projects on the go. They do get done. Some are soul projects, others work projects and some are for sheer love. However there are moments when doing so many different things starts to leave me feeling frazzled.
I live in the depths of the countryside in a beautiful 600 year old house. It's too big but I love it. It's the perfect nest from which to fly to every corner of the earth.
By profession I'm a journalist, for filthy lucre I advise companies on their communications, for soul I build things and try to make the world just a little bit better and for sheer love I write, record and broadcast. Right now I'm in talks with a publisher about a series of children's books. Looking good but let's see. And I have to confess I'm itching to get back to where it's all happening to do some reporting. If I can figure out how to make a reasonable income from it and not get blown up...
I’m really good at
writing, recording, talking, persuading, problem solving and a few things I'd never write about on here
The first things people usually notice about me
Eyes, probably, that I'm in good shape and they seem to think I look better in person than in photos...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Withnail and I, Easy Rider, Night on Earth, Bunuel, Almodovar, Nouvelle vague, blah blah, lots...

Tales from the City, Jitterbug Perfume, Tom Paine a political life... swathes of biography, beat, countercultural, Austen, Fitzgerald, I have more books than I have space. I find boxes of books I'd forgotten I had...

Five Leaves Left, Stand Up, Liege and Lief...oodles of rock, blues and folk. Lately loads of good jazz; Davis, Coltrane, Monk... even early music like Tallis and Allegri. I'm a musician - I like great musicians.

I'm pescatarian, a cowardly way of saying I'm a rubbish vegetarian who eats fish... I cook. I cook quite enthusiastically. I even write about food from time to time. I have even faced down a crowd of Thais on the streets of Bangkok and ate something unbelievably hot without crying while they all stared at me. I did walk very quickly to a shop to buy beer afterwards.
The six things I could never do without
My laptop, which is very sad, my guitar, books, the radio, trees, my son (these need re-ordering)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Oooooo. Now that's a big question. Some of the stuff I spend a lot of time thinking about I'm very careful not to bore people with - international relations, the sustainability of the welfare state, democracy, the reorganisation of education, stable-state I said I'm pretty selective about getting into this with most people. I don't like getting to the eyes glazing over phase.
I've travelled a lot, met an extraordinarily wide selection of people and they've given me a world of things to think over.
I'm also very interested in history, espectially the Long Enlightenment 1632-1832. Try reading Boswell's London Diaries - sounds boring but reads like a column from GQ - all celebrities and sex (and Dr Johnson).
I do think about normal stuff too - food, women, music, lying on my back in a field of long grass watching the clouds pass, that sort of thing, but my thoughts can be a crowded place sometimes. As a result, from time to time, I meditate and try to think about absolutely nothing. (I try....)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
For some reason a remarkable proportion of the women I have high matches with like Neil Gaiman and Milan Kundera (two good choices) and a lot of them seem to be poly (also v cool).
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
I guess this is where I get to say what sort of people do it for me...
Incredibly intelligent is a good start. I'd describe myself as sapiosexual. Once we've jumped the initial 'you look nice' hurdle your making me work to catch up is beyond sexy. You'll almost certainly be creative as well - you'll write or paint or play music or some such and you'll get why I have to write and play music (and report). It's part of what makes it worth being alive.
You also get hugely excited by what an amazing place our world is...and could be...and find people endlessly fascinating.
Physical type? Well a large proportion of my exes are petite and dark haired. Redheads I find gorgeous. But hey it's not a prescriptive thing - ultimately someone sufficiently fascinating will shine though.
One caveat though - try as I might I don't seem to be able to get away from the fact, I am attracted to people who are in good shape - fit and healthy. That doesn't mean that if you are a voluptuous goddess that you're not wonderful and sexy it's just that you'll need to look elsewhere for a worshipper ^o^