Showing you who I am, over time, rather than filling your head with a bunch of labels I've concocted for myself.
Giving nicknames to people I like. If I grow to like you, rest assured, you will garner a nickname.
Getting to the core of stuff. Dealing with said core.
Scratching where it itches.
Working my ass off; hitting client deadlines.
Partnering as a team.
Being there, in the moment, with you.
Practicing lovingkindness (emphasis on "practicing"). Meaning, sending love instead of letting my ego retaliate. (give this one a try sometime—this is what I consider true courage)
Being a great graphic designer.
Being a friend.
Telling you, straight up, how I feel about myself, about you, about "us".
What do I listen to? Like most everyone on here (it seems), I love variety in music. Very early Blues is a favorite, as is mid-century Jazz. Motown. Funk. Vintage and some contemporary Bossa Nova. 70s-80s wave/punk/rock (XTC, Fleshtones, X, Muffs, Fastbacks, Throwing Muses, etc.) The Beatles (goes without saying, but I'll state it anyway). Newer stuff I'm currently loving would be Kristin Hersh, Future Islands, Alt-J, can't get enough of The Avett Brothers, Trent Severn (I'm an absolute sucker for beautiful female harmonies). Too much to list, and it seems like my tastes keep expanding to accommodate a larger variety of music as I get older. I'll try anything once, and I LOVE live music.
Movies: Like music, it's all over the place, except for pretty much the entire Horror genre. Love suspense, but can't do Horror. I'm likely to enjoy most any type of film, provided it's well done. Yes, this even includes the venerable 'chick flick' category, just as long as it's a good story, and well made. But you'll owe me an action movie as payback.
Food: Spicy. Lean. Healthy. Mexican, Italian, Thai, Korean BBQ (!), authentic Chinese. As with movies and music, if it's well done, I'll probably be very happy, regardless of the dish's ethic origins.
My bass guitar.
Good food & drink.
Good, restful sleep.
You actually have time, attention, and energy to put into creating and sustaining a real relationship.
You've read through my profile, perused my pictures, and you've discovered something about me that resonates within you.
You have made the decision to be responsible for your health, so you enjoy eating well, getting out-of-doors, and being active.
You have a good sense of humor. Maybe you're even a little bawdy. Bawdy's good. Or mischievous. Are you capable of impish?
You have a favorite song, artist, art, activity, natural space, or other source of beauty that moves you in emotionally powerful ways which you can't comprehend, and cannot control. Something you enjoy simply for the way it makes you feel inside.
You've sorted your baggage (we all have it) into neat-ish piles, let some of it go at garage sales, and lightened your load.
You are forgiving yourself. You are forgiving others.
You bring with you a modest-sized operator's manual for yourself, the thickness and heft of which more resembles the phone directory of a small municipality, and less that of the I.R.S. Tax Code.
You appreciate that I truly like women (in the larger, gender-specific sense), and that a good 80% of my carefully curated cadre of buddies (including both of my best friends) are women. P.S.: every one of them is rooting for me with this crazy three-ring-circus of online dating.
You view life as a crazy, one-time-only, multifaceted adventure—a ride that you just want to keep ON riding—and you're looking for someone special who will sit in the seat next to you, put his arm around you (and only you), and hold you until our ride ends.
You are genuinely kind-hearted, warm, giving, and self-aware—and you are shopping for these same attributes in a man.