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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 23–43
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Graduated from Ph.D program
Rather not say
Open relationship
Has a kid, and wants more
English, C++
My self-summary
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I'm an adventurous, open-minded, poly guy. I work in high-tech, but you'll find me an odd kind of geek. I enjoy motorcycle riding and being on the water. I live along the shore of the ocean, and the rhythm of the tide and nature are the clock of my life.

My day job is I am a professor at UW in the engineering school. I spend about a third of my time spinning tales to undergraduates about circuits and bits, a third working with graduate students imparting a zest for life, and a third handling.. err, BS. Somewhere in there I'm supposed to actually think for a living, but usually I have to rely on my graduate students to do that for me.

I'm a fairly public person, and an "out" poly. So if you date me I don't hide the fact that we are dating.

A bit more about me:

* You’ll find me easy going. I’m driven, sure, but I’m pretty relaxed in my romantic relationships. I don't take myself nor life all that seriously. I don't check my phone on a date.
* I regularly cross the country on my motorcycle for fun. It’s _important_ to me.
* I’m on track for 50K miles in the air this year. I routinely travel to the UK, Europe, middle-east and most recently Japan, as well as the usual SFO, DC, LA, etc. I keep a folder of subway passes, SIM cards, and currencies for many spots on the globe and am comfortable anywhere.
* I’ve owned and sailed offshore a couple boats before. I’ve sent one to davy jones locker as well. Presently I own a fishing boat and commercial crabbing boat (future plans). The salt water runs through my veins. I love the wind.
* I can sit for hours outdoors meditating with nature or talking with a partner. But put me in a room and expect me to watch TV (I don't own one) and I’ll go crazy; There's something about passive entertainment that bores the hell out of me.
* I’m a tinkerer. Don’t leave me alone with anything mechanical or electronic. I’ll disassemble and re-assemble it out of habit.

I have an amazing primary life partner that I live with (cisgender/straight), and an awesome non-primary partner (cisgender/bi) that I date regularly. I tend to form long term relationships (primary going on 8, non-primary 1+, and enjoy the intimacy such time affords. My social calendar is pretty full, but for the right person, depending on their interests and desires, I’m looking to form another non-primary relationship.
What I’m doing with my life
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Currently I am busy raising my beautiful young daughter with my life partner. I'm also spending some lovely evenings with a non-primary partner in Seattle. They are all fabulous! I'm also spending far too much time on an airplane (when the flight crew recognizes you, well, then you know you are spending too much time with them -- thank you Alaska Airlines though!).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm pretty good at letting bad memories fade and finding the silver lining in any situation. I have a gallows and sarcastic sense of humor that isn't always funny to anyone but me. In my day job, my chief task is to ask questions that make you question your reality. I enjoy it. I roll with the punches pretty well and don't sweat the small stuff.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I'm really into music and I like a very wide range. From very early folk/country, to Dylan, all the way up to today with bands like MGMT, Brooke Fraser, etc, yes -- even the fame monster. I don't own a TV, but do occasionally watch a show online. Nevertheless, you will find me pathetically (or charmingly) ignorant of TV/movies and perhaps nerdy about music.

I am a foodie and a locavore. I enjoy a very fine meal out or in. My partner and I often throw large dinner parties at our place, and we enjoy the whole process from cooking to entertaining. Despite enjoying fine dining, I am also a bit of a connoisseur of Seattle's best hole-in-the-wall places and down home food as well, BBQ, Fried Cat Fish, Taco Trucks, etc. I am an adventurous eater, and will consume anything (breast milk cheese -- bring it on; live squid -- tasty). I'm also raising oysters on my beach. I currently have 2000 of them in pens and can't wait until next year to start eating them.

For books, my all time favorites would be Catch-22, because it always confuses and explains me; 1984 because I feel like I'm living it; and Air Kissing in the Northeast, which defines my childhood. I have been slowly working on writing a not quite sequel, sequel to Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, and a photo book about abstract low contrast images.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Love, Music, the Wind, the Ocean, a lingering sunset spent sharing a beer among friends, my motorcycle (I know you are like huh? But yeah,...)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My dent in the universe.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
On my beach having a beer. Talking to my daughter about whales and fish and stars and spirits and the wind and why we are the way we are. I wouldn't trade those moments for anything.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I work (toil?) in a professional position that requires me to be "out there" and "on performance" all the time. Yet ironically, I was born shy. You'll actually find I need to warm up to you before I really share a lot in person. That is, unless you ask me to use my "speaking voice", in which case, well, the show must go on.
You should message me if
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You can work with my crazy schedule. I'm looking for a non-primary relationship with an individual (or possibly a couple but that's particular -- see below) that would like to date once a week.

A note on bi vs. straight and me. OKC doesn't exactly have enough ways to describe oneself. I'm attracted and aroused by femininity. I'm not aroused by masculinity (sorry my bearded friends :-). However, within those boundaries there is a lot of room and I'm open minded.