I'm a gay/queer guy in a long term poly relationship. I'm open to fun or play partners, but I'm really looking for a more meaningful relationship with a boyfriend or two. Another co-primary with my partner firetashlin and I someday would rock, but we aren't looking together, this profile is all me.

Speaking of partner, obviously he knows I'm on here, and I'm not open to DL relationships. I've learned the hard way that dating guys who are in the closet doesn't do good things for my mental or emotional health, so please be out.

Physically I'm not a gym bunny, but I try to keep in good shape. I have a number of tattoos and piercings, but I won't scare mom if you bring me home to meet her. I tend to look pretty butch, but I have a definite swishy side that comes out at the mention of Broadway or fashion or just when I'm in that kind of mood.

I spend a lot of time with a camera in my hands, and I also enjoy reading, hiking in the woods, working on my '72 VW Bug, pistol shooting, TV & movies, and cooking on the grill.

It's worth mentioning that in my erotic life I am quite kinky, although I'm open to and enjoy non-kinky activities and relationships too. That said, if you think being kinky or poly is "wrong" or want someone to "save" I am really not your guy (learned that one the hard way too).

If you have a Fetlife account and want to know more about me from that perspective, my profile is: http://fetlife.com/users/95857

After several years of being on the road every spring/summer as a kink, spirituality, and LGBT issues educator, I took a job last year as an assistant producer for a BDSM events company, which allowed me to cut back on some of my conference appearances. I miss the teaching, but not being on the road

I'm also associate editor and regular contributor to the LGBT politics and culture blog "The Bilerico Project," and a photographer doing artistic, nature, erotic, and event photography.

My spiritual life is deeply important to me. I am a polytheistic pagan and involved in the pagan community as a religious leader and as an educator. That said, my spirituality is my own, and I don't expect everyone I'm involved with to share it. All I ask is that the fact I have a faith be treated with respect.

Public speaking. I may be happiest when speaking in front of a group about something I care about. I've done everything from recreational and academic conferences, to internet video, and even been in two TV documentaries.

I also like to think that I'm a good writer, whether I'm writing copy for an event program or an essay for a national audience.

I have a fondness for fabulous and usual glasses, and drive a lovely antique VW year round.

It's hard to have a favorite book, I'm a big reader. Sci-fi and fantasy books remain a love of mine, but I also have a good sized collection of historical and military non-fiction.

Fiction Authors: Robert Heinlein, Tanya Huff, Jack McDevitt, Catherynne M. Valente, Lynn Flewelling, Anne Bishop, David Webber, Kristine Kathryn Rusch, Alex Sanchez

Non-Fiction (books): Last Stand of the Tin Can Sailors, Alfred Lansing's "Endurance" (and pretty much anything else written about the Shackelton Expedition), Making Gay History, Devil in the White City, Children's Blizzard, The Worst Hard Time, The Ship That Would Not Die, and nearly any other first hand books about WWII submarine or destroyer warfare.

I'm a fan of movies and TV too. The Daily Show, Dr. Who, Torchwood, Mythbusters, Top Gear, Project Runway, Top Shot, many different kinds of documentaries, and the occasional USA Network procedural, are all ways I unwind. I'm also a big anime fan, and have been getting into classic cinema of late as well.

I do love food. I make awesome herb-rubbed swordfish on the grill, and when it comes to eating out, Indian, Thai, Nepalese, Cambodia, and similar flavor profiles are high on my list (if not my budget).

-My glasses, I'm blind as a bat without them
-My spiritual life and faith
-My partners, lovers, and family (of choice & birth)
-Modern medicine
-Books
-A handy weapon

All manner of things, from politics to spirituality, science and invention to science fiction, deep thoughts to bad puns.

Oh, and sex. I guess sex is always in there somewhere.

Either on the road presenting, up late writing or working on an event program, home reading, watching TV or a movie online, or participating in an online discussion group.

Ok, it's not really private, in that I don't try to keep it a secret, but I have Tourette Syndrome. I don't have coprolalia (the "swearing" tics), but I do have some pretty noticeable symptoms.

- My profile was interesting to you
- You are experienced with/open to polyamorous relationships
- Talking about sex doesn't bother you. Given what I do for work...
- You aren't transphobic! While I am cis-gendered, many of my closest friends and some of my lovers are trans*, and transphobia is a deal breaker for me.
- You know what an "intactivist" is, are one yourself, or are curious.
- You can be civil to someone with a non-traditional faith
- If the idea of going shooting, having sex (of some form), and watching Top Gear over a dinner of Thai food sounds like an awesome day to you.