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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 22–45
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Aug 25
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Other, and very serious about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Less than $20,000
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Has dogs
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a gay/queer guy in a long term poly relationship. I live with my husband firetashlin and my boyfriend. I'm looking for a FWB (emphasis on "friend), play partners, or a meaningful emotional/romantic relationship with another boyfriend.

Speaking of partners, obviously they know I'm on here, and I'm not open to DL relationships. I've learned the hard way that dating guys who are in the closet doesn't do good things for my mental or emotional health, so please be out.

Physically I'm not a gym bunny, but I try to keep in good shape. I have a number of tattoos and piercings, but I won't scare mom if you bring me home to meet her. I tend to look pretty butch, but I have a definite swishy side that comes out at the mention of Broadway or fashion or just when I'm in that kind of mood.

I spend a lot of time with a camera in my hands, and I also enjoy reading, hiking in the woods, pistol shooting, TV & movies, and cooking on the grill.

It's worth mentioning that in my erotic life I am quite kinky, although I'm open to and enjoy non-kinky activities and relationships too. That said, if you think being kinky or poly is "wrong" or want someone to "save" I am really not your guy (learned that one the hard way too).

If you have a Fetlife account and want to know more about me from that perspective, my profile is:
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm a kink, spirituality, and LGBT issues educator, and up until a few months ago, I was the assistant producer for a BDSM events company. I also do consulting work with a local erotic boutique.

Lately I've been doing a lot more photography work, which I'm hoping to transition over time into something that brings in some extra money. You can see my mainstream photography at my website: My erotic & kink photography is at:

I'm also a former associate editor, and regular contributor to the LGBT politics and culture blog "The Bilerico Project."

My spiritual life is deeply important to me. I am a polytheistic pagan and involved in the pagan community as a religious leader and as an educator. That said, my spirituality is my own, and I don't expect everyone I'm involved with to share it. All I ask is that the fact I have a faith be treated with respect.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Public speaking. I may be happiest when speaking in front of a group about something I care about. I've done everything from recreational and academic conferences, to internet video, storytelling shows/podcasts, and have even been in two TV documentaries.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have a fondness for fabulous and unusual glasses.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
It's hard to have a favorite book, I'm a big reader. Sci-fi and fantasy books remain a love of mine, but I also have a good sized collection of historical and military non-fiction, and a terrible weakness for M/M romance novels.

Fiction Authors: Tanya Huff, Ilona Andrews, Jack McDevitt, Lynn Flewelling, Anne Bishop, David Weber, Heidi Cullinan, Amy Lane, Damon Suede, Kristine Kathryn Rusch, Alex Sanchez

Non-Fiction (books): Last Stand of the Tin Can Sailors, Alfred Lansing's "Endurance" (and pretty much anything else written about the Shackelton Expedition), Making Gay History, Devil in the White City, Children's Blizzard, The Worst Hard Time, The Ship That Would Not Die, and nearly any other first hand books about WWII submarine or destroyer warfare.

I'm a fan of movies and TV too. The Daily Show, @Midnight, Dr. Who, Torchwood, Mythbusters, Top Gear, Project Runway, Top Shot, many different kinds of documentaries, and the occasional USA Network procedural, are all ways I unwind. I'm also a big anime fan, and have been getting into classic cinema of late as well.

I do love food. I make awesome herb-rubbed swordfish on the grill, and when it comes to eating out, Indian, Thai, Nepalese, Cambodia, and similar flavor profiles are high on my list (if not my budget).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-My glasses, I'm blind as a bat without them
-My spiritual life and faith
-My partners, lovers, and family (of choice & birth)
-Modern medicine
-Some way to express myself creatively, be it a way to write, take pictures, or an audience to tell stories to
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
All manner of things, from politics to spirituality, science and invention to science fiction, deep thoughts to bad puns.

Oh, and sex. I guess sex is always in there somewhere.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Either on the road presenting, editing photos,, home reading, watching TV or a movie online, or participating in an online discussion group.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Ok, it's not really private, in that I don't try to keep it a secret, but I have Tourette Syndrome. I don't have coprolalia (the "swearing" tics), but I do have some pretty noticeable symptoms.
You should message me if
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- My profile was interesting to you
- You are experienced with/open to polyamorous relationships
- Talking about sex doesn't bother you. Given what I do for work...
- You aren't transphobic! While I am cis-gendered, many of my closest friends and some of my lovers are trans*. Transphobia is a deal breaker for me.
- You know what an "intactivist" is, are one yourself, or are curious.
- You can be civil to someone with a non-traditional faith
- If the idea of going shooting, having sex (of some form), and watching Top Gear over a dinner of Thai food sounds like an awesome day to you.