Let me start out with saying if I don't respond to your message it's most likely because I'm not interested. I'm probably the pickiest person you'll ever meet or likely not meet, when it comes to dating. I don't settle and I'm honestly fine being alone if the alternative is settling for something less than ideal. I choose not to respond because I've had some very negative reactions to even a polite rejection. If you would prefer a response please ask. If your ego is easily bruised then you are definitely not for me anyway.
I'm an introvert so it's a struggle for me to make small talk. Chances are unless I'm having a really good day I won't respond to your "Hey, How are you?", so make it something a bit more creative.
I'm a very independent and strong-willed person. While I wouldn't say I don't appreciate chivalry, I struggle with it. I will likely insist on doing something on my own before asking for help. I find words like "hun" or "sweetie" condescending to women, at least off the bat from someone I barely know.
My best guess at what I'm looking for in a partner would be someone that can make me laugh, leads an active lifestyle, most likely bearded and has some overlap in musical preferences.
Do not ask me about my tattoos, it's a surefire way to get your message deleted. I've been getting bombarded with the same questions or lame jokes for the last 13 years so don't think you're being original when you try to come up with something, just leave it be.
Philadelphia burbs, born and raised. After a brief stint in Boston I came down to Charlotte for a new job in the finance industry. I've been here over 2 years now.
Things that make me happy: CrossFit, baking, cats, dogs (especially huskies), coffee, chai, beer, traveling (mostly road trips), shows, band tees, tattoos (but not talking about mine to strangers).
If you've made it this far, congrats, as most guys don't even bother to read a profile. About 99.9% of those messages get deleted.
Here are some tips:
1.Don't call me hun because you think it'll be funny, it's not and you're not the first to try it out.
2.Don't send a message saying "Hello Beautiful/Sexy" - Women on here receive dozens of these generic messages so at least make some sort of effort unless you want your message to be deleted.
3. Learn the basics of high school grammar. I don't ask for much, just that you know how to properly use your/you're and try to spell out your words people!
If you message me "Hey How r u?" Even if you do it as a joke I will not laugh. I will most likely mentally set you on fire and your message will be deleted.