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56 M Albany, CA

My Details

Last Online
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5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, and very serious about it
Dropped out of university
Sales / Marketing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, French (Okay)

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My self-summary
Let's make this shorter than it was. I'm smart and funny and kind, have wonderful friends and a great job, a satisfying life. I'm calm and easy to get along with. I have a tendency to surprise my partners, which is sweet and good and fun. I'm a good man. I like--really like--women. I respect them and value them and don't give them shit because they're women. Women, truly, are the best. I've heard men send women rude and unpleasant e-mails sometimes. What the hell is that about?

My experience in relationships has been rich. Good, bad wonderful, ridiculous. I wouldn't trade any of it. I feel fortunate for my experiences and the love I've shared. And I'm pretty sure nearly all of the women I've been involved with would feel the same about their time with me--though there are always exceptions.

I'm funny in person. Hard to believe when you read this, but it's true. I like to have fun. If you take a chance and meet me you will meet someone you will be glad to have in your life, one way or another. If we click and something really happens I will treat you as well as any man ever has--maybe better. You deserve that, don't you?

Okay, I don't think that ended up any shorter.
What I’m doing with my life
Selling books, reading books, making new friends, enjoying the ones I have, trying to find every good moment in this life. Trying to find the person to share it with. Having conversations with strangers on planes and in airports and restaurants and bookstores and anywhere else I happen to be poking my nose.
I’m really good at
Finding a great song, a great book, cooking a good meal, being a good friend and companion and lover. No, really.
The first things people usually notice about me
Easy presence, calmness, sense of humor.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Too hard to choose a book or movie or music. I'll go with a nice slice of cherry pie for food. I read all the time, and these days I think I would go insane without my mp3 player, filled with everything from Beethoven to Beck to Patsy Cline, Nanci Griffith, Little Feat, Sun Kil Moon, Pat Metheny. As to books I just finished a book called Pacific by Tom Drury that I loved. Winter Vault by Anne Michaels is a favorite, a beautiful book about love. But part of the hunger to meet someone new is the hunger to be exposed to what they love, too. I want to hear music I've never heard before, to be told about books I've never read, to go to a favorite restaurant that's not mine.
The six things I could never do without
Books, music, rivers, hot sauce, friends, everything else I've left out.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything, I guess. Life on this planet, relationships of all kinds, work and books and music and fun and love. Just saw this on a poet's page. I guess I spend a lot of time thinking about this:

There are lovers content with longing.
I’m not one of them.
On a typical Friday night I am
Really depends. In or out, home or not.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I would really like to find someone great. And that I have had some wonderful relationships with extraordinary women, beautiful, intelligent, funny, charming--I have loved them and they have loved me, too. And that's pretty sweet.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 40–57
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You feel like it or you're willing to just have fun with this. I will always say something back. I promise you I am exactly as I present myself here...but better. And if this speaks to you. A bookstore in Tampa is posting a poem a day for Poetry Month, and this is my favorite so far:

The Invitation by Oriah
It doesn’t interest me
what you do for a living.
I want to know
what you ache for
and if you dare to dream
of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me
how old you are.
I want to know
if you will risk
looking like a fool
for love
for your dream
for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me
what planets are
squaring your moon...
I want to know
if you have touched
the centre of your own sorrow
if you have been opened
by life’s betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.

I want to know
if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.

I want to know
if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you
to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations
of being human.

It doesn’t interest me
if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear
the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.

I want to know
if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,

It doesn’t interest me
to know where you live
or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.

It doesn’t interest me
who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the centre of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me
where or what or with whom
you have studied.
I want to know
what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.

I want to know
if you can be alone
with yourself
and if you truly like
the company you keep
in the empty moments.

By Oriah © Mountain Dreaming,