58 Albany, CA
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My self-summary
I just stayed at an Airbnb place in LA and this is what the host wrote about me: What a lovely man!! Andy is exceptionally kind, considerate and calm! I actually felt more at ease when I was around him. I suspect he has this effect on everyone. You want him as a guest in your home...and you will be sad when he leaves!!

Maybe that should be my entire self-summary. But...

If you've been looking for a man of quality who will bring something rich to your life, maybe what you're looking for is someone you don't expect it to be. I'm smart and funny and kind, have wonderful friends and a great job, a satisfying life. I'm calm and easy to get along with. I have a tendency to surprise my partners, which is sweet and good and fun. I'm a good man. I promise I am exactly who I say I am and represent myself to be.

My experience in relationships has been rich. Good, bad wonderful, ridiculous. I wouldn't trade any of it. I feel fortunate for my experiences and the love I've shared. And I'm pretty sure nearly all of the women I've been involved with would feel the same about their time with me--though there are always exceptions.

I'm funny in person. Hard to believe when you read this, but it's true. I like to have fun. If you take a chance and meet me you will meet someone you will be glad to have in your life, one way or another. If we click and something really happens I will treat you as well as any man ever has--maybe better. You deserve that, don't you?

Lastly--why consider meeting a 58-year-old man? Experience is worth a lot. Life has taught me a lot about how a woman deserves to be treated, how to express my feelings and love for someone, to be in a relationship. There's a lot to be said for that. I'm a better man than I was at 50, at 45, at 40.
What I’m doing with my life
Selling books, reading books, making new friends, enjoying the ones I have, trying to find every good moment in this life. Telling the people I love that I love them. Trying to find the person to share my life with. Having conversations with strangers on planes and in airports and restaurants and bookstores and anywhere else I happen to be poking my nose.
I’m really good at
Finding a great song, a great book, cooking a good meal, being a good friend and companion and lover. Finding an erogenous zone that no one has found before. Really.
The first things people usually notice about me
Easy presence, calmness, sense of humor.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Too hard to choose a book or movie or music. I'll go with a nice slice of cherry pie for food. I read all the time, and these days I think I would go insane without my mp3 player, filled with everything from Beethoven to Beck to Patsy Cline, Nanci Griffith, Little Feat, Sun Kil Moon, Pat Metheny. As to books I just finished a book called Pacific by Tom Drury that I loved. Winter Vault by Anne Michaels is a favorite, a beautiful book about love. But part of the hunger to meet someone new is the hunger to be exposed to what they love, too. I want to hear music I've never heard before, to be told about books I've never read, to go to a favorite restaurant that's not mine.
The six things I could never do without
Books, music, rivers, hot sauce, my great community of friends, everything else I've left out.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything, I guess. Life on this planet, relationships of all kinds, work and books and music and fun and love. Just saw this on a poet's page. I guess I spend a lot of time thinking about this:

There are lovers content with longing.
I’m not one of them.

Also--why does my profile get viewed so much by women from the Philippines and Mexico and other distant places?
On a typical Friday night I am
Really depends. In or out, home or not.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I would really like to find someone great. And that I have had some wonderful relationships with extraordinary women, beautiful, intelligent, funny, charming--I have loved them and they have loved me, too. And that's pretty sweet.
You should message me if
You feel like it or you're willing to just have fun with this. I will always say something back. I promise you I am exactly as I present myself here...but better. I had a ridiculously long poem here, but this is shorter and nice, too. It's called Thief by Sally Van Doren. I like the way she captures that moment of connection, recognition, kisses.

I remember the hour
you stole time from me

and here in these late pages
I try to collect back

the kisses in the parking lot
that erased my history

next to that green F-150
when you became my future.