Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I just stayed at an Airbnb place in LA and this is what the host
wrote about me: What a lovely man!! Andy is exceptionally kind,
considerate and calm! I actually felt more at ease when I was
around him. I suspect he has this effect on everyone. You want him
as a guest in your home...and you will be sad when he
Maybe that should be my entire self-summery. But...let's cut to the
chase and then I'll get all philosophic and stuff. Here is what is
really important: I live by myself and still I put the toilet seat
down. I will always be willing to stir the new peanut butter. And
not only will I change the toilet paper, I'll put a roll out before
the last one is done and will put the flap over or under, whatever
you want. I am not unlike Gandhi in these ways.
If you've been wandering around on this site for weeks or months or
years (or hours), looking for a man of quality who will bring
something rich to your life, maybe what you're looking for is
someone you don't expect it to be. I'm smart and funny and kind,
have wonderful friends and a great job, a satisfying life. I'm calm
and easy to get along with. I have a tendency to surprise my
partners, which is sweet and good and fun. I'm a good man. I
like--really like--women. I respect them and value them and don't
give them shit because they're women. Women, truly, are the best.
I've heard men send women rude and unpleasant e-mails sometimes.
What the hell is that about?
My experience in relationships has been rich. Good, bad wonderful,
ridiculous. I wouldn't trade any of it. I feel fortunate for my
experiences and the love I've shared. And I'm pretty sure nearly
all of the women I've been involved with would feel the same about
their time with me--though there are always exceptions.
I'm funny in person. Hard to believe when you read this, but it's
true. I like to have fun. If you take a chance and meet me you will
meet someone you will be glad to have in your life, one way or
another. If we click and something really happens I will treat you
as well as any man ever has--maybe better. You deserve that, don't
A friend just posted this on her FB page, and I liked it:
I took the kiss full on the mouth, sweet fruit, miraculous
chemistry of salts and water that keeps the flesh, that swells and
spills and feels so like weeping. What belongs to me, if not this?
- Lynda Hull
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Selling books, reading books, making new friends, enjoying the ones
I have, trying to find every good moment in this life. Telling the
people I love that I love them. Trying to find the person to share
my life with. Having conversations with strangers on planes and in
airports and restaurants and bookstores and anywhere else I happen
to be poking my nose.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Finding a great song, a great book, cooking a good meal, being a
good friend and companion and lover. Finding an erogenous zone that
no one has found before. Really.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Easy presence, calmness, sense of humor.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Too hard to choose a book or movie or music. I'll go with a nice
slice of cherry pie for food. I read all the time, and these days I
think I would go insane without my mp3 player, filled with
everything from Beethoven to Beck to Patsy Cline, Nanci Griffith,
Little Feat, Sun Kil Moon, Pat Metheny. As to books I just finished
a book called Pacific by Tom Drury that I loved. Winter Vault by
Anne Michaels is a favorite, a beautiful book about love. But part
of the hunger to meet someone new is the hunger to be exposed to
what they love, too. I want to hear music I've never heard before,
to be told about books I've never read, to go to a favorite
restaurant that's not mine.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Books, music, rivers, hot sauce, my great community of friends,
everything else I've left out.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Everything, I guess. Life on this planet, relationships of all
kinds, work and books and music and fun and love. Just saw this on
a poet's page. I guess I spend a lot of time thinking about
There are lovers content with longing.
I’m not one of them.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Really depends. In or out, home or not.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I would really like to find someone great. And that I have had some
wonderful relationships with extraordinary women, beautiful,
intelligent, funny, charming--I have loved them and they have loved
me, too. And that's pretty sweet.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You feel like it or you're willing to just have fun with this. I
will always say something back. I promise you I am exactly as I
present myself here...but better. I had a ridiculously long poem
here, but this is shorter and nice, too. It's called Thief by Sally
Van Doren. I like the way she captures that moment of connection,
I remember the hour
you stole time from me
and here in these late pages
I try to collect back
the kisses in the parking lot
that erased my history
next to that green F-150
when you became my future.
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