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WithinTheJohn

44 Portland, OR Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–46
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Jul 2
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 8″ (2.03m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Dropped out of space camp
Job
Banking / Finance
Status
Single
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Okay), Spanish (Poorly), Other (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hi. I'm looking for a compatible friend who likes cats, trees, and to be near the water. I appreciate a wide range of people, but enjoy people who are direct, honest, gentle, and open.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am grieving. I had to put my 19-year-old kitty to sleep. This changes quite a bit for me.

I try to get out and socialize. I thrive on people. I am an extrovert. I am not afraid of crazy people: we are all crazy. The craziest ones are the ones that appear "normal." I don't laugh at the homeless or perceived-mentally ill. I try to talk to everyone, but not all at once.

I say weird things. I like to make up stuff about myself, say it with a straight face, and try to bluff those who ask questions about it. I love doing that. I never do it to hurt people, though.

I'm working my tail off. I have a demanding day job with a big bank that I have worked with for just about 20 years and multiple mergers. I'm actually an executive with the place -- a closely-guarded secret. I have business and database knowledge and am somehow able to bridge the two.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
-- Rambling on and one with a decent conversationalist.
-- Avoiding sporting events.
-- Puppeteering my bare hands to sing along with opera.
-- Saying weird shit.
-- Abusing the em dash.
-- Learning new things. The day I stop learning is the day I am brain dead.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Heh. Either the height or the beard.

Recently, I was profiled due to the beard. I was at a bar, getting ready to ask for a grapefruit juice when the bartender saw my hat, glasses and beard and began to reach for the cooler that contained cans of Pabst Blue Ribbon. I stopped him in his tracks when I told him that I'm a Portland native, I'm 44 years old, and I don't consume alcohol.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I will say that I read books in my living room. I have tended to read more history of late. Authors that I like to read or have read include Kurt Vonnegut, Graham Greene, Paul Theroux, and Ernest Hemingway. I am currently reading "Charlie Wilson's War," which I picked up at a charity book sale.

As for music, I'm pretty open. Throughout my 30s and up until a year ago I was an experimental-to-bop-era jazz fan, but last year I started to branch out a little into funkier stuff. On the radio I listen to KMHD, KOPB, and KBOO. I'm a KBOO member. Occasionally I will go see a music show, but most of the musicians I like are either dead or not touring.

Food: I'm guiltily non-discriminatory. I love a decent grilled cheese. I like to make them on nearly-burned bread -- nice and crispy. I use vegan cheese, sliced pickles, and Dave's Killer Bread. Veganaise is like crack to me. I don't spend a lot of time in the kitchen, I could improve this area of my life some.

As for movies, I like some indie stuff and historical depictions. I like weird movies, too. I'm not a fan of action flicks. Humans and acting interest me. I like movies that express emotion, rather than destruction.

I have no television at home. Sometimes I will watch a movie on my laptop. Lately I have been watching movies about war. What impresses me about these is not the strategy or the armaments, but the complete oversight with regards to the harm to people involved.

I will play some of the stand-up video games -- like the ones at Ground Kontrol -- but only infrequently. The online gaming world is waste of time and leads to brain rot, I opine. Those that are into it are those that like excessive alcohol or drugs -- they hurt inside, and need something to take away the pain.

Being from Portland, I have seen a lot of change come to my hometown and I'm not necessarily up on what's happening. I do like to get out of doors for walks in the woods or to see funky things outside of the city. I'm not drastically outdoorsy -- I would be more at home on the streets or visiting weird touristy (or non-touristy) things about.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
In reality, what I want here is inconsequential.

I suppose, though, if I were forced to leave the house in a hurry, I would grab my kitty, my laptop, a few keepsakes, a book to read and jump into the car and get the heck outta here. Heck, I'm not even sure if I would put on my clothes.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I think about a lot things all of the time.

I generally don't believe in two-person marriage, I have some fairly radical ideas about that. In a nutshell, I believe that as long as two or more adults love one another they can enter into some sort of legal status that qualifies them for "marriage" benefits. Other than that, the government should stay out of legislating so-called morality.

I am disgusted by how our society treats non-white-males as unequal. Still. I think we've backslid a bit in recent years, too.

I'm amazed at how people are so dumbed down by repeated acts of violence that society has become such an uncaring pack of selfish jerks.

I love the rain. Really. I like the way it can take the noise from the air. I find it purifying, essential, wonderful. Warm spring rains are meant to be celebrated: cold winter rains are to be savored. Where is the rain, anyways? Come back, rain!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Trying to get out of the house.

Cursing loudly at my Macbook Pro.

Looking at one of four fishtanks that exist in the separate floors of my home.

Relaxing, initially -- maybe doing some light housework.

Reading.
You should message me if
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If you aren't afraid of walking in the rain.

Or, if you want to meet a very tall, unabashedly liberal, authentic, native Portlander.

You don't care if I don't drink. Help yourself to whatever: I can be perfectly nutsy wutsy without it. I would probably not get along with you if you are a daily drinker, though, or need to drink a lot all of the time.