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  • Ages 31–48
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 3:41pm
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
5' 5" (1.65m)
Body Type
Post grad
Might want kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.

“I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing...if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive...I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life's betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain! I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it, or fix it. I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own, if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, to be realistic, to remember the limitations of being human."
~ Oriah Mountain Dreamer

”Don't choose me because I am faithful,
Don't choose me because I am kind.
If your heart settles on me, I'm for the taking.
Take me for longing or leave me behind."
~ Alison Krauss

“Is it possible, in the final analysis, for one human being to achieve perfect understanding of another? We can invest enormous time and energy in serious efforts to know another person, but in the end, how close can we come to that person's essence? We convince ourselves that we know the other person well, but do we really know anything important about anyone?”
~ Haruki Murakami, The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle


Are you insatiably curious, hopelessly in love with the wonder-filled, beautiful and heartbreaking roller coaster of experience? Do you long to live authentically and make a real difference?

Like many, I'm a passel of paradoxes: passionate and peaceful, serious and humorous, mature and playful, geeky and normal. Words (reading and writing), music (listening and performing), practicing Zen, and promoting Sudbury schooling are my main passions. I believe in reason, compassion, pragmatism, wonder, and integrity. I don’t believe in boredom: the world is too full of fascination, and the value of stillness and emptiness is too often underestimated. While I cherish solitude, I crave connection and a world-expanding partnership.

And in case this profusion of prose isn't enough, you're welcome to check out my blog, Write Learning (
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am on a quest to prove that idealism and a modestly comfortable lifestyle are compatible. In particular, I'm working to get the Friends of Sudbury Schooling (a nonprofit I started some years ago) finally off the ground. I've been associated with Sudbury schools for about 18 years, and it frustrates me that they aren't more widely known.

I read a lot, meditate daily, and exercise several times per week. In fact, one of the reasons I moved back was to delve deeper into practice at the Austin Zen Center. A kick-ass choir is also something I require in my life, as I've discovered over more than a decade with the Ars Nova Singers and the ensembles of Chorus Austin. And I have a weak spot for pub trivia.

At various times I've supplemented my school income with writing/editing work, and I’m a "nearly published...ah, maybe not" children’s book author. I try to maintain, if not develop, my fledgling Spanish, and I play my piano with varying frequency (though my trumpet hasn't seen the light of day in years).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
  • writing/editing
  • playing/connecting with kids of all ages
  • music
  • logic games/puzzles (minimally skilled at chess, enjoy Sudoku, Set, and games that challenge my nonverbal side...)
  • communicating (e.g., listening, public speaking)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Actual words from actual friends!

  • "I see you as an attractive, fit, smart, introspective man, who will take risks but only after weighing the rewards against his values."
  • earnest
  • peaceful soul
  • good hugger
  • "It's always nice to be in your presence...for the beautiful, sincere person you are."
  • "You make people feel safe."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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BOOKS: Anything by Wendell Berry or Haruki Murakami; Pilgrim at Tinker Creek, An American Childhood, and other works by Annie Dillard; Walden; Letters to a Young Poet; Goedel, Escher, Bach; The Unbearable Lightness of Being and Immortality by Kundera; Gilead; Angle of Repose; The Heart is a Lonely Hunter; Foreskin's Lament; The Lover's Dictionary; The Road; Benjamin Hoff's Tao of Pooh and Te of Piglet; The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier & Clay; A Prayer for Owen Meany; Ender's Game; and various works by Jeanette Winterson, Kurt Vonnegut, David Sedaris, Bill McKibben, Sherman Alexie, Roald Dahl, Etgar Keret, Richard Bach, Barbara Kingsolver, Italo Calvino, J.R.R. Tolkien, and William Least Heat-Moon; poetry by Jane Kenyon, Linda Pastan, E.E. Cummings, and Mary Oliver; and spiritual/self-help writings by Pema Chodron, Philip Kapleau, Steve Hagen, Byron Katie, and Don Miguel Ruiz.

MOVIES/TV: Lord of the Rings, Chicago, Rivers and Tides, Buena Vista Social Club, Being John Malkovich, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Lost in Translation, Memento, The Pirates of Penzance, Serenity, Groundhog Day, Stranger Than Fiction, movies featuring Christopher Guest (e.g., The Princess Bride, Spinal Tap, Best in Show), movies by Miyazaki and Tim Burton, and foreign films (e.g., The Motorcycle Diaries; Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon; City of God; The Triplets of Belleville), and various incarnations of Star Wars and Star Trek. As for TV, I don't really watch it; just select series on DVD/Netflix (e.g., Deadwood, Flight of the Conchords, Battlestar Galactica, The Wire) or own (Monty Python's Flying Circus, Firefly).

MUSIC: classical, vocal, piano, jazz, Celtic, bluegrass, Latin, and above all, UNCLASSIFIABLE. Categories are so limited -- and limiting. The two best concerts I ever saw were The Tallis Scholars and Bobby McFerrin.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
  • capital-A Art in its many manifestations
  • spending time with children and creative, thoughtful, child-like people
  • the mindfulness of journaling and meditating
  • quality time outdoors, whether hiking, exercising, or simply sitting
  • passion and imagination (Whitman's "barbaric yawp"), flexibility and emptiness (Thoreau's "broad margins")
  • corrective lenses
  • a library card and access to a good collection (quality used bookstores, too)
  • Internet access (though periods of intentional/strategic doing-without are a good thing, for sure)

  • …and breaking silly rules like limiting myself to only six things...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What most preoccupies me these days is figuring out how to make a real difference in the world while also making enough money to support a modestly comfortable lifestyle.

Spirituality is also on my mind a lot, even while I'm highly skeptical (in the agnostic/atheist/humanist sense). I'm compelled by the prospect of inner peace and, beyond that, endlessly fascinated by the things people talk themselves into believing. I practice Zen for its meditativeness, its embrace of paradox, and its unpretentiousness. I don't believe in the supernatural, though I am deeply concerned with meaningfulness and ethics, and I appreciate that "There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio,/Than are dreamt of in your philosophy."
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
What's so special about Friday? I think a better question might be what I do when I have a little time to myself. Besides reading, journaling, and meditating (see above), I'm likely to go for walks, watch a good movie/show, play a little piano, chat with friends, try to write something or, too much of the time, putz about online.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I like to sniff books. Stick my nose in the spine and take a good whiff. Preferably when no one's watching. Especially new books, but really old books have their distinct bouquet. I swear, I can almost get drunk browsing in a used bookstore.

On a more serious note, I've been divorced since the summer of 2006, separated a year longer than that.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over. are creative, playful, and passionate, yet also responsible and mature. value both evidence-based skepticism and mindfulness.'ll inspire me to begin learning the guitar, improve my Spanish, and/or work on a new language. enjoy games such as chess and Set. love reading aloud and being read to. keep a journal.