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48 Arvada, CO Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 31–48
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 12:03pm
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Graduated from masters program
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
”Don't choose me because I am faithful,
Don't choose me because I am kind.
If your heart settles on me, I'm for the taking.
Take me for longing or leave me behind."
~ Alison Krauss

(1) If you live in Austin and I browsed your profile, it's because I'm seriously considering moving back this coming summer (2015). If you live in metro Denver, you should know this.
(2) Since OkC retired the journal feature, and in case this profusion of prose isn't enough, you're welcome to check out my blog, Write Learning (

"We all want to open our eyes and hearts with someone and finally see the truth. I would love to meet someone and create the universe together. I would love to open my eyes and see what is going on together with someone. How about you?"
~ Reb Anderson

Do you have books/reading material scattered about your home? Is there no limit to your curiosity? Do you long to live authentically and intentionally and make a real difference?

Like a lot of people, I'm a passel of paradoxes: passionate and peaceful, serious and humorous, mature and playful, geeky and normal. Words (reading and writing), music (listening and performing), and working/playing with children are my main passions, along with seeking a sense of home and cultivating creativity, mindfulness, and purpose.

While I'm open to new experiences and things outside my comfort zone, I also need time in places where I can hear myself think. I believe in reason, compassion, pragmatism, wonder, and integrity. I don’t believe in boredom, though: the world is too full of fascination, and the value of stillness and emptiness is too often underestimated.

While I cherish chances for solitude, I crave connection; I very much want Something More, a true partnership. What's more, I'm willing to relocate for it, especially to places with Sudbury schools, Zen centers, and kick-ass choirs.
What I’m doing with my life
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In May 2013 I moved back to Denver after a year in Austin (I first moved to Colorado back in '98) as part of my quest to prove that idealism and a modest, yet comfortable, lifestyle are compatible. In particular, I'm working to get the Friends of Sudbury Schooling (a nonprofit I started some years ago) finally off the ground. I've been associated with Sudbury schools for about 17 years, and it frustrates me that they aren't a more prominent feature on the educational landscape.

I read a lot, meditate daily, and exercise regularly. A kick-ass choir is also something I require in my life, as I've discovered during a decade or so with the Ars Nova Singers and one year of singing with the ensembles of Chorus Austin. I also have a weak spot for pub trivia.

At various times I've supplemented my school income with writing/editing work, and I’m a "nearly published...ah, maybe not" children’s book author. I try to maintain, if not develop, my fledgling Spanish, and I play my piano with varying frequency (though my trumpet hasn't seen the light of day in years).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
  • *writing/editing
  • *playing/connecting with kids of all ages
  • *music
  • *logic games/puzzles (minimally skilled at chess, enjoy Sudoku, Set, and games that challenge my nonverbal side...)
  • *communicating (e.g., listening, public speaking)
The first things people usually notice about me
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Well, I imagine I'm perceived as the quiet, intellectual type. I suspect my height (or lack thereof) and youthful appearance (for my age) stand out as well.

In terms of things people have actually said, one friend described me as a peaceful soul (it's a goal, anyway), while another said it's "always nice to be in your presence...for the beautiful, sincere person you are." I've been told I make people feel safe, and that I'm a good hugger. Others have described me as sweet, smart, communicative, creative, inspiring, witty...and modest. ;-)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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BOOKS: Anything by Haruki Murakami; Pilgrim at Tinker Creek, An American Childhood, and other works by Annie Dillard; Walden; Letters to a Young Poet; Goedel, Escher, Bach; The Unbearable Lightness of Being and Immortality by Kundera; Gilead; Angle of Repose; The Heart is a Lonely Hunter; Foreskin's Lament; The Lover's Dictionary; The Road; Benjamin Hoff's Tao of Pooh and Te of Piglet; The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier & Clay; A Prayer for Owen Meany; Ender's Game; and various works by Jeanette Winterson, Wendell Berry, Kurt Vonnegut, David Sedaris, Bill McKibben, Sherman Alexie, Roald Dahl, Etgar Keret, Richard Bach, Barbara Kingsolver, Italo Calvino, J.R.R. Tolkien, and William Least Heat-Moon; poetry by Jane Kenyon, Linda Pastan, E.E. Cummings, and Mary Oliver; and spiritual/self-help writings by Pema Chodron, Philip Kapleau, Steve Hagen, Byron Katie, and Don Miguel Ruiz.

MOVIES/TV: Lord of the Rings, Chicago, Rivers and Tides, Buena Vista Social Club, Being John Malkovich, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Lost in Translation, Memento, The Pirates of Penzance, Serenity, Groundhog Day, Stranger Than Fiction, movies featuring Christopher Guest (e.g., The Princess Bride, Spinal Tap, Best in Show), movies by Miyazaki and Tim Burton, and foreign films (e.g., The Motorcycle Diaries; Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon; City of God; The Triplets of Belleville), and various incarnations of Star Wars and Star Trek. As for TV, I don't really watch it; just select series on DVD/Netflix (e.g., Deadwood, Flight of the Conchords, Battlestar Galactica, The Wire) or own (Monty Python's Flying Circus, Firefly).

MUSIC: classical, vocal, piano, jazz, Celtic, bluegrass, Latin, and above all, UNCLASSIFIABLE. Categories are so limited -- and limiting. The two best concerts I ever saw were The Tallis Scholars and Bobby McFerrin.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
  • *capital-A Art in all its manifestations
  • *spending time with children and creative, thoughtful, child-like people
  • *the mindfulness of journaling and meditating
  • *quality time outdoors, whether hiking, exercising, or simply sitting
  • *passion and imagination (Whitman's "barbaric yawp"), flexibility and emptiness (Thoreau's "broad margins")
  • *corrective lenses
  • *a library card and access to a good collection (quality used bookstores, too)
  • *Internet access (sigh…)

  • …and breaking silly rules like limiting myself to only six things...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What most preoccupies me these days is figuring out how to make a real difference in the world while also making enough money to support a modestly comfortable lifestyle.

Spirituality is also on my mind a lot, even while I'm highly skeptical (in the agnostic/atheist/humanist sense). I'm compelled by the prospect of inner peace and, beyond that, endlessly fascinated by the things people talk themselves into believing. I practice Zen for its meditativeness, its embrace of paradox, and its unpretentiousness. I don't believe in the supernatural, though I am deeply concerned with meaningfulness and ethics, and I appreciate that "There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio,/Than are dreamt of in your philosophy."
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
What's so special about Friday? I think a better question might be what I do when I have a little time to myself. Besides reading, journaling, and meditating (see above), I'm likely to go for walks, watch a good DVD, play a little piano, chat with friends, try to write something or, too much of the time, putz about online.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I like to sniff books. Stick my nose in the spine and take a good whiff. Preferably when no one's watching. Especially new books, but really old books have their distinct bouquet. I swear, I can almost get drunk browsing in a used bookstore.

On a more serious note, I've been divorced since the summer of 2006, separated a year longer than that.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over. are creative, playful, and passionate, yet also responsible and mature recognize the importance of evidence-based skepticism while also appreciating the value of mindfulness practice'll inspire me to begin learning the guitar, improve my Spanish, and/or work on a new language enjoy games such as chess and Set. love being read to, especially at bedtime keep a journal.