34 Quincy, MA
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My self-summary
I'm a curious blend of the domestic and the wild, with the latter often taking a slight lead, so I have a persistent creative streak and a love of anything outdoors.

Introvert presenting as extroverted. I don't see it as disingenuous, it's just that sometimes jobs condition people to be quite the opposite extreme of who they are.

I want to meet someone who wants to share a meaningful relationship in whatever form that may take based on the unfolding of natural laws of biology, chemistry, and physics 😊 Long, short, casual, serious...there are merits to every experience, and I'm open to them all.

Honesty, playfulness, and passion are essential to me, and i'd hope my future partner shares or at least aspires to embody those values.

I love to write but I'm not here for a pen pal or an online relationship, they're too tedious and dystopically abstract. This site was built for people to meet other people in the flesh, period. Skip the tempting "like" button, bite the bullet and let's talk!

I've reached a point in my life where I've now assigned absolute value to things: fresh air, fine wine, mental and physical fitness, coffee (i just had to add that in again), cuddling, meditating, dancing, taking in a thunderstorm, NPR podcasts, bonsai, poetry readings... If you value one, some, or all of these, please do apply. :-)
What I’m doing with my life
My day job is as operations manager for a Cambridge-based biotech/pharma market research company.

I've got several books of fiction and poetry under my belt, and am now dabbling in creative non-fiction and screenwriting. i'm working on getting my stuff published little by little before pitching a manuscript toward first book contests.

Roadtripping as much as i can on weekends.

Most recently I started studying both the art of bonsai, and Tantra, and am relishing their conceptual similarities.
I’m really good at
Writing, editing, doing impressions of film characters and monologuing, giving massages, training bonsai, knowing where I'm going (in terms of directions, not necessarily where my life is going), problem-solving, hand-eye coordination, predicting where lightning will strike, dancing in my underwear, downing a pot of coffee, preferably Peet's.
The first things people usually notice about me
eyes, locomotion, or ass, depending on the direction they first approach me from.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Zen and the Art of Writing, Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man, The Collected Poems of Yeats, Chronic, Sea Change, Given Sugar, Given Salt, A Coney Island of the Mind, Zen Mind Beginner's Mind, Red: Passion and Patience in the Desert, Urban Tantra, Of Mice and Men, The Things We Carried, Behind my Eyes, The Future of Life, Invisible Cities, Lunch Poems, Giovanni's Room, The Rosy Crucifixion, A Pilgrim at Tinker
Creek, American Gods, the Adventures of
Sherlock Holmes.

Films: The Godfather (and most other gangster films); many many screwball comedies from the 30s and 40's (think Philadelphia Story), noir like
The Maltese Falcon; Kung Fu films (yes, even the
cheesy ones), LOTR, Run Lola Run, Heaven,
Spirited Away, most everything by Kubrick
(except Barry Lyndon), everything by Kurosawa,
Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon, Pan's Labyrinth, Bent, Brokeback Mountain, Y Tu Mama Tambien,
Amelie, Kill Bill Vol 1, Traffic, Dances with
Wolves, One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest, The
Descent, City of God, There Will Be Blood,
Incendies, Gravity.

TV: The Walking Dead, The Sopranos, La Femme Nikita, The X-Files, 2 Broke Girls, American
Horror Story, Family Guy, Big Bang Theory, Web
Therapy, Seinfeld, OITNB

Music: early medieval chant and polyphony, J.S. Bach, Beethoven, Debussy, Satie, Jimi Hendrix, The Doors, Ella Fitzgerald, Thelonious Monk, Dire Straits, Fleetwood Mac, REM, sigur ros, The Rolling Stones, Pink Floyd, Radiohead, Alternative Riot (a friend's band), Catherine Wheel, Stars of the Lid, Mogwai

Food: Indian, Chinese, seafood, Mexican (authentic not bastardized), French, Italian (especially northern cooking)
The six things I could never do without
There are needs and then there are desires. Here are the needs: food, shelter, safety, love, intellectual stimulation, and the Red Line subway.

The wants: a smashing sex life, a spiritual center from which i can draw out a purpose to life, hair that does what I command, a more organized closet, a sprawling bonsai garden, and perhaps some day far down the line, a son or daughter.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
friends, family, spirituality, what guys in my train car are gay and guessing which are partnered, non-linear vs linear thinking, creativity, the travesty of the gender binary and associated stupidities, sex and sexuality, social justice, mountains, severe weather (especially tornadoes), Frank O'Hara, natural cycles, coffee, DSW clearance shoes, Milton's Paradise Lost, the imperiled state of the environment, and how i can sneak a dog into my apartment off my landlord's radar.
On a typical Friday night I am
Last Friday I hit the racks at TJ Maxx on my way home from work, wandered the city, got a burrito, looked for street theatre then for a hole-in-the-wall enclave for a cocktail or some jazz/blues.

Ohhhhhh, a TYPICAL Friday night? I usually squeeze together a hot body contest at Machine, pool hustling at Gillian's, drag racing down Boylston, swimming the length of the Charles River, and then being taken via rooftop helicopter to my villa on Fire Island for the weekend where i get to be fanned with palm fronds by beautiful men :-)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have a cool hard exterior but a warm gooey center.
You should message me if
...you are self-made (or self-making), confident minus any arrogance, quirky, and independent...there's nothing sexier.
...you don't default to negative thinking.
...you enjoy the outdoors or relish road trips to god knows where.
...you are a cuddlebug.
...you have the time. I'll make a robust return on your investment.