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29 Charlottesville, VA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 26–38
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 12:49pm
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body type
Atheism, and very serious about it
Working on Ph.D program
Seeing Someone
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Has cats
English (Fluently), Russian (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am a writer, swing dancer, amateur philosopher, proud conservatory drop-out, and soon-to-be-professional psychologist. Before starting my PhD in clinical psychology 4 years ago, I'd spent several important years growing up and figuring out the person I want to be. Since then I've done a pretty decent job of becoming that person, largely by finding and doing the work I love (and getting a little better at it every day). Only thing missing now is a fellow traveler who's as busy doing the work he loves - but also as hungry for someone to share and celebrate the fruits of all that work with - as I am. Plus, it's amazing how much more productive I become when there's the promise of a good cuddle break to incentivize me.

Whether at work or at rest (or even mid-cuddle), I can be stubborn and difficult when discussing ideas - which I do eagerly and often - and I don't back down when I think I'm right about something that's important to be right about. That said, there's little I find sexier than being corrected and forced to change my thinking - in other words, to learn something - by a man who is as intellectually confident and as stubbornly insistent on figuring out the truth as I am (or more so!).

Oh yeah, and also I'm completely silly and impulsive and will inevitably explode in fits of laughter at almost nothing at all (but only once I start to like you a little), and also I'm a total cry-baby (but only once I start to trust you a lot). And I'm obsessed with (mostly old) movies. And I love to swing dance. And I'm terrible at knowing when to stop. (Like right here, see?)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
PhDing my way through the larger part of it (but also one of the better parts - so far, anyway - so who's complaining!).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
rattling off all the various things I'm bad at. Why isn't there a "I'm really bad at" section? Oh, right... dating profile.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I tend to talk a lot! And there's also a fair amount of giggling that gets interspersed with the talking, so I'm told.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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TV shows: Star Trek: TNG; How I Met your Mother; Gilmore Girls; Firefly; Buffy; Angel; House; Bones; Castle; Sex & the City; In Treatment; Wonder Years, I Dream of Jeannie, Bewitched (those still count as TV shows, right?)

Music: Fiona Apple, Madeleine Peyroux, Sara Bareilles, Norah Jones, Suzanne Vega, The Weepies, Frank Sinatra, Billy Holliday, Judy Garland, Jo Stafford, Sammy Davis, Jr., Bobby Darin, Louis Armstrong, Tegan and Sara, Bird and the Bee, ABBA, Wicked, Billy Joel, Gordon Webster, Julie London, Robin Mckelle, Felix Mendelssohn, Chopin, Liszt, Sibelius, Debussy, Gabriel Fauré, Tchaikovsky, Beethoven, Rachmaninov, Gershwin, Tango music, Gotan Project, Yann Tiersen, Bjork, Tori Amos, Dresden Dolls, Leonard Cohen, West Side Story, Stephen Sondheim, Cole Porter, Kurt Weill, Leonard Bernstein, Blackmore's Night, Eva Cassidy, Dido, Neil Diamond, Billy Joel, Bob Dylan, Vladimir Vysotsky, Shakira, Massive Attack, Loreena McKennitt, Edith Piaf, Carsie Blanton, Beantown Swing Orchestra, Cangelosi Cards (I'm just getting started here...)

Books: The Fountainhead, Atlas Shrugged, Scarlet Pimpernel, The Browning Version, The Amelia Peabody Series, Phantom of the Opera, Pride and Prejudice, Jane Eyre, Wuthering Heights, Cyrano de Bergerac, Turgenev, We the Living, Hunchback of Notre Dame, The Man Who Laughs

Movies: Life Is Beautiful, The Lives of Others, Waitress, You've Got Mail, About a Boy, Serenity, Strictly Ballroom, Shall We Dance?, Groundhog Day, The Princess Bride, The Sixth Sense, Gran Torino, A Very Long Engagement, Amelie, Back to the Future I, II, and III, Guess Who's Coming to Dinner, The Sound Of Music, West Side Story, Fiddler on the Roof, Frozen, Chocolat, Thomas Crown Affair, Second-Hand Lions, Gladiator, Gattaca, Shawshank Redemption, 12 Angry Men, Philadelphia Story, Holiday, His Girl Friday, A Beautiful Mind, Good Will Hunting.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) Swing dancing
2) Good conversation
3) Fiona Apple
4) The Fountainhead
5) Raspberries
6) My shiny red punch buggy (whose name is Kaylee the Car).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
thinking... and how not to spend so much time thinking about thinking... What about thinking do I spend so much time thinking about? Let's see: the interface between implicit and explicit cognition, and between cognition and emotion... the difference between goal-oriented, intentional thinking and rumination, or what I like to call "emoting with words"... the role of intentionality and effortful control in effective schema change... the relationship between self-esteem, cognitive style, and happiness...

Also: Joss Whedon's genius... Also: the ingredients of a "style" (in art, in a personality, where-have-you)... Also: the various ways in which my subconscious is smarter than me.... Also: when the next swing dance is happening.... Also: how to sing better without really trying... Also: food.

(Yeah, did I mention I spend a lot of time thinking about what it is that I think about? You can see why this, of all the Okcupid profile questions, is a particularly dangerous - not to mention word-count-bolstering - question for me.)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
working or swing-dancing (and sometimes both at the same time).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Actually there are way too many private things I'm willing to admit with way too little prompting. So I'll take this opportunity to monitor myself and only admit 1 thing: I have a bit of a difficult time resisting the urge to admit things with very little prompting. :D
You should message me if
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you've actually read this far and still haven't lost your mind or taken to snoring audibly!

And/or: If you recognize - and understand - the line being referenced in my username.