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Xanxabar

53 F La Jolla, CA

I’m looking for

  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 40–52
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 1:52pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has kids
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), French (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
A motto I like: "You only live once. But, if you do it right, once is enough."

I like to challenge myself and usually have a few pet projects I'm working on. Cannot understand people who are bored, too many things to do for that. I have a full life but make time for the things that feed my soul, which for me usually involves experiencing art/music/film, creating something, time spent with family and friends, and getting out into the world for something physical along the lines of running, swimming, etc.

Enjoy people who are still excited about life's possibilities, are actively engaged in their lives, know what NPR is, and who have taken the time to figure out what delights them, even if that means straying from the beaten path and experimenting a bit.

I haven't outgrown going out to see shows (music), riding the Lambretta I've had for 20 years, or thrift-store shopping . . . and hope I never do. I'm drawn to quirky and original people who've crafted their own style and taste, rather than going with mass/mainstream/off-the-shelf.

Spirituality is important to me, as is living my values and treating others with love, kindness, and tolerance.

I think I'll bookend this little summary with a couple more mottos:

"If you don't dream, you'll never have a dream come true."

"Start before you're ready."
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Working and raising two kids consumes a good part of my waking hours, and I feel very fortunate for both.

Also sporadically plotting how to gather the funds/means to stop working and visit all our National Parks and circle the globe . . . . as a Plan B thinking about destinations for my next (much shorter) vacation.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Turning dreams into reality. And making a list of possible routes between the National Parks.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Well, I'm not a mind reader but am hoping it's something good like my winning personality and positive energy :P
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Sheltering Sky, Outliers, Knitting Without Tears, works by Joseph Campbell, Chekov, Nabokov, Camus, Borges to name a few.

Film: I like a lot of Herzog; French New Wave; recently saw a little jewel called Jellyfish; Spirited Away and other Miyazaki films; not really a film but keep me glued - HBO's Six Feet Under; Dig; lots of documentaries; Fuel; and so many more . . . films make me very happy.

Music: Torch singers, early blues and jazz and R&B, 60's garage, 70's krautrock, industrial and electronic, ambient, afrocuban and latin (early Os Mutantes). A random sampling of my iPod library: Brian Eno, Robert Fripp, Radiohead, Silver Pesos, Elliott Smith, Billy Bragg/Wilco, Animal Collective, Dandy Warhols, Nina Simone, Dead Can Dance, Muse, Television, Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan, Martin Denny, Les Baxter . . . Music is my drug of choice!

Food: Fresh fruits and vegetables head the list for me - I actually like eating pretty clean. Sushi, Thai, and Vietnamese are favs of mine.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Puh-lease . . . only six? Well clearly there are more but music, film, family, fresh produce, my Lambretta, and exercise do hover around the top.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The mysteries of life, enjoying this moment, how to continue to reach my potential and be the best mother/daughter/friend/citizen of the world that I can be.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out and about or hanging out with my kids.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have nary a tattoo.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are a positive person, enjoy life, are fit and like to get out and about vs. spending copious amounts of time in front of a screen.

You have young(er) children and/or enjoy kids. Parents just seem to "get it", whatever "it" is.

Feel like you're a little offbeat, possibly misunderstood, but kind of like it.

Have good hygiene.

Understand that chemistry and pheromones are mysterious and elusive, but essential.

Have a picture posted (that is reasonably recent and accurate!)