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Xenigon

23 M Bloomington, IN

I’m looking for

  • Guys and girls who like bi guys
  • Ages 19–38
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 7:08pm
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
A little extra
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism
Sign
Aquarius
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Medicine
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
"As blushing may make a whore seem virtuous, so modesty may make a fool seem sensible." -Jonathan Swift

When I was little, I wanted to be a Marine Biologist studying whales in Northern California. When I was less little, I realized that octopuses are terribly smart and I was very much quite frightened of them, so devoting my life to career in which I'd be encroaching on their turf seemed idiotic. This sort of idealizing a thing and then only later realizing the practical constraints is delineative of my thinking.

I'm genderfluid, or at least a sometimes crossdresser who feels no dysphoria about pronouns or clothing and tends to like the trangressive and attention-grabbing aspects of ignoring typical gender roles. Androgyne is the most accurate descriptor.

I read in abundance and have the attendant vocabulary.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm working really weird hours with people with disabilities because I don't want to disrupt their lives and I'm sort of a pushover when it comes to doing my bosses favors. However, I love my job and would do it forever if I could, you know, make a decent living wage off of it. Still, I'd also like to work in a mental hospital and as a special education teacher to have a more comprehensive grasp of things. The current goal includes a.) motivating myself to at least *try* to get into a counseling psych program, failing, and getting my MSW instead and eventually becoming a social work administrator. Same level of helpfulness, nicer quality of life.

My current hobbies include: videogames, reading, cooking, more reading, staring at nose-rings and harps and thinking I should work some overtime so I can afford them. Update: Totally got a nose-ring. Still lacking a harp.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm eloquent, well-versed in argument, and a decent problem solver. I'm also good at faking proficiencies in language. I play games well, spanning from tabletop survival horror to MMOs.

I think of myself as introverted, but recent feedback suggests I'm pretty good at having a night out with new people and being oh so charming. Your mileage may vary!

I read quickly, and have a vocabulary that is simply awash with inscrutably esoteric synonyms employed only by the stuffily academic. The word is that ladies dig a lavish lexicon, alors voici. I'm really shit at languages with initial consonant mutation, though (I'm looking at you, Cymraeg) [But I'm trying to learn Irish. Slow progress is being made!]

I am a damn fine poet.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Obligatory "how the hell should I know?" Except that I do.

If it's every second Tuesday, they notice my hat and then my hair. Apparently everyone at work notices my hips. I have never even thought about my hips, but they're noticeable?

*I* think people pick up on the "guy in a dress" thing, but apparently I've become so androgynous they a good portion of hoi polloi just think I'm a girl in a dress and that's less noticeable.

N.B.: I am --not-- $27,000 in debt. However, the average student is, and that photo was taken during IU on Strike.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
This is actually just authors you should read if you haven't:
Haruki Murakami (1Q84--which you get 3 bonus points for pronouncing Q-teen-eighty-four)
José Saramago (Ensaio sobre a cegueira)
Catherynne Valenté (The Girl Who Circumnavigated Fairyland in a Ship of Her Own Making)
China Miéville (it's a tie: Perdido Street Station / Embassytown)
Ai Ogawa (just read all of her poetry)
Ursula K. Le Guin (The Left Hand of Darkness)
Octavia E. Butler (Any of her work will do)

My movies and shows: I dig comedy. Dark comedy, awkward comedy, romantic comedy, I like it. I dig the crime shows (like Boomtown) where they look at everyone involved's perspective. I dig Game of Thrones. I dig French New Wave cinema. I dig stand-up comedy. I like cooking shows (original Iron Chef, Morimoto4lyfe) I like quite a bit of anime. Not too big on reality shows.

Music:
((Sugary pop nonsense:
Eisley, Mika, Panic at the Disco, Ke$ha

Indie rock/poppy stuff:
The Shins, Death Cab, Arcade Fire, Belle and Sebastien, Stars, The Killers, Of Monsters and Men

(I feel like Coheed and Cambria falls perfectly in the middle here)

Melodic/Folk metal: Nightwish, Cruachan, Ensiferum [basically the less screaming the better...]

Vocal Trance:
If Sarah Howells is singing in it, I probably like. That said: First State, Ian Van Dahl, Delerium...

Stuff that doesn't fit into the above categories: Sigur Rós, The Streets, Chopin, Elton John))

Food: Just feed me.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Apparently, this is the question that gets answered in bullet points.

I think what I need most, aside from the sarcastic food and water bit, is attention. It would be egregiously false of me to describe my personality without mentioning the word histrionic. I crave it, positive or negative.

Another thing I would suffer from lacking is good conditioner. (though I just use kitchen supplies...eggs, baking soda, beer, vinegar...) I'm in love with my hair, and if it weren't really soft and silky, etc., I'd be really down.

This is cliché, but music. I was in choir for most of childhood and early teens, and a lot of my self-expression came from show choir. Additionally, music provides an escape or distraction from other unpleasant stimuli. It's easy to get lost in Chopin's Nocturne in B♭ minor, or remember more pleasant times from childhood with Blink 182 or somesuch.

As someone who craves attention, I also love argumentation, in its civil sense. There is nothing like two people rationally and passionately discussing almost any subject.

I don't think I could get too far without other people doing science--their pursuits make me far less mopey, and far more hopeful.

Finally, a laptop, or some sort of computer. Too damn nifty not to have one. It's a library, a phone, a time-waster, and so much more.

Sometimes I need what only you can provide: your absence. -Ashleigh Brilliant
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the distinction between morality, ethics, and law. It's a very nuanced distinction that varies far too widely between individuals, and I want to fully understand it.

Words.

Additionally, I think about how I can achieve certain goals of mine--typically in a scholastic sense. I used to pore over course catalogs and potential graduate programs nigh obsessively. Now I'm more focused on doing actual work in the real world that connects with what I'd have wanted to do with a Ph.D.

I am pretty decent at thinking about sex, too. Or at least kissing people.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
My nights out are actually Monday and Tuesday, as of late. Fridays I usually tend to be at home with a mimosa watching Netflix or playing videogames.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
is that I lost my virginity at the age of 11. Consentingly and willingly; this is not SVU.

I am one of those obnoxious people who yells awful things at first-person shooters. Really awful things, for which I should probably be exiled from civilization. The tide of this has currently ebbed a little, but it might rush back.

I always wanted a nosering and have always been too afraid to get one. The pressure to obtain one is growing, though.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
-you want to read and ideally critique my poetry.
-you want to play games. Dominion is always fun, or Soul Calibur.
-You are Evanna Lynch or Brendan Urie.
-you think Littlefinger or Arya is the best ASoIaF character.
-you describe yourself using the word "clever". Or even "devious".
-you want to help me have a less embarrassingly narrow knowledge of music. I really mostly just know what's on the radio...so if you want to drag me to local shows, or teach me about jazz or classical, I'm game.
-you want to kiss someone. One of the ways I recharge my energies is honestly though things like kissing and sex.
-you're curious about polyamory/genderqueerdom/anything. I'm willing to be an educator.