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My self-summary
Describe myself? I once got a letter saying, "Life is never boring with you. I know I can count on you in any number of dangerous situations. You are ever cheerful and one of the most eloquent men I have ever met."

All true wealth is biological. I believe that just as you touch the lives of others, so too will their energy strengthen you. I'm grateful to have touched many different lives in many different places, so there are a lot of moving parts to me: principled, energetic, silly, steadfastly loyal, clever, adventurous...

Large and containing multitudes, right? I've been called delightfully multicultural, having grown up in the Middle East, New England, and the South and spent a lot of time in Europe and the U.K.. There are bits and pieces of all these places in me, and I'm hoping to meet someone who both appreciates the variety and can bring some of their own to our relationship.

So, yeah, I've got lots of moving parts, but I get along with almost everyone, I'm perpetually upbeat, and I've got a very broad view of the world. Life is big and mostly good.

Physical, mental, and spiritual compatibility and development are really important to me, far more than a shared appreciation of the same hobbies. I genuinely enjoy sweating, I love to learn and see new things, and quiet reflection is part of my daily life. I'm hoping to meet someone who moving parts -- physically, mentally, and spiritually -- mesh with mine. Two critical gears mated in the heart of a great machine...
What I’m doing with my life
By day, I'm inventing the future at a company I love by frantically trying to teach computers to dance (note: they're not really dancing. Computers are bad learners. Also, they have no feet).

Outside of work, I'm always in the middle of a bunch of personal projects. I'm learning how to play some of the waltzes from Swan Lake on the clarinet; I'm teaching myself the guitar; I've taken up boxing for fun and sport; and I'm working on my writing -- short stories, the occasional joke, more puns than is healthy for an adult to write, maybe bawdy limerick or two... I'm part of the a Writer's collective, so I like to have something cooking, so to speak.
I’m really good at
Words. And language. I'm really, really good with words and language. Puns (never metapun I didn't like... *cough*), poetry, storytelling...

I'm also great at making time. Like, literally (well, figuratively literally...) adding more hours to a day. I once managed to be the best man at two back-to-back weddings, one in Colorado and the other here in San Francisco without missing a thing. (I mean, I could have said "no" to one of them, but where's the fun in that?). I keep a time machine in my back pocket, y'see.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm told it's my energy. I'm always brimming with enthusiasm for whatever's at hand, and the enthusiasm's pretty infectious.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Which breath is my favorite? I love reading and my tastes are eclectic, but I've a thing for Speculative Fiction.
"Dune", "One Hundred Years of Solitude", Anything by Lois McMaster Bujold or Stephen Brust, "All the King's Men" by Robert Penn Warren, and J. K. Rowling's Harry Potter series (read 'em in two languages!), Deathly Hallows in particular.

More words words words: The King, Kubla Khan, One Art, Sea Fever, Abou Ben Adhem, Green Hills of Earth, Spring and Fall, The Greedy The People...

I don't watch as many movies as I read books, but I do have a few favorites:
"Interstate 60", "Star Wars: A New Hope", "The Princess Bride" (who doesn't like this movie?), "The Incredibles"

I trend cerebral with my music: prog/classic rock, jazz, classical, that sort of stuff. Things like:
The Mahavishnu Orchestra, Chick Corea, Miles Davis, The Foo Fighters, Dave Brubek, The Protomen, Yasunori Mitsuda, Tchaikovsky (Swan Lake!). I've also got a... thing for 80s power ballads...

My all time favorite video game is Chronotrigger. There, I said it. Ah, rats, can't forget Xenogears, too. Favorite board game? Le Havre.

Hands down, my two favorite paintings are Daybreak and The Persistence of Memory. I have prints of both, and I could stare at them for hours.
The six things I could never do without
A good question, best answered briefly and as a poem:

Challenges, literature, stories.
A song in my head,
The banter of friends,
And the eternity of Seas.

Oh, and my favorite pen. Can't forget that.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why my spectacularly crafted code has managed to spectacularly (and craftily) fail. Performance anxiety, I'm sure.

But when I'm not glaring at proto-sentient machinery, I like to think about inventing The Future and why we're still doing things the way we are. Like, boarding airplanes, for example. (I mean, come on! There's gotta be a faster way than the zombie shuffle...). Or why exactly haven't we invented hoverboards or flying cars yet, and how exactly they'd work and would you even want one if they existed? Let's be honest: of course you would.

I think a lot about politics, economics, and society, too, and the Way the World Works. Power gradients, incentives, injustice, trust and mistrust, and their interplay in society. I've been following the Arab Spring and the Egyptian revolution closely; it's been both uplifting and terrifying by degrees. It's crazy watching history on that scale unfold.
On a typical Friday night I am
These days I've been enjoying my quiet Fridays. I've mostly laid the tango lessons by and now I'm generally playing board games with friends, or peacefully reading or playing video games. The second Friday of every month is the my Writer's Collective meeting, which I attend pretty regularly.

I still do love the occasional Friday karaoke night, and once every few months I'll go visit friends in other cities -- LA, NYC, and Atlanta and the regular candidates these days.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't normally need much sleep, but when I want to I can fall asleep literally anywhere. I've napped on airport floors, slept through earthquakes, dreamed abovedecks during a nasty blow, and, once, snoozed upright in the shower. It was a tight stall of a room, I hadn't gotten much sleep the night before, and the water was so warm...
You should message me if
You're looking for someone you've never found before.

And because you love life and love living in a multitudinous, multifaceted, multicultural world. And you want someone who'll introduce you to all sorts of new things and whom you can introduce to all the things that mean a lot to you. And you believe that all true wealth is biological.

You might message me if you want the conventional adventure of a road trip as well as the unconventional (but still amazing) adventure of growing a relationship, building a family, setting down roots, and forming a community.

Message me if you think that the right word at the right time in the right place can change this world for the better. And if you know that word, tell it to me and we can build the place and wait for the time together.

Conversely, if alcohol and drinking are a regular or large part of your life, it's likely we'd not make a good match. I don't drink for a variety of reasons, and while I truly don't mind being around alcohol, I don't enjoy feeling left out.