I am currently in a very successful relationship and engagement with the wildly fascinating and lovely lildutchgrrl. She is my primary relationship but I am interested in dating others (or something along those lines). Her wanting me to fix up my profiles led to me just scrapping stuff I used to have on here and creating this new one. Ask your questions and realize that when you do you have to give me a mindset you want them answered in as well. I generally respond to questions twice, once from the femme side and once from the butch side. Please react accordingly. I tend to wear pants but I've got some mighty fine heels to go with them!

I like, in no particular order: religion, literature, dancing when no one is looking, music, writing.

I am sinister, socratic, and weird.

Moved up here a year ago and I love it! The Bay Area is this ridiculous hodge-podge that feeds me in unexpected ways. I am currently exploring different avenues of employment and am shopping my resume around in customer service related fields. If you know of any place that's hiring, let me know!
I'm working at being blissfully happy with where my life is; fluidgenderfriend to an awesome chica and a daughter struggling with being the oldest and also, being the one to shoulder burdens I shouldn't be.

My wounds leak starlight, careful.

Making awesome observations and then sticking my foot in my mouth.

Honest.

Also, I am really good at being loyal and keeping confidences. Mostly because I tend to forget whatever it is I'm told to keep quiet.

I excel at being loud-mouthed and sometimes brash because what it allows me to do is hide behind that and keep my introverted self from being put on the spotlight.

I also howl at the moon fairly well, if I do say so myself.

Is what they want to project to me about themselves. I've always been a good mirror for others and it's rare for someone to see past that. The ones that do or the ones that force me to do so for myself are the friends who've stuck around when things just couldn't get worse.

The ones who couldn't or can't do it, they all fell to the wayside and I have never mourned the loss.

I like to read. For fun. If you don't, we aren't going to have much to say to each other.

Most movies I watch because I have them on DVD and even then, I'm not talking new releases.

Music: From Acid Deathmetal to Zydecko, I love it all. Currently, fascinated by recurring musical themes in Bollywood soundtracks and bands like Remy Zero.

Food: I'm a foodie. However, nothing really settles me down like good ol' comfort foods; chicken soups, crockpot dinners. I'm a homebody with foodie tendencies, Cost Plus is my friend.

We're bypassing the obvious basics; food, shelter, clothing, yes?

-My phone. When I first got a cell phone, I hated it. Didn't comprehend why in the world one would need to be able to be reached at any time of the day, let alone text messaging, what a waste! Now, I send maybe about 150-300 texts a day and receive about the same amount. Using my phone to check my email isn't a rare occurrence.

-My amazing triple chain wallet chain. I don't know what it is about these things but I am excited to have this one unlike some of my previous ones.

-Whatever book I happen to be reading that day. I can blaze through a 450-600 page book in a day if I'm intrigued by it. Colleagues have been known to hold conversations with me while staring at the covers of the book. I can multi-track so it's not exactly a rudeness, I just. . .maybe it's a compulsion?

-Music. Radios, my own tunes, I have to hear it, sing along to it (sometimes well, sometimes not as much) unless it's a case of ohrwurm and then it can't die fast enough! I play stringed instruments as well as sing (thanks for the lessons mom, sorry I didn't become the new Maria Callas).

-My fiancee. And the adopted catbabies. Oof, I never thought I'd say this but I'm glad to have these balls of fur in my life!

-My family. I have a family I was born to (they'll never change) and a family I choose of the people who are around me (they've not changed in a couple of years and I don't think I plan to do any changes to them in the foreseeable future) and all of them know this one truth of mine; if it came down to their lives for mine, I wouldn't hestitate.

Everything and nothing. I am a self-diagnosed mild anxiety type and I combat that by doing daily blank mind meditations. Answering these questions is my meditation today as I keep a clear mind and just answer as I'm moved to do so. La!

With the sweetie, deciding what we want to do or staying in and doing late night things together. Currently, my Wednesday nights are pretty open and I'm looking to fill them with fun things to do either in the city or exploring the environs east of it. Yes, that means Oakland. :)

I say I'm not a romantic but I do romantic things, with complete abandon. A Lot.

You're not scared of me. Or if you think you need to look in the mirror for a while, sort some stuff out.

Or if you want to get married, my track record's pretty solid in this regard. People who date me end up settling down within two partners (usually it only takes the next one) after being with me. I think it's a feature, not a flaw.