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39 San Francisco, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 33–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Aug 2
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Not at all
Catholicism, and laughing about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of university
Politics / Government
Mostly monogamous
Might want kids
Has dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
My self-summary. Crazy/beautiful? More with the crazy? Monkey lover (I LOOOVE MONKEYS!!)? A charming blend of snark, intuitiveness, compassion and poor impulse control?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I shall dance you into submission. It's what i have been trained for.

And then there's work, and art, and writing, and thinking up new amazing change-the-worldy projects that i may or may not start ever. I feel like I'm coming into a new place in my life, and i want to know new folks and have shiny new (or even slightly dented) experiences. I finally feel able to maybe NOT be in pursuit of anything, to just.. um.. walk the earth. Or something. Not sure. It'll come, though, I'm not worried.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I think i'm great at making people feel comfortable at first talk. I'm great at getting excited over small or seemingly inconsequential things, and i'm really well-versed in gratitude. I've been told I make people feel good. I have a habit of giving a lot of heart to folks and ideas that strike me as shivery-good, but i don't always check to see if there's reciprocity involved. Sometimes eye opening but, me being the most lovingly co dependent misanthrope EVER, i don't mind so much.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The first thing peope usually notice about me is that i am tall for a grrl. My dreadlocks are quite long, so people comment on those all the time. I also get, "You have a beautiful smile," but that may just be a pick up line...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I am recently converted to the cult of the spicy after being a spice wimp all my life. Last week i found myself contemplating how salad would taste with Sriracha all over it (delicious, i bet!)... love the vietnamese. I really can't do without summer friut; mangos, watermelon (hah! stereotype!), peaches, strawberries (is that summer?)...

My favorite book is hard to name, there are so many great reads out there... i can name some recently read authors: Saphire, bell hooks, peter gelderloos, china mieville, laurell k. hamilton (yes, i said it), Alistair Reynolds, Richard K. Morgan, Dorothy Allison... yes, i am a sci-fi geek, and i enjoy the occasional elf-porn. I've been a reader all my life; when i was in junior high and high school i read more poetry (Neruda, Merwin, T. S. Elliot Anne Sexton and Emily Dickinson (of course, it was my high school years; wore a lot of black too, and smoked cloves). I also read crunchier authors in my (not SO distant) youth: Simone de Beauvoir's "The Second Sex" blew me away when i was a ninth grader, and from there i tried Sartre, Kant, and Kierkgaard (very limited understanding of Kant and Kierkgaard, but hey, i was young). Recently, i've been more focused on snack books. i find when i start socializing and going online more, i read a lot less. It's a good thing to do a media fast every once in a while.

Best show i ever went to: G.G. Allin & The Insaints in the 90s, i think. Best musicals: RENT, the original Broadway production, and Hedwig. Best soundtrack: Hedwig. i saw Depeche Mode in the late 80s (don't laugh) and they were GREAT! I used to be quite the punk rock grrl and used to see a lot of local live music in that genre: MDC, Op Ivy (including Generator, Rancid, etc), Neurosis, The G'rups and Blatz. I've always had an eclectic taste in music, however (no stereo nazi here!); i just love live shows!

Movies: Hedwig and the Angry Inch, Final Fantasy; The Spirits Within (saw this recently and liked it), A Room With A View, Secretary, Wings of Desire, Fight Club, Battle Royale, Blade, Blazing Saddles, Barfly, Blade Runner, Little Miss Sunshine, Poison Candy, Serentiy, Spark, Reservoir Dogs... lots more...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Hmm... okay:

my dog

books (just because i fall off reading constantly sometimes doesn't mean i don't carry one in my bag ALL THE TIME)

cantaloupe (it's bad enough that it goes out of season)

sleep ("and love, it was the best of them/and sleep, worth all the rest of them")

poetry (including lyrics)

vietnamese food

I can do without sex, but i would prefer not to..
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Apparently, what i'm going to write in these damn essays. I once heard humans have, like, 60,000 thoughts per minute. So how does one define "a lot of time"?

I work in public health, so i guess i think about my patients a lot, and the inequalities that make certain people sicker than others and certain people have worse health outcomes than others... but then i start thinking about how i'd like to try a mani-pedi at the shop down the street from my haus... and then i see a shiny thing moving down the street and stop thinking and chase after it (more like a cheetah than a dog, thank you very much)... then i slow down and think about what i'm gonna have for lunch that's delicious yet doesn't have a lot of carbs... you get the idea...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Going to a show, a performance, to a meeting, or dinner with people. Writing. Canoodling with my small wicked dog.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I crave attention unspeakably, but i don't like to admit it to myself, let alone you.

I really want to watch "The Walking Dead" because i hear it's a great show, but i am SERIOUSLY scared of the idea of the Zombie Apocalypse. It freaks me out. Truly.
You should message me if
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you like fun. You like fun, don't you? Not to say i'm going to provide the fun, but if we both like fun it may be easier to find the fun with two of us on the lookout...

Message me if you like this profile, because i always like hearing from people.

Message me especially if you live close by, because if we find we amuse each other, i will want to meet you; even if we don't end up dating or hooking up, we may wish to cultivate hanging out infrequently on sundays, yeah?