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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 28–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Aug 19
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Judaism, and laughing about it
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Science / Engineering
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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I'm cis-44 but I identify as 35.

Fun facts about me:

* I used to be really shy, but thanks in part to the toxoplasmosis that I caught from my cat, I've gradually become more gregarious and intrepid.

* I'm honest. I find the truth is a good moral compass in confusing times. Also, a quote: "The truth and a lie can both hurt, but at least the truth heals you afterwards."

* I'm lucky enough to live in a city I love, to work a job I love doing, and still have time for great friends, projects, and varied adventures.

* One of the more memorable dates I ever went on was to an underground party that turned out to be 30' down a concrete shaft into an abandoned military base.

* My favorite tool for navigating the streets of San Francisco is an electric skateboard.

* I recently filled up my passport and ordered a fresh one.
What I’m doing with my life
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I had to put my cat-buddy of 15 years to sleep recently. I'm slowly purging my home of cat toys. It's a drag.

Systematically learning how to use every piece of equipment at TechShop and using each one for a project.

I'm full of projects. I recently did:
- got my SCUBA and Nitrox certification.
- a week of volunteering on a reef 45 miles off the coast of Belize.
- built a mock spaceship for a friend's Yuri's Night party.
- rode 542 miles to raise money for AIDS/LifeCycle 2013.
- helped build four different boats at Camp Tipsy.
- I'm sleeping in a steel bed I welded together myself (though I'm still making changes to the headboard).

On my current to-do list: redesigning the steel headboard for my bed, and putting together some kind of light-up sign for my friends new non-profit project.

I also have a wonderful and fairly creative day job. I'm engineer: I design and build stuff for a living. I love it. Yep, I'm a "techie," and I've been a part of this vibrant city for 15 years. Please don't date me if you have strong judgments about my profession. Thanks!
I’m really good at
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Communicating, learning, listening, cooking, being useful, snowboarding.

I'm really bad at: managing my time and energy. I'm always there when my friends need me, but sometimes I spread myself too thin.

I'm also an extroverted introvert - I'm great with people and I like people a lot, but sometimes I'm happiest alone. I think of myself as being fiercely independent, but it would be nice to have someone be fierce and independent with me.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm tall and broad. From a distance, at night, I look a little intimidating, but as soon as I open my mouth everybody knows I'm a pussycat.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Man! My favorite sci-fi author, Iain Banks, passed away last week from pancreatic cancer. He wrote books about hedonistic, anarchistic, post-scarcity, post-human civilisations; weapons sufficiently advanced that they develop a sense of humor; hegemonizing swarms; worlds made of water; worlds made of interlocking clockwork shells; drugs that enabled trans-dimensional assassins to skip between bodies and worlds.

He wrote vast, sprawling space operas that ultimately revealed themselves to be small, quiet tales about people. He wrote tales about complex, morally ambiguous conspiracies that still burned bright with a certain moral clarity: for example, that the side that is torturing people is not the side to be on. He wrote with a deeply misanthropic voice that nevertheless expressed hope at what humanity might become. In a typical Banks novel, everyone dies and the bad guys get away, but at least the revolutionaries, standing alone against the cosmos, get to have hot sex in an abandoned mountain-top monastery somewhere around the two-thirds mark. Worth it.

He also managed to con his publisher into bankrolling a book dedicated to identifying and drinking the very best scotch in the world. Extensive research was performed.

Of all the authors I've read, this is the one I most wish I could have sat down with for a couple of beers.

I also like music and movies and food, thanks. If you're down for watching scary movies with me, bonus points!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Things that have found their way into my weekend go-bag:
- zip ties
- power tools
- headlamp
- cellphone charger
- my camera
- a few cans of fancy beer

I can live without all of these things, but they do make my weekends more interesting.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to beat the system.
Why society works the way it does and how we could be different.
How nice it would be to be an eagle ray or a loggerhead sea turtle.
Efficient scheduling of microcode.
I should stop worrying about what I'm doing with my life and go do something with my life.

pirate: "What be a pirate's favorite letter?"
kids: "AAAARRRRRRR!!!!"
pirate: "Nay, laddies. A pirate's first love be the C."
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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One problem with online dating is that by making it easier for people to meet, paradoxically people take each individual chance less seriously. On average, we all end up burned out and demoralized.

I worry that the kind of relationship I want is a boat that has sailed; that we're all too fierce and independent and jaded to fall in love with each other anymore. But I call bullshit on that.

I can't believe I'm saying this, but I still believe the universe has something magical in store for me.

Also, might as well throw this out there: I'm a little kinky, by which I mean creative and playful. I welded a bed out of steel tubing for a reason, right?

The Ryan Gosling meme in me says: "Baby: I would cross the bay bridge for you."
You should message me if
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you have discovered a spider in your house. I'll come right over, catch it with my hands, and release it outside in a bush or something. I think spiders are pretty neat, and we thoughtlessly squash them more often than we should.

You might also message me if you were interested in meeting with me in real life. We could walk down Valencia Street on a summer afternoon, sipping lattes and communicating by making noises with our mouths. Wouldn't that be nice?