We have all watched people we once loved turn into complete strangers all over again. It is our personal responsibility not to let bad decisions investing ourselves in bad people from our pasts ruin us for who we were actually meant for. Reclaim yourself. Know what you want. Go for it. People by default will drag you through every color mud. It's a cruel world out there. Most people become jerks as a defense mechanism. Eventually someone will come along who will cherish, value, and embrace you for all of the qualities others took for granted, overlooked, or took advantage of. Anyone who would dare even potentially marginalize your preciousness deserves no place in your life. Don't sell yourself short.
I am not like anyone I know. I am not like anyone you know either. You never knew anyone until you knew them. Even then... did you really know them......?? Trust me... I'm still waiting to be discovered. Please don't allow your life experiences with my gender to reflect on me. As mine will not reflect on you. Nor will I be taking accountability for those who have wronged you simply because we share the 23rd chromosome XY configuration. By being rude to me you are making me burn for the mistakes of people you yourself chose to invest yourself in the past. I have not wronged you. In any way. Ever. I would appreciate the courtesy and the justice of a clean slate. Don't be rude to me. Nobody of stable mental health likes a jerk !!
Ideally, in the grand picture of life, I'm looking to build and blossom a Lasting and meaningful bond with someone exceptional to me. I have been... and will continue to be perfectly ok with living solo until such a person comes along that is worth investing myself in. I won't be with someone just for the sake of not being 'alone' because I love myself and I avoid self-defeating behavior at all costs. I naturally already experience and marinate in happiness from within... rather than worrying about such illusions as "without" ..... Happiness is not something I outsource for unlike most people's conventional approach (and failure) has historically proven to be. Also, my perception of happiness is much different than most around me. Happiness in my life is measured by what I give rather than what I have. I do not need someone to complete me, rather a person to share with the fruits of my labor. I know what I want and I go for it.
If fishing were to be the topic of an analogy... I fish with a spear rather that with a net like most others do... Trying to please everyone, often misrepresenting themselves... saying or doing any and every thing they assume the masses would like to hear and see....or even worse... fishing with bait and hook. Wolves in sheep's clothing. Yikes ! See no matter how much a person will attempt to trump themselves up, eventually they have to be them selves. Being Yourself is the best place to start. I have zero game. I am just me. Its all I really have for sure. Call me selfish, but i'm the best thing I got going for me... People come and go, but I will always have to live with myself. So I am my most valuable investment, for now. I'm single because I'm the only person who knows me.
I don't want to be on here forever. My hope was to find someone exceptional to me... embrace the blessing... and move forward. I would rather brush every feather of your wings and watch you fly away than ever dare clip them. I am not the type who is willing to hold myself back if things get sturdy should the wind naturally blow us in that direction... and no matter what you are looking for.... this shouldn't be a turnoff for you. I have beyond any measure proved that I am patient in life. Especially in matters of companionship... but I am also not afraid to be your superman, if that is what the situation calls for. So you made it this far ? I am a big fan of interacting with people and allowing their character to naturally reveal itself... but here are a few fun facts about me:
I am quadra-lingual... Penta-lingual if including English lol
My favorite authors are Regina Brett and Eckhart Tolle.
22 years of my life was spent living 339 miles away from Richmond on a small island in New York named Manhattan.
I quit smoking Cigarettes almost 7 years now... If you smoke.. don't worry...I know how it is. I'm not one to judge.
I've been cutting and styling hair as a professional hobby for the last ten years or so and I have tailored lots of different styles and designs of notable appeal and proficiency. I love cutting hair !
I like tattoos and have some unique ink myself. I love art in general. I consider myself a dynamic expressionist.
Without being pretentious I can tell you that I am a phenomenal chef. I can cook like my life depended on it !!
You can check out some of my dishes that I randomly photographed since downloading instagram (0:
I am proud of having a wide spectrum of multifaceted occupational specializations in my life's portfolio.
Seems like majority of people don't even read these. If I had half a nickel for every time someone asked me a question in which the answer was clearly indicated in my profile....lol YIKES!! There is a lot to my personality and to the texture of my character to just list on a profile for a dating utility website. Too much depth and density to my being to just illustrate here in words. All I can tell you for now is that you'll be extremely content with making the decision of getting to know me... so treat yourself to that good decision and say hello [0: