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24 M Gresham, OR

My Details

Last Online
Today – 7:32am
Black, White
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Strictly other
Atheism, and very serious about it
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Sales / Marketing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I'm smart. I work hard. I am a person of extremes. I am responsible. I'm a man. A "dude" on occasion. And sometimes a "bloke" when alcohol is involved.

I like fighting and I think that we all sort of try to relate to the world around us in a way that makes sense to us (obviously). I say that because I relate to the world through touch and through martial arts. I've been out of the game for a few years but I've always been a fighter and I guess it's my chosen way of explaining the world around me. I'd like to tell you that I know what I mean by that, but it's a bit difficult to articulate.

I'm an atheist and I think that blind faith is the opiate of the helpless. Having said that, I don't begrudge anyone their beliefs and I believe that there is a lot about the world that I still don't know. I do however object somewhat strongly to people that are susceptible to emotional arguments because they can lead to some very dangerous errors in reasoning. I say "emotional arguments" because after many thoughtful conversations I've come to believe that people believe in God because they are afraid of death and when we become emotional it limits access to the rational parts of our brain (fight or flight). While it's usually harmless to believe a comforting lie, it is never harmless when we allow our lives to be dictated by shaky logic because religious leaders and politicians can easily co-opt such uncritical minds.

Aaaaaaaaaand that's that sermon over. And in answer to the question that some of you may be wont to ask, yes, I've read the bible many times. Cover to cover. I find it frightening and ironic how few of the devout have actually done this...

I'm pretty clever but I'm still a black guy. This may seem obvious to you (and good for you if it does) but I am strongly connected to both my white and black heritage. My mother is from Germany and I am equally proud of my hearty german core as I am of my black linguistic, poetic, and physical heritage.

I tell a mean story.

One of my very good friends said of me that I "err on the side of engagement." He was poetically stating that I have a problem with not giving up. Yes, this is is a little bit of a self-depracating boast, but I really do wish that I knew how to give up easier. I have found that I am susceptible to regrets, and that the only way to assuage these is to make sure that at the end of the day I tried everything. If something doesn't work out it had better not be because there was something more I could have done. If life is an exercise in making the choices that we'll regret the least, I always regret giving up more than trying and failing spectacularly (and I do mean this, as in failing AND making a spectacle of it).
What I’m doing with my life
Licensed insurance CSR. Going to get a PHD to teach political science one day. It is set in stone in my mind that that's what I'm going to do for the rest of my life.

Also, using my surprisingly extensive teaching background to do some corporate training... not gonna lie, never saw that coming but it's a blast.
I’m really good at
Being good at things.


While my profile is no real indication of this, I'm actually a pretty good writer. My HS teacher actually pays me to edit her papers (and her colleagues) for her PHD program. I also have helped many younglings get into college with a few tutoring programs I've started over the years.


Sex... I'm not sure I should write that but I guess that the type of person that I'm looking for would probably care to know this so why the hell not? Besides, I'm not really the type to keep it quiet when I'm good at something, but I'm also the type to praise and appreciate other people for what they are good at too. I'm not a hater.
The first things people usually notice about me
My personality isn't captured by a picture. I know that's a dangerous thing to say in a forum where your picture is basically your only currency to attract attention, but I feel like it's a necessary admission.

Yes, I'm happy and all of the things that the pictures might suggest, but I'm also a bit childish, I smile a lot, I also spend a good amount of time looking serious, enjoy inappropriate conversations, talk politics, curse comfortably with friends, and enjoy passionate discussions in a way that my iPhone camera in a bathrobe just couldn't capture I'm afraid.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
How to Create a Mind, Calvin and Hobbes (naturally), the Boondocks, The West Wing, Dr. Who, Attack on Titan, Hunter x Hunter (yes I'm putting anime in here, judge me), Star Trek (all of them except TOS), Burn After Reading, V for Vendetta, The Holiday, Disney Princess Movies (because I'd like to raise a strong daughter one day and the drawing is second to none), Wall-E, Log Horizon, Sword Art Online,... better throw some books in so they don't think I watch too much anime... What to Expect During the Toddler Years, Brian Tracy, Hunger Games, Harry Potter, Ender's Game, Uncle Tom's Cabin, Mark Twain (because I'd like to raise a clever boy like Tom Sawyer one day, but I hope he has the heart of Huck Finn), The Art of War...

I could go on but let's be honest, you stopped reading a while ago. How about we just talk about it?
The six things I could never do without
Work, art, debate, love, a friend.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to get better at things.
On a typical Friday night I am
Lounging in my house making delicious food and drinking good wine with good company and good music playing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've made public admissions of private matters before. It turned out so well that I'm not going to do it again.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi guys
  • Ages 18–29
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
You'd like to meet up and do a thing at some point.

Also, if you like sex.