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30 M Seattle, WA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 15
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Buddhism, and laughing about it
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), C++ (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I've been doing this online dating thing for several years now. I'm open to the possibility that it could still work out, but I've found that I'm happiest when I focus my time and efforts elsewhere. The process has proven tiresome, predictable, and unrewarding. I'll be the first to admit that my initial enthusiasm has long since given way to a jaded and bitter attitude.

Conventional wisdom states that I'm not supposed to reveal any of this on my profile. This is my dating resume after all! I'm supposed to demonstrate my most attractive characteristics in writing so that I can stand out above the other candidates and land an interview with you. Been there a lot. Done that a lot.

The problem I have with this approach is that it leads to a long drawn-out filtering period where our advertised personas gradually give way to our true selves. Nobody can tell if the relationship is going to work until this process is finished, and we fight tooth and claw to keep that from happening. We're afraid people won't love us for who we truly are, so we cling to our own self-branding. I'm supposed to be the intellectual outdoorsy superman and you're supposed to be the fun-loving world-traveling superwoman. We inevitably fall in love with these roles instead of the people who play them, and every date leads to the same disillusionment and disappointment.

I'm tired of playing this game. I'm ready to show all my cards and walk away from the table.
What I’m doing with my life
My entire life has more or less been a war with clinical depression. I was always a smart kid, but as the grades advanced I found myself losing motivation, distancing myself from my classmates, and growing increasingly addicted to video games. My first several years of adulthood were spent moving from place to place, job to job, and game to game. I did what I had to do to survive, but life seemed too daunting to engage beyond that. I'd spend days in bed without eating just staring at the ceiling. I was declared federally disabled. Things weren't good.

Around 2007 I found a counselor that convinced me to give life a fair chance. I discovered yoga and meditation soon after, and that started me on a long journey of healing. The next year I returned to school at Cascadia Community College. It wasn't an easy transition for me, but I stuck with it. At the same time I joined the Seattle Mountaineers and began hiking and getting back in shape. I also joined the Outdoor Adventure Club at school which introduced me to rock climbing. I loved it so much that I ended up running the club the following year and my social life finally began to look normal. Everything came together all at once, and my academic performance was soaring. I transferred to UWB and kicked all sorts of butt in the computer science program, which I finally graduated last year.

It feels like I've recovered from a nightmare. I'm finally in a good place mentally, emotionally, physically, and financially. I took a different path to get here than most people I know though, and I can't help but feel like I'm late to the party. Everyone is getting married, having kids, settling down, and committing to adulthood. I do want to join them, but not until I've had a chance to see the world, advance my hobbies, and explore everything else I've been missing all these years!
I’m really good at
Intending to listen to all the podcasts I'm subscribed to instead of staring out the bus window introspectively every day.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I read books one chapter at a time, usually over the course of several months. When I do visit bookstores I become overwhelmed by all of the cover-art and bold titles competing with each other to capture my attention. In retaliation I try to find something sublime and understated. This usually ends with me picking a piece of classic literature or leaving to go do something else. I'm pretty sure this is also a metaphor for my dating life.

I enjoy movies for what they are and don't care much about who starred in what. I enjoy sharing the experience with other people, which means I rarely sit around by myself watching things.

If shows means concerts then meh. I prefer signing up for big running events as a way of getting my exuberant crowd fix in.

My musical tastes are all over the board (everyone says this). Most of my collection is adrenaline fueled techno stuff which makes for great exercise music and terrible sharing. I enjoy most of the bands which I hear in friends' cars or on the radio, but rarely bother to remember the who and what of it. Occasionally I just like the sound of unique things, which has also led to a small collection of world music.

Regarding food:
The six things I could never do without
•Snooze button
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to answer this question.
On a typical Friday night I am
Going to bed early, because the fun starts on Saturday morning!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Sometimes I cry when I watch Pixar movies.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 24–34
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
I hear tell that some women have a predisposition to be nurturing loving partners. Above all else, that's what I'm hoping to find. I want somebody I can be involved with on all levels. It's easier to get through the day and move forward with your goals when you know that somebody else cares and will hold you accountable for your actions. I want us both to be better people for having spent time alongside each other.

At the moment, my goals are mostly athletic. I've spent many years in front of computer screens and want to thrive and push myself to physical limits that have been precluded by that existence. I'm looking for someone that has similar intentions so that we can transform together. I'm not gonna lie, self-improvement is a very sexy thing, especially when it's physical. It's not hard to see how celebrating our bodies together could provide the kindling for longer lasting fires. At any rate, that's the direction I'm headed in whether I find someone to join me or not.