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My self-summary
I start with honesty. Lies are borne of fear. They're a way of short-cutting around problems which we don't feel we have the power to confront directly. When we lie we have to exist in two realities: One of these realities comes for free. It takes no effort to uphold. It simply is. The other is an illusion which we cast around ourselves... An illusion that requires constant maintenance lest it come crashing down along with everything we've built upon it. It binds us to it. It enslaves us. I prefer to remain free.

So what do I do with that freedom?...
What I’m doing with my life
...I type things on computers and then go climb on rocks.
I’m really good at
Filling up my phone with podcasts which I'm probably never going to listen to.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm not on fire.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
•Wherever You Go There You Are
•The Golden Spruce
•The Life of Pi
•The Magus
•Brave New World

•Office Space
•Groundhogs Day

*I don't really watch TV, but I could definitely get hooked on Game of Thrones or Parks & Rec or whatever as long as you don't mind cuddling on the sofa and watching the first few seasons with me. ;)

•Infected Mushroom
•ES Posthumus

•Cracklin' Oat Bran
•Phad Thai
•German Chocolate Cake

•Power Grid
•Unreal Tournament
The six things I could never do without
•Pushing the snooze button
•Pushing the snooze button again
•Pushing the snooze button again
•Pushing the snooze button again
•Pushing the snooze button again
•Pushing the snooze button again
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to answer this question.
On a typical Friday night I am
Anywhere but here!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I struggle with depression. It can leave me a very dour and unmotivated person when I'm at my worst. This is my Achilles' Heel. Frankly, I believe it's the reason why I haven't found a partner yet. I've learned that it takes a combination of self-awareness, healthy routines, good friends, and a strong sense of purpose to keep this at bay.
You should message me if
Your long-term goal is to be in a nurturing and balanced relationship. I can play the coffee date game as well as the next guy, but I won't be in my element until we're both ready for more. I want to go do things with you! I light up when I see couples jogging along the trail in unison smiling and talking to each other about their days. I want to help you make changes in your life that leave you a better person and I want you to do the same for me. If that's not going to happen then let's move on because life is short.

PS: Just to be clear, I'm not only looking for super-hardcore outdoor ladies. Contrary to what my pictures may imply I am, at least on weekdays, an ordinary office drone with the same physical and logistical limitations as anybody else. I simply find joy in challenging those limitations. It brings me great clarity and provides a contrast to the rest of my life that I have never found while sitting around playing video games and eating ice cream (which I have done plenty of).

So no... It's not about what you're capable of doing right now. There are plenty of women out there who can run ultra-marathons and there are plenty of women out there who haven't run in years. I can only run about 5 miles myself right now. Any of us can improve, and any of us can get lazy, or busy, or become disabled. It's not about any of that. It's about an innate DESIRE to apply yourself... To stay in motion, and not just physically.

Most of us are going to be here for a great while longer. We're bound to change as people. Our goals, our aspirations, our directions in life, those aren't permanent. Today maybe you want to see how far you can run. Tomorrow maybe you want to climb a mountain, or the corporate ladder. Some day I'd like to have kids, and that will be its own challenge-riddled adventure. There's always going to be some pursuit that demands the best from us, and we'll never just be 'done' after any given goal. This shit's hard.

I want to help. I want to be helped. We're going to struggle, and that struggle is where it's at. Tangible improvements, progress, small (or large) battles won... Those are the things I find most attractive. I'm not gonna lie either. If that improvement is a physical one... If I get to watch you as you transform to become physically stronger, fitter, and more capable... That is THE sexiest thing I can imagine! That motivates ME like you wouldn't believe!

Let's go conquer the world together, whether you're catching up to me, I'm catching up to you, or we're already crossing paths. That's willingness.

Warmth and a smile don't hurt either. Just because we're trying our damnedest doesn't mean we always have to be grim about it. The ability to step back, see the ridiculousness of a situation for what it is, and laugh at ourselves is infectiously valuable. It's easy to forget that sometimes.

Anyway, I could go on, but I think that's about as close as I'm going to get to describing my perfect partner. WARMTH. WILLINGNESS. UNDERSTANDING. PATIENCE. HUMANITY! I'd move mountains for you.