I'm a good friend, good company and do some good for other people.
I often found it easier to make friends than date. I've been
involved in many community groups, mostly around HIV/AIDS services
and fundraising, but also some politics and arts activities. I know
lots of great people, but I'd like to spend time soon with just one
What I’m doing with my life
I'm serving on two non-profit boards, going to yoga class about
five times a week, paying my bills and keeping up with friends
spread across several time zones. I work as a freelance
writer/editor (also a ghost writer), and wonder if it's time for
something new. I love an uphill battle sometimes, so I'm starting
work on another "fixer upper."
I’m really good at
If there was a merit badge in phone use, I'd be the mascot! I'm
good at cheering people up, making up funny nonsense and copy
(freelance writer tricks o' the trade), and I like to think I tell
stories well. I try to keep the dying art of conversation alive.
I'm a good baker, since sugar is my biggest indulgence. I'm also a
whiz at stain removal, since I've been clumsy and too stubborn to
give up when I've made messes! I'm better at throwing parties for
fifty than making dinner for two, so I'm actively seeking
volunteers to brave or improve my cooking skills.
The first things people usually notice about me
Hopefully, that I look better in real life than my online pics (please make it so!). I sometimes make an effort to make a "statement" and then, it's all about the outfit. On most days, it's more likely to be my smile (thanks to my orthodontist and several dentists!). If I'm out with friends, hopefully people notice I'm making them laugh. Ideally, more laughing with me than at me, at least aiming for that, right?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm not sure how to keep this brief and readable. I've got eclectic
(broad?) taste, and I'm happy to start chatting on any of these
five topics. Pick one and let's go!
The six things I could never do without
1) The phone. Nothing but "in person" compares to real time
2) Chocolate. Preferably great chocolate, but any will do in a
3) A bathtub. A long soak helps me let go of stress (without
4) The "old school," spiral-bound, "Week At A Glance"
5) Sunscreen. It's kept this pale guy from turning into a
6) Yoga classes. I find the more you do, the more it works for you.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to find more time this month. Dr. Who, where are you? A Tardis would come in very handy. How to do more letting go of things useless beyond sentimental value and things that no longer serve me. How do I learn to cast spells for hot guys find themselves full of romantic longing for me? And, should I keep letting my beard grow out, or start worrying I look like I just left the set of "Lincoln"?
On a typical Friday night I am
I don't have typical Friday nights. Once a month I help out at
Magnet's first Friday art openings, sometimes I'm loafing at home,
about once a month I'm out of town, and there's "none of the above"
and "open to suggestion." Make a suggestion!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've never had tattoos nor any piercings. Living in SF, this seems, ironically, to have unexpected shock value. I often like them on guys, but never felt like getting them for myself. Feel free to show me yours, if you have them. Even and especially if they require undressing!
You should message me if
You think we'd be compatible and you'd like a "test drive." Or,
you'd like to see if I can make you laugh with me or at me. Or,
you'd like to chastise me for not filling out the books, movies,
shows, music and food section and feel you deserve and require some