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52 M Sacramento, CA

My Details

Last Online
Mar 21
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
A little extra
Mostly anything
Not at all
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Politics / Government
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Despite being here on OK Cupid to possibly meet someone who can help me fulfill my daddy/daughter fantasy, I'm a pretty normal guy with a rather uneventful life for the most part. I look quite young for my age and am perhaps not what most people would think of when they think "dad," but I think you'll find that I can be an engaging friend in lieu of being a full-blown authority figure. I'm fairly intelligent and have been told by a few ladies that I'm handsome, although I realize that's a purely subjective evaluation. I'm very much interested in the local art and music scenes and consider myself to be a creative person at heart. I admit that I have an anxiety disorder, which does limit me in some ways, but not so much that it should negatively affect my relationship with my "daughter." I'm a really nice guy and quite likeable judging from how the majority of people interact with me.
What I’m doing with my life
Just ended a relationship with someone who meant a great deal to me, and rather than focus on dating and looking for something serious right now, I'd like to take the time to indulge an enduring daddy/daughter fantasy since I wasn't able to do that while I had a girlfriend (i.e. interacting with someone in real life rather than online). Trying to get my life back on track since I wasn't fully prepared for this breakup I'm dealing with right now. Good friends are helping me through it, and I suppose this fantasy that I'd like to explore would be a good distraction with the right partner.
I’m really good at
worrying and procrastination. I have quite a bit of anxiety, although some people are surprised when they hear that. On the other hand, I'm very good at trying to please those people I really care about, so if I care about you, you'll know I'll be in your corner as much as possible. I'm a good listener even though my mind does tend to wander from time to time. People generally like me and want to talk to me, so you might want to take advantage of that. I'm a terrific whistler and a pretty good singer as long as I'm sticking to a lower range instead of trying to hit those high notes.
The first things people usually notice about me
My smile? I have no idea! I got a terrific haircut recently and got a lot of compliments because of that, but I really don't know what strangers would notice first when they meet me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Lewis Carroll's "Alice's Adventures in Wonderland" and "Through the Looking-Glass," Legs McNeil and Gillian McCain's "Please Kill Me," Lucinda Bassett's "From Panic to Power," Alan Moore's "Promethea" and "Lost Girls," Terry Moore's "Strangers in Paradise," Neil Gaiman's "The Sandman," Danny Peary's "Cult Movies" series, Nancy Friday's sexual fantasy series ("My Secret Garden," "Forbidden Flowers," etc.), various books about cult films and pop culture interests

Magazines: "BUST" and various pop culture rags like "Entertainment Weekly" and "Film Comment"

Movies: "Absolute Beginners," "After Hours," "Amelie," "American Splendor," "Before Sunrise" / "Before Sunset" / "Before Midnight," "Better Off Dead," "The Black Stallion," "Brazil," "Buffalo '66," "Casablanca," "A Christmas Story," "Citizen Kane," "City Lights," "The City of Lost Children," "The Coca-Cola Kid," "Contempt," "Diva," "Do the Right Thing," "Dr. Strangelove," "Dreamchild," "Dumbo," "Evil Dead 2," "Faster, Pussycat! Kill! Kill!," "Flirting With Disaster," "Going Places," "The Graduate," "Groundhog Day," "A Hard Day's Night," "The Hidden," "High Tide," "House of Games," "I Wanna Hold Your Hand," "It's a Wonderful Life," "The King of Comedy," "Little Big Man," "Local Hero," "Lost in Translation," "Mulholland Drive," "Near Dark," "The Night of the Hunter," "The Nutty Professor (1963), "Office Space," "The Private Life of Sherlock Holmes," "Proof" (1991), "Raising Arizona," "Rat Pfink a Boo Boo," "Rebel Without a Cause," "Seconds," "Serenity," "Shock! Shock! Shock!," "Sin City," "Singin' in the Rain," "Spider Baby," "Star Wars," "Strangers on a Train," "Sunset Boulevard," "The Third Man," "This is Spinal Tap," "Touch of Evil," "Tremors," "Two Moon Junction," "Valerie and Her Week of Wonders," "Waking Life," "Willy Wonka & the Chocolate Factory," "The Wizard of Oz," Atom Egoyan films ("Next of Kin," "Family Viewing," "Speaking Parts," "Exotica," "The Sweet Hereafter), Charlie Kaufman films ("Being John Malkovich," "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind," "Adaptation," "Synecdoche, New York"), and many others. I'm particularly a fan of cult films and have a very impressive DVD collection that covers pretty much all the bases.

TV Shows: "Adventure Time," "The Adventures of Brisco County Jr.," "Alias," "Angel," "Bewitched," "Buffy the Vampire Slayer" (my all-time favorite), "The Days and Nights of Molly Dodd," "Desperate Housewives," "Don't Trust the B___ in Apartment 23," "Everwood," "Everybody Loves Raymond," "Firefly" (yes, I'm a total Joss Whedon geek!), "Flight of the Conchords," "Friends," "Gilligan's Island," "Gilmore Girls," "Heroes," "Invasion," "Jeopardy!," "Joan of Arcadia," "Johnny Sokko and His Flying Robot," "Late Night with David Letterman" (back in Dave's old NBC days), "Leave It to Beaver," "Life Goes On," "Lost in Space," "Monty Python's Flying Circus," "Moonlighting," "My So-Called Life," "Northern Exposure," "Now and Again," "Orphan Black," "The Prisoner," "Project Runway," "Pushing Daisies," "Quantum Leap," "Seinfeld," "The Simpsons," "Siskel & Ebert" (miss 'em); "Speed Racer," "That '70s Show," "The Tracey Ullman Show," "Tru Calling," "24," "The Wild Wild West," "Wipeout," "The Wonder Years," "The Wonderful World of Disney," "The X-Files," and many others.

Music: The Beatles, Beck, Belle & Sebastian, Big Star, Kate Bush, Johnny Cash, Elvis Costello, Nick Drake, Bob Dylan, Billy Joel and Rickie Lee Jones (two old high school faves), The Magnetic Fields (if just for the awesome "69 Love Songs" set), The Monkees, Liz Phair, Prince, R.E.M., The Replacements, Bruce Springsteen, Squeeze, Stephen Sondheim, Talking Heads, The Velvet Underground, Lucinda Williams, X, XTC, and many others. I'm a huge fan of a number of local bands and musicians who I would gladly name if this was a less discreet profile.

Food: Pasta, pizza, seafood, good Mexican food, and just anything that wins me over the moment it enters my mouth.
The six things I could never do without
Compassion (which includes all the hugs I can give or receive)
Ginger Beer
Television (which includes my enormous DVD collection)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
a lot of things! I have a very active mind and imagination that can get hung up on various obsessions and preoccupations. Yes, the aforementioned daddy/daughter fantasy is among them, but I also spend a lot of time thinking about a variety of pop culture interests and how I can promote my favorite local bands. I'm a very analytical person and have tried to figure out why people are motivated to do what they do, starting with myself. One thing I've concluded is that we're not fully capable of free will because there is so much personal history involved in the decisions we make.
On a typical Friday night I am
usually home watching TV, although I do enjoy getting out to the occasional show since I'm a big fan of local music. For those who live in the Sacramento area, Bows & Arrows and Luigi's Fungarden are where I go to see my favorite bands these days.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
is that I have a daddy/daughter fantasy and would like to explore it with a young lady who'd be interested in spending some quality time with a loving "father." Having a girlfriend is what I really enjoy, but now that I'm single again, I'd like to take the time to see what this fantasy can teach me about myself before jumping into another serious relationship. I've done some role-playing with several girls online but have never done anything in person even though I had the opportunity to do so multiple times while I had a girlfriend.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–30
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, casual sex
You should message me if
you're interested in exploring a daddy/daughter relationship with me. I know I'll need to be flexible if I want to find a good match, but my ideal "daughter" wouldn't have tattoos or piercings (other than ears) or dress in a particularly edgy fashion. Not that I'm against any of those things by any means, but my criteria for a "daughter" is very different than that for a girlfriend. I tend to have a preference for voluptuous women, but my "daughter" should be slim and girlish. Someone who looks a bit like me (Caucasian with blue eyes and brown hair) would be a plus, although that's certainly negotiable. She shouldn't be promiscuous with numerous sexual partners and should be fairly inexperienced. (Likewise, I'm only interested in having just one "daughter" unless a couple of bisexual girls out there would like to have a "sister" as well as a "daddy.") I'd like her to be friendly and reasonably intelligent like I am, and if something magical transpires between us, I'd like to think we'd have a wonderful friendship and father/daughter type of relationship beyond the sexual aspect of this fantasy. Think Lorelei and Rory from "Gilmore Girls" but with sex added to the mix. I'm not into discipline like some "daddies" are, so there'd be no spanking or any other sort of punishment involved. And I'm not a sugar daddy, so if you're looking for monetary favors in exchange for sex more so than just having a good time, you'll need to look elsewhere. I wouldn't expect sex when we meet for the first time because I think we should get to know each other as any two people would on a first date. And sometimes just a cuddle or a good conversation is enough to satisfy me, although I would certainly enjoy sharing a romantic candlelit bubble bath with my little girl more often than not. Again, I know I'm asking for a lot here and need to be open-minded, so don't be afraid to say hello even if you feel you don't qualify due to my overly-strict standards. I've been rattling around in my apartment with a couple of cats ever since my girlfriend left. Honestly, I could use the company!

Just want to mention here that I won't be sending out any messages unless I happen to stumble onto someone in my area who is looking for the same thing I am. I've been doing quite a bit of browsing and have favorited a few ladies, but I don't want to take a chance on offending anyone who has no interest in fantasy roleplaying with me. If you ARE interested, please let me know! Or if you're curious about the daddy/daughter fantasy but was discouraged by my profile for some reason, l'd like to know why you're hesitant to take a chance on me specifically. I welcome any feedback that can be construed as constructive criticism.