I guess it's time I put this paragraph in here. I'm not looking for a quick roll in the hay. I'm not here to be one of your "many". Your primary, maybe. Make that a BIG maybe. That's not what I truly want. You'd have to be a pretty spectacular match for me to seriously consider that. That's a recent consideration, and my answers don't reflect that yet. I refuse to be anybody's secret. And yes, I'm a big girl, but I'm working on getting smaller, not bigger, so that means no "feeders". If you're here for the reasons I've listed, be gone...now! I'd rather be alone than settle for any of the above.
Ok...now that the housework is done...why am I here?
Simply put, I'm looking for someone who will match or challenge my intelligence, laughter and passion. I am an open, honest communicator, and I'm looking for those same qualities. Now go back and read that again. They are two very simple sentences, quite easily read, but oh so important. Especially the second sentence. I can't stress enough how important that is to me.
The heart, soul and mind of the person I'm looking for is far more important to me than their physical appearance. The people I've connected with most deeply in the past have been the most ordinary looking men...nobody who would have stood out in a crowd. Because of that, I can see myself with almost anybody. You could be a conservative (looking!) guy who wears a suit all day or a Harley-riding, long-haired, tattooed, intimidating looking guy, or simply an ordinary guy somewhere inbetween....just have a good heart, be open-minded, and reasonably intelligent and we'll be off to a good start. Eccentric individuals and interesting stories or hobbies fascinate me!
Please don't think you have to be a brain surgeon to impress me! Know what you stand for. Being able to tell me WHY you think something is more important to me than your IQ score. Be able to defend your thinking and logic! And please don't ever tell me that you vote a certain way because that's how your family always did it! Be your own person!
I was born in Seattle and have always lived in this area. I grew up mostly in Puyallup, but did live in Graham for four years on a small farm where we raised cows, turkeys, chickens and rabbits. I have great childhood memories of riding motorcycles, exploring the woods, building forts, going fishing and collecting critters from local ponds and viewing them under my microscope (I was a science nerd even back then!). I enjoyed the small farm lifestyle and wouldn't mind recreating it on a small scale at some point in the future. That's not a requirement though...it's really more an indication of my desire for a peaceful, laid-back lifestyle.
I did well in school, mostly A's with occasional B's...so I'd say I'm above average in intelligence, but would never call myself brilliant or a genius. Math and Science were my favorite subjects. I was also active on the Debate Team. When Mom and Dad got divorced, the college education I'd always been promised sort of evaporated. I went to Green River Community College after high school for Pre-Engineering. I did well in all of my courses, but I found that I didn't really enjoy the Engineering classes that much. Sure, I could crank out the right answer, but there was no joy in it. What I was finding much more interesting were my Psychology, Abnormal Psychology, Deviant Sociology and Ancient Civilizations classes. But it had always been drilled into me how "impractical" these types of classes and careers were, so I stuck to the Math and Sciences.
Life got in the way of my full-time schooling so I got a full-time job making computer chips. Work paid for me to go to school part-time (which I did off and on, taking breaks to avoid burn-out) and I eventually earned my general 2 year degree from Pierce College and transferred to the University of Puget Sound to study Chemistry (I did still have a passion for that subject). Eventually work changed their education program and I was unable to finish my degree. Soon after that the plant closed it's doors. After 12 years of working in the semiconductor industry, that ended the majority of my formal college education.
My mom also worked at the computer chip plant, so she also lost her job at the same time. In order to save rent money, keep mom from losing her house, and help mom due to some of her health issues, I moved into the upstairs of her split-level house, where I still rent from her to this day. I HAVE lived on my own...for over a decade. Mom never comes upstairs, so I have my privacy, she keeps her house, has help when she needs it, and it all works out quite well.
After the computer chip plant closed, I attended Tacoma Community College and was retrained as a medical biller/coder. I did that for 7 years before things in my life sort of fell apart. It's not what I ever expected or had planned for my life, but I ended up on disability. I have back issues and have had both of my knees replaced due to arthritis, but I don't walk with a cane or anything like that and have never even considered using a scooter, even after surgery! For those with issues or concerns about entitlement programs, I'm on disability and Medicare only. I worked long enough at jobs that paid well enough that I don't need or in most cases don't qualify for any other kinds of assistance. I thought long and hard about whether or not I should put this information in here, and decided I'd rather be straightforward and honest about it. Some people will pass me by because of it while others will realize that I have a steady income and plenty of time to dedicate to a relationship and taking care of my man! Which will you do? I may not be your financial equal, but I can bring a lot to the table in other ways, and can be a support that a working partner might not have the time to be.
What I can say about being on disability is that I have totally re-evaluated my "wants" vs. my "needs". And while it would be nice to have the latest smartphone, I-pad, biggest TV, nicest car, cool clothes, etc., that's not what life and happiness are really about. I have enough to take care of myself and my needs and I expect the same of any partner. I own my own car and I do keep insurance on it. I have a couple credit cards that are always paid on time or early and I always pay more than the minimum due. I wouldn't turn down a better life, but I'm not desperate for one either.
I'm not really much of a girly girl. I used to be...in my 20's, back when I was going out to clubs. I had quite the wardrobe, plenty of shoes and was into makeup. But I worked in a clean room making computer chips for 12 years, and in that environment you're not allowed to wear makeup or perfume. So I got used to not wearing it. To this day I generally don't wear it, but that is starting to change. I don't put it on for errands, but will for lunch with a girlfriend, etc. And if I found a special guy who preferred that I wore a little, I would gladly accommodate him.
I'm definitely spiritual, but not religious. I'm not an atheist, but I respect your right to be one. I was raised being told that we believed in God, but we never read the Bible, prayed, or went to church. So while I give a "nod to God", I also have a hard time capitalizing that "G" sometimes. I have agnostic leanings, yet I also had this one spiritual experience that I might tell you about some day...when I know you a little better. So basically, I'm fine with whatever you are, as long as you give me the room to be myself. I won't try to offend you, but if I truly think something is ridiculous, I'm probably going to say something about it. My personal attempts to connect with organized religion have left me just a little jaded.
Pet peeves: 1) Having to push a button in order to get English. I don't mind hearing the other directions in the other language(s). Just don't ask me to do anything special to get the language of my country!
2) Having to refer to Washington as "Washington State" because the lazy asses in "DC" can't say the name of their city. What other state has to add "state" after it? Michigan State is a school, right? As is Florida State, right? Well so is Washington State!!!
3) People who clog up the aisles at Costco because they lose their freaking minds over the free food samples. I mean, really?!? Otherwise intelligent, considerate people gork out over a mouthful of free food...screw everybody else who is actually there to SHOP!
Thank you for letting me get that out of my system...I feel much better now! :)