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31 Oakland, CA Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 20–40
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 4:43am
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Capricorn, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Open relationship
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Hindi (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Me. Me. Me me me me me. Me!

It is hard to do this self summery without coming off kind of ridiculous!

This is what I have been prioritizing lately: poetry. friendships. studying. art (in the broad sense of the word). mutual aid and collaborative resistance. writing. taking care of myself with exercise and meditation. laughter. puking up (or at least trying to puke up) the stupid expectations of how men and white people should act to fit into what the dominate culture wants.
What I’m doing with my life
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I write poetry books. I'm almost done with the next one! I make almost zero dollars from this but it is so tremendously gratifying.

I organize poetry readings at The Long Haul, Wolfman Books, and sometimes in my backyard.

I help out a bit at The Bay Area Public School and study there.

I substitute teach at The Oakland Unified School District. Some facets of the job are absolutely WONDERFUL but some stuff about is yuck yuck yuck.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
poetry. bringing people together. staying in contact with people i care about. communicating and listening. i'm a pretty good substitute teacher but i don't think that'd be something people on this site would get all excited about :) I'm a pretty good cook.
The first things people usually notice about me
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i don't know. in this society, probably that i'm male. if i want to be cute about it i could say my friendliness.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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i like lot of vegetables. i like japanese, mexican, indian food.

i really like the movie Heathers
i like a lot of spike lee movies
i like a lot of richard linklater movies
i like a lot of david lynch movies
help me get into some non-male directors?

i like the band Destroyer a lot. i like Grimes a lot. i like 2pac a lot. i like other stuff but that's what comes to mind now.

I read a lot of poetry, history, religion, stuff about gender and race, a little bit of theory, a lot of stuff with a radical bent to it. I read other stuff too.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
books. words. friends. sex. movies. libraries.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
my friends. poetry. cause and effect. politics. death and rebirth. our public education system (with strife!)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
i go to a lot of poetry readings. sometimes i see a movie. sometimes i hang out with a friend. sometimes i go see some music. sometimes I'll see a lecture. sometimes i hang out with Carrie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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the ratio of time spent on this site to messages i send people is really low. i am kind of shy and introverted even though i don't really come off that way.
You should message me if
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you've seen me around town and wanted to talk to me but didn't.

you're an open and (incredibly) honest person.

i have been dating someone named Carrie for almost three years now; you'd have to be ok with that. We've been getting along great and dating other people here and there since about a year into the relationship.

you should just message me if you want to!