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Zaister

35 Erkrath, Germany Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 23–37
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 11:58pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body type
Fit
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Status
Single
Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Dutch (Poorly), French (Poorly), German (Poorly)
My self-summary
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Hello there. Thanks for droppin' by!

Lately I have been hit with a few of the same responses when it comes to the lady-folk on here. It goes something like this: "Sorry, but you're not my type! Have a good weekend/afternoon/rest of your life!"
It has caused me a fair amount of frustration, but it has also led me to a bit of thinking.

I am NO-ONE's type, and I never have been, on or offline. Out of all the girlfriends I've had and women I have been with, not one of them ever said that I resembled the sort of man they thought they were looking for. Quite the opposite in fact, and in many cases they have been completely surprised by the intensity of their response to me. I just wasn't what they expected to find attractive, and sometimes it has knocked them flat in a way that leaves me just as bewildered as them. This has led me into some pretty strange situations, and it's fair to say that my love life has never really been straightforward - I've had strange affairs, dalliances and flirtations with older women, have had to deal with jealous husbands and boyfriends (often when I've done nothing at all), and in one ongoing case, semi-regularly have to fend off a married woman and mother of two who contacts me on Facebook to let me know what she'd do to me if I was there. You might call "bullshit", but it's the absolute 100% truth.

This is all interesting to a point, but quite often what I'd like is something a little more straightforward. It would be nice, just for a change, for someone to look at this profile and think "wow, what a hottie, I've got to get me some of that", as opposed to having this bizarre Kryptonite effect that only seems to work 1% of the time.

In the end, you have to work with the cards you've been dealt, though. And I'm not saying that I'm going to be EVERYONE's cup of tea. But next time you look at this profile and think "nah" - bear in mind that others have looked at me and said exactly the same thing, only to find themselves reacting completely and unexpectedly differently later on.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm a full-time classical singer. You'll quite often find me in various guises on concert platforms around northern Europe, particularly the Bach-y, oratorio-y ones, although occasionally the opera-y and contemporary music/theatre-y ones, too. Yes, I am good at it. I have a website if you're interested.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Apart from the above, I tie a freakin' killer half-Windsor tie-knot. I make a great gin martini when called upon. I can make friends with animals at 50 paces, particularly cats.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The hair. It's a bit of a microcosm of me. A short-back-and-sides, but unique, characterful, artsy, messy.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I'll keep this short, as no-one bothers reading this section, really. I know I certainly don't.

Cricket (the sport). Film in general, and particularly intelligent, psychological thrillers. TV - Mad Men, Game of Thrones, Breaking Bad, The Red Road (cancelled! *sniff!*), Halt And Catch Fire. Books - anything by Nick Earls, Tanith Lee or Diana Wynne-Jones (RIP). Why We Get Fat by Gary Taubes which genuinely changed my life and caused me to lose ten kilos (and I wasn't that big to start with). Good, German beer. That'll do.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My iPad, the internet, cricinfo.com, women, wine and song.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Women. Love. Sex. My career. Money - wish I didn't, but it's true. Cricket. How to reconcile the fact that whilst all of my school and university friends have Settled Down and are about to bring their third child into the world, I still look 25 and am in no mood to get fat, bald and wear rubber-soled shoes with suits (*shudder*) anytime soon, thanks very much. What that means when it comes to my love-life, and whether anyone else but me cares that I feel like I'm ten years out of sync with myself. Whether or not the pretty girl on the train will think I'm a creep if I say hello.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I don't really do typical Friday nights. Depending on the time of year I suppose there's a decent chance I'll be singing somewhere.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Nothing is sexier than a nice dress. I'm particularly partial to summer dresses (hello boys, there's just this thin layer of cotton between me and nudity, but I'm still going to meet your grandmother and go to the church fête in it - by the way, how do you like my bare shoulders?), but on the whole, anything well-cut will do. Big bonus points for dirndln, although I appreciate that I'm in the wrong part of Germany for those.
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