Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
You are more interested in being buddies first and lovers second.
I'm a sculptor and graphic artist. I respect pioneers, explorers,
cultivators. I admire anyone who uses their hands and uses
practical knowledge, like carpenters, mechanics, and artists.
I like using my hands and my body. I like to swim. I like to make
men laugh and feel good.
I appreciate the sensuality of the material world but I realize
that completion does not exist in and of the material world, but
that plus something else. (And if I knew what that something else
was, well I'd be a fucking genius, wouldn't I?)
I think the world here and now is an insane place to be in, but I
believe you have to do what you can, while you can, as long as you
I am unusually patient but what hasn't killed me yet has made me
observe the world more.
I am wry, romantic, and enigmatic.
What I’m doing with my life
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I work in development and public affairs. I've been kind of an
administrative journeyman and have enjoyed working in environments
that require wearing many hats. This has meant working for small
companies over the years, but currently I work in higher education,
which I enjoy.
I'd like to find fellow local artists, musicians and/or writers for
friendship. I get along well with just about anyone who understands
that art is a serious discipline.
I was in a long-term relationship for many years but am currently
single and ok with it, though I'd like to have someone to do stuff
with once in a while.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Doing nothing, literally. I can sit for a long time just watching
stuff. Now they call it "meditation," which is a bit of a
I'm fairly adaptable. I've worked for high-stress individuals in
the past and while there were times I didn't enjoy it, I value
everything about myself that I learned from those
I'm also a good listener and I like meeting new people, though I
generally dislike going to gay bars mainly because of the dynamic I
often encounter there. Having said that it's not totally anathema
to me. I'd rather hang out at my neighborhood pub, which isn't gay,
although everyone there knows I am, so it's all good. I grew up
near San Francisco and visit friends in New York from time to time,
so as far as hanging out in the "gay community," I'm kind of been
there, done that, unless I'm there specifically to hang out with
I appreciate quirky people. If you can make me laugh, you're gold.
If you're reasonably confident about yourself but are curious and
willing to investigate stuff you don't know, I'll probably like
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm not that comfortable in gay bars. They were sort of important
to me when I was younger but I realized that that they're not
particularly helpful to me at this point in time. I like men who
are honest with themselves and the next relationship I have will be
with someone who is realistic about their life journey. I will
respect you if you know what you want and can talk about it.
Often I'll go somewhere and will either blend in, or get looked at
for reasons not entirely clear to me. I'm sometimes mistaken for
other people, which is interesting.
I'm not a big guy but I think I command respect when needed. I get
scrappy and sharp-witted sometimes but most of the time I behave.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The last book which blew me away was "Guns, Germs and Steel" by
Jared Diamond. It explains the history of humanity in 500 pages and
manages to stay plausible and coherent. I'm a bit of a history,
geography and world culture nut due to my dad's collection of
I loved Contact with Jodie Foster. Even though I'm an artist I like
science and history documentaries. Reading up on art history is
also a hobby.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
That drunken librarian who won't shut up known as the Internet. A
sense of irony. A sense of humor. Faith in the idea that life is
made up of chapters. Genuinely warm, sane people. Good light,
plants and animals. I guess that's more than six but hey.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How much I enjoy four real seasons in New England. That I have a
great view of the moon from my apartment as it tracks across the
sky. That there must be other people out there who have been
through difficult times and still maintain a sense of humor keep
fighting for the good stuff. That people can express who they are
as eloquently by what they do and how they do it as eloquently as
by what they say and how they say it. That I need to keep making
art because it keeps making me. That life is full of surprises and
some of them are even good.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Errr. Doing laundry? Napping? Thinking about whether I feel like
going out or not? If I do, it's usually to the corner pub where
I'll probably see someone from the neighborhood. Otherwise I like
quiet nights at home reading friends' blogs or just plain reading.
I don't watch TV (but I'm not opposed to watching boxed sets of
things) and I'll take in a movie once in a while. I get a lot of my
pop-culture and zeitgest-y fixes from friends who point me to
various YouTube links.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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That I'm actually funnier and more romantic than I have reason to
be. That I believe friends hug, fight, hug some more, and teach
each other something new about life,. That I love wild things, even
if I know from experience you have to let them go before they bite
you on the ass.
You should message me if
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You're some kind of artist or appreciate the arts. You enjoy
talking about the creative process. You'd like to discuss the
journey and mystery of life in a light and casual way. You're not
sure whether you want a hug, a blow job, or just someone to hang
out with once in a while, especially if you find the local gay
scene largely uninteresting. I'm a pretty good listener and usually
up for a beer at the local (non-gay) pub. You're as lazy and
procrastinate-prone as I am and slightly disturbed by it.
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