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39 New York, NY Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 32–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 8:21am
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from med school
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Other (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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keen on consciousness expansion as well as the internal . . . interests include running for charity/good causes/the distance ( though the knee has decided biking may be my new running ), social justice, great conversations, comfortable silences, the arts, music, dance, and experiences that make the most of our collective experience of being human.

xenophile . . .

proud immigrant.

Don't want to belong, No need to belong.

I am NOT looking for someone to complete me . . . i'm already a whole person ( though constantly evolving ) . . . and would hope that you are as well. ;-D

I'm also not what I am .
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Now a decade+ in Gotham . . . After a long stint in the Midwest .
Brought across the ocean at a young age from my origins . . .
Between the forest and the sea.

working in the healthcare field for a not-for-profit community health center . . .

i've accomplished my goal of setting foot on all 7 continents . . . now turning to the internal < though i still love to travel, but it is getting a bit harder to get away >.

writer / musician manque . . . heh heh . . .

ellipses addict . . . of metropolis.

but with all there is to see, do and explore, it would be infinitely better to have someone special < or tolerable, heh heh, i'm not picky > with whom to share it all.

low key, no pressure . . . we should have all the time in the world.

my pace is glacial.

the 100 Thing Challenge . . . spending too much time looking at the minimalist living on Apartment Therapy

and sometimes i really just don't know. and i'm okay with that.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
listening to people and finding common ground . . . Analysis/daydreaming. . . and remembering that the limit is NOT the sky . . . living in the moment, but being aware of consequences . . .

< and i'm pretty good at pulling teeth, ha ha . . . seriously ;-D >
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
the antennae! their eyes always go to the antennae!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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BOOKS : Words written by Frank Herbert, Haruki Murakami, Neil Gaiman, Umberto Eco, David Sedaris, Charles Bukowski, David Mitchell, Amitav Ghosh, Albert Camus, Martin Amis, Alison Bechdel, Chinua Achebe and a host of others. Classical and Contemporary.

CINEMA : Indie Films, Documentaries, International Films / mindless entertainment

MUSIC : Most kinds of music ( especially indie rock / shoegazer / experimental / ambient ), anything having to do with Justin Broadrick, big fan of British Music, sounds that move you and make you groove.

my own lefty strung-upside-down bass adventures

currently haunted by this . . .

and for gettin' down . . .

SHOWS : PBS / BBC / British Comedy < Peep Show is dead brilliant! and PhoneShop is also lovely >/ Mysteries, Dr. Who, Art Shows, Experimental / Theater, Architecture, Dance, Orchids, Interactive.

FOOD : the finest vegetarian fare ( not to mention the sweet tooth . . . yep, this one right here, it is made entirely of sugar! ).
Though I have bent 'the rules' a bit and my love for sushi and fish and chips has taken me off the veggie path . . .
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The Beauty of Melancholy
The Ideal of Justice
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
you can travel pretty light when you are alone, but then, you ARE alone

gratitude . . . harmony . . . the process

how to live more simply and more richly ( the two are NOT mutually exclusive )

Mushin - the art of being artless.

Will I die without ever reading Ulysses to the end?

and this algorithm . . . worse mannered?! you could not BE more incorrect! My manners, like my posture, are impeccable. ;-P
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
either out or at home, heh heh . . .
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
those Security Check 'words' by reCAPTCHA are becoming increasingly more difficult to do ;-O!

I have not watched 'The Wire' and don't plan to . . . and i'll probably still live a fulfilled and meaningful life ;->.
You should message me if
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we might have something in common < or not > or something piques your interest . . . and/or you'd like to kill some time . . .
grow to know me, i will be open.

Generally looking for adventure partners (though I tend to somewhat hibernate in the winter ) to partake with me in the loads of things to do in our environs.
and other spontaneous flights of fancy . . .

your turn.

- Q