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29 M Waltham, MA

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My Details

Last Online
Oct 21
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Atheism, and laughing about it
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), Hebrew (Poorly), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Oh, hey! You've made it this far. This is the point where I either get to either scare you off, draw you in, or make you go "meh." Nothing in between. When in doubt, round. I'll let you decide on the direction. Just a preliminary heads up: I'm in a relationship with an absolutely wonderful person I met on this site.

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You see that old guy riding a bicycle that's a motor away from needing a license plate? Or dragging a kayak into the water at a snail's pace, but still kayaking all the same? I want to be that guy when I get old.

Regardless of astrology's validity (or lack, thereof,) I tend to exemplify some of the stereotypical traits of a Taurus. I genuinely struggle to live life with integrity and honesty, to myself and others. And moving big heavy things.

I'm an extroverted introvert with a fairly big heart. I enjoy the company of others, but I certainly need my alone time as well. I have a picture of the person I want to be and try to make sure I have time to do the introspection to make sure I'm on track.

A peer of mine in college once told me that if an author tried to write me into a work of fiction, nobody would believe it. I've been described as "quirky" by multiple people, so this seems to be corroborated. I've also received the "Are you ever serious about ANYTHING?!" question on gigs, only to leave them disquieted when I went into hyper-focus mode on a particularly detail-intense matter.

As a bit of a politics crib sheet: Pro-choice, feminist, for affordable healthcare (though not necessarily through mandated purchasing of for-profit services,) strong socialist leanings, loves and strongly criticizes unions at the same time, knows about both white and male privilege, welcoming of immigrants.

I identify myself as Jewish through the filters and lenses of atheism and humanism. In other words, trying to keep the good of my upbringing instead of jettisoning everything with the whole theism bit.

I believe highly in this: The defining adulthood bit. Though ball pits are awesome.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
At the core, life is a balancing act and a quest for meaning.

I'm a sound engineer, stagehand, and fledgling lighting tech. I genuinely love what I do with a passion. It gives me the right balance of working with my hands and my head at the same time. My field is almost an extension of childhood, in some ways.

I keep coming to the realization that quality of life and personal fulfillment in work trump financial compensation. That's not to say that money isn't a necessary evil, but I would rather work more lower paying gigs and feel amazing then upping the number of corporate gigs and watching the cash roll in. I'm also trying to establish a healthier work balance.

Outside of work, I am a member of a Ghanaian drum and dance society, as well as bagpipe band. Being a complete music addict, if I'm not working, rehearsing, or performing, there's a good chance I might be trying to catch a show. Mind you, this is often during the winter, when the work load drops. During the summer, it's a matter of forcing myself to turn down work once in a while so that I don't burn out.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I take pride in my work as an engineer and stagehand.

I've been able to put food on people's plates that was quite palatable.

Other people have enjoyed my dancing. I just enjoy doing it. I used to breakdance, but I've moved away to reduce the wear and tear on my joints.

This might tie back in to the stagehands pride, but I've become quick dealing out the pun.ishment, as well as citing the "that's what she said."
The first things people usually notice about me
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Typically, it's my height or lack thereof. It really comes in handy for going under stages or pushing boxes, though. I apparently measured in at 5'5" last time I was at the doc, but this won't do.

Conduct-wise, one friend described me as "socially clumsy, yet somehow landing on my feet in an endearing way."

I've also had friends comment that my irises look like marbles.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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III. Music (Yes, out of order)
I'm going to start by putting NIN temporarily at the top, since they blew my mind out when I saw them at the Garden. Best $150 I've spent in a while.

I used to have a pretty extensive list here. Instead, I'll just toss out what I've listened to in the past few days:

Several of the Bach Brandenburg Concerti, Seven Lions, Rocco Deluca and the Burden, C.M. Widor, Bassnectar, Random Rab, Elvis Costello, Wolfstone, The Chicago Afrobeat Project, The Invarary and District Pipe band, Massive Attack, Balkan Beat Box, John Brown's Body, ill.Gates, and Mother Falcon.

I. Books: Silence by John Cage, New Directions in Music by David Cope, Here, There, and Everywhere by Geoff Emerick (the main recording engineer of the Beatles,) Art as Experience by John Dewey, Snow Crash, The Diamond Age, and Cryptonomicon by Neil Stephenson. Drum Damba and Drum Gahu by David Locke, Glory Road and Tunnel in the Sky by Robert A. Heinlein, Neuromancer by William Gibson, The Belgariad and The Malloreon by David Eddings, The Farseer Trilogy and The Liveship Triology by Robin Hobb, Ender's Game, Speaker for the Dead, and Ender's Shadow by Orson Scott Card,

II. Movies: Sanjuro, Yojimbo, Mirrormask, The Princess Bride, Strictly Ballroom, Pi, Enter the Dragon, Time of the Wolf, Sweeny Todd, Amelie, Pan's Labyrinth, Akira, The Adventures of Felix, American History X, Tora! Tora! Tora!, Big Fish, Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory, The Mouse that Roared, Shaun of the Dead, The Band's Visit, Mononoke Hime, Spirited Away, Fight Club, The Life of Brian, Ghost Dog, Perfect Blue, Audition, Psycho, Battleship Potempkin, A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Forum, Coraline, The Secret of NIMH, Scott Pilgrim vs. The World,

IV. Food: Its more of a question of what I don't like! If you were to give me a choice between sushi, Thai, Vietnamese, Ghanaian, Brazilian, Indian, Jewish, pub fare, or straight up American, I probably would walk away with a smile no matter what. As a general rule, I don't eat most fast food, save for stuff like Subway. Reading Fast Food Nation will do that to you. I also don't eat non-kosher meat primarily for my own reasons, but also because it's hard to shake things I've been doing for 20+years. I absolutely adore fish, though.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
You've probably heard variants qualifying life necessities first. I'll spare you.

1. Music - This is a no brainer. This has kept me from hitting the lowest of lows, time and time again.
2. Ear plugs - I rarely leave home without them.
3. Dance
4. Meaningful interactions
5. A well cooked meal.
6. Mediums of information.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
  • Life, liberty, and the pursuit of oxytocin, dopamine, and endorphins.

  • - What can I do to be a better stagehand and engineer?

  • - Will I have time to practice today?

  • - What we need to do to confront issues in perceived gender roles and expectations.

  • - A whole slew of feminist issues, most recently, the pervasiveness of street harassment.
    - Where I'd love to travel to next.

  • - How I just want grab people who think that poor people are just being lazy and shake them.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working! Roadie Friday=Monday. When all you kiddies are out playing, I'm working to bring you the tech end of the fun. I love it, though. During the rare times when I'm not working, I'll probably try to hit some sort of musical or cultural event. I'm pretty bad about staying away from performance.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Well, I'm pretty sure that I'm going to be at least partially bald later in life. Rather than trying to fight it, I'm trying to figure out how to make it work. If Patrick Stewart can do it and look badass, I should at least have a fighting chance!

A not so subtle array of flags for some people: SSC, RACK ,FL, and Dom-heavy switch.
You should message me if
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So, just a heads up, I'm in a relationship with a wonderful woman I met here. If you still think we might get along as friends, feel free to message!