I am an explorer, a sensualist, an adventurer. Life is short and chock full of too many things to experience them all. But I'd like to sample and dabble in as many of them as I can.

Between the discardability of "friends with benefits" and the commitment of "life partners", there is a whole continuum of ways to interact with others, and strangely seems somewhat unexplored in our culture. But it's an open space where one can bring connection, desire, curiosity, trust, and touch to another person.

How about some magical buzzwords? These all apply to me or interest me in some shape or fashion, and are presented in alphabetical order for no particular reason...
- autodidactic
- bokeh
- egalitarianism bordering on feminism
- GGG
- late harvest Gewürztraminer
- metta and karuna
- ontologies and semantics
- polyamory vs open relationships
- radical self-expression
- sacred sexuality
- sapiosexuality

And for some reason, this just makes me giggly...
There are two types of people in this world: Those who can extrapolate from incomplete data.

Playing games (as in "board and card", not as in "head"), learning everything I can about relationship dynamics and in turn using that to help other folks.

I'm one of those folks who likes to tinker with their wiring. I'm really intrigued by own programming and my spiritual center and devote a lot of attention to better understanding both of those. I love interacting with other folks who are embarked on the same self-discovery path...

listening, communicating, negotiating, honoring boundaries, taking turns (I'm not having fun unless you're having fun too!), cuddling, and rather protracted makeout sessions.

One or more of the following seem to be surprisingly common, depending on how we are interacting:
- "You have a great voice. Are you a DJ?"
- "Are those eyes blue?.. or grey?"
- "I can't believe I'm telling you all this! I don't normally talk about all this but it just feels so safe, like we've known each other for a long time..."

"Sex at Dawn" (which, although it sounds like porn or erotica, is a *fascinating* anthropological theory that mankind has evolved to be an openly sexual creature with multiple partners, but agriculture, religion, and modern culture have managed to block that.). A lot of my reading these days seems to revolve around psychology, sociology, or tantra, although historically I've probably read more fantasy/sci fi than anything else.

My movie tastes tend to revolve around foreign, artsy, or indie flicks with some favorite names like: Jarmusch, Itami, Miyazaki, Kieslowski, Almodovar, Breillat, Woo, Greenaway, Gilliam, Lynch, plus the Coen and Wachowskis brothers (well, I guess "brother and sister" now in the latter case). The more confronting or confounding a movie is, the more I relish it.

Tunage: It ranges a lot. I like bloopy stuff like Postal Service, M83, PlayRadioPlay, and other fun glitchy indie stylings. I love ethereal magic like Cocteau Twins, This Mortal Coil, Dead Can Dance, Kate Bush, and the Sundays. I also love dance music usually along the mintech, progressive, or DnB genres. (However, I like dubstep only when Beardyman is mocking it). And I usually decimate at any sort of 80s music trivia or "name that tune" game.

Food is another whole universe to explore, so I'm always happy to try something new there (although I stick to a generally vegetarian/pescatarian diet these days). It helps that I love to cook or go prowling around new restaurants or food carts.

- intimacy (of any of the flavors)
- compassion
- bulleted lists
- the ability to count
- a sense of mischief

- everyone's inherent cultural programming and how we are able to access and change it
- possibilities for my next workshop or podcast
- game theory and mechanics
- how many different flavors of "intimacy" there are: physical, sexual, emotional, spiritual, intellectual, familial, and so many others. And how often people collapse these into one another, or seek one when actually desiring another. (like confusing sex with emotional intimacy)
- gender and how it matters (or doesn't). I make an effort to eschew the gender binary and stereotypical normative roles that come with it. I am comfortable with identifying as "queer" (with the note that I more often find attraction to those at the feminine/femme end of the spectrum than at the masculine/butch end -- but chemistry is often a fickle and capricious thing and soon as I make a statement like that, I tend to find an exception. ;) In any case, it really doesn't matter much to me if you're cis or trans, or how you identify as long as you're not militant about it.)

This list looks like a disparate mess, but I actually do think a lot about all these things.

Roll 1d6 and pick from the following:
1: fumble! temporary membership in the FNNLC (Friday Night No Life Club)
2-3: out exploring a wine tasting or brewpub someplace
4-5: whipping up epic nachos and enjoying a movie while cuddling
6: critical hit! enjoying of those protracted makeout sessions.

Holy crap, where does one start? Do I go for shock effect with something shameful at the risk of scaring you away? Do I go for banal and get dismissed for evading the intent of the question? Or do I go for witty and hope that my charm somehow differentiates me from everyone else who is charming on this site?

So, here's what I'll offer: Radical honesty. I am very committed to transparency, connection, and sex-positivity. Anything you want to know, you'll get a totally truthful answer from me. No quid pro quo required, although it would at least make it more interesting for me. ;)

...You grok open relationships (I'm in one, very happily married, and it's 100% transparent in both directions - ie, full disclosure and no secrets)

...You believe in taking care of yourself. That includes your body, your emotional needs, being willing to ask for something you want, and being willing to express when something isn't working for you. (actually, please *don't* message me unless this is true for you)

...You just want to test how literal I was being in the "private" section above.