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  • Ages 20–39
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  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Today – 5:22pm
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body type
A little extra
Mostly anything
Trying to quit
Atheism, and laughing about it
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), French (Okay)
My self-summary
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I was born in Saint John NB in July sometime in the early to mid 1980's. I was bald until I was like 3 or something. My first day of school was spent in my principal's office; it was the beginning of a long and tenuous relationship. Pascal Chisholm was his name, good guy overall, although he could become a little authoritarian at times, and he bristled when I called him Pascal.

After 'Mister Chisholm' and I parted ways I started high school. I had all the optimism of a convict being released from prison. I truly thought it was going to be a fresh start; of course it wasn't.

I spent 2 years mulling about the school and nearby parks with the other disenchanted teen-aged souls, listened to far too much lame music, and generally just wasted my time. The week I turned 16 was spent on a Greyhound bus destined for my cousin's house north of Calgary. I was back home in a little over a year with a badly broken arm and my man-boy ego in tatters. Luckily I had some savings as well as a small legal settlement to compensate me for the new metal accessories I now had holding the bones in my arm together.

Within a couple months I was healed up and itching for a new adventure. I decided I wanted to travel and 'see the country' so, with all the naiveté and recklessness of a 17 year old high school drop out who quit taking his ADD medication, I stuck out my thumb. I hitchhiked all over New Brunswick at first, then the Maritimes, and eventually all across the country. During this period I became friends with a group of modern day hobos who showed me the ins and outs of riding freight trains. In the end I spent 4 years travelling this way while working at communal farms and orchards.

Around 21 I started having a quarter-life crisis which may, or may not, have been brought on by reading too much post-modern and post-structuralist literature. After this bout with existential angst I, perhaps paradoxically, decided that if god was dead, and the concept of fate was a fallacy then I might as well do something. This somehow involved me going back to school.

I didn't want, or for that matter need, to go back to high school so I worked the system a bit by telling the admissions department that I was home schooled. After a few placement exams I was excepted to Algonquin's Social Service Worker program. I transferred to Carleton University the following year to the BSW program.
TL/DR I was born, I traveled, I went to university for social work.

These days I'm rather boring... I moved to Halifax in February after a few years of living in Vancouver and working in the DTES for a supportive housing organisation for people with mental health and/or addiction issues. I really liked the job and (a big difference for me) the organisation, but it was time to move back to the East Coast. I now manage a housing support program in the north end. It's really great, but has it's challenges.

I also volunteer and do community development things here and there. I'm considering starting a mentoring program that matches youth with ADHD and learning disabilities with post-secondary students and professionals with similar conditions, but I've sort of put tthis on the back burner for now. I also help some of my friends with their bands, and I usually have some odd project on the go. (I recently bought an old motorcycle which has been fun)

I'm probably the most open minded and non-judgmental guy I know, but I have to admit that I have little time for those who see the world as black or white. I was raised by lesbians, my bio-mom and her partner. This ingrained in me a respectful attitude in general, but particularly towards women. I like meeting everyone from the stodgy to the clinically insane. I can be pretty impulsive but usually in a fun way. I love the DIY movement, but its caused me to become addicted to tools and Canadian Tire.

Anyway (sorry for the essay) I really don't what else to write. I don't really know why I made this profile but I'm newly back on the East Coast so, if you think we might get along, message me.
TL/DR I'm a social worker , I volunteer, I build/fix things as a hobby, I need a social life.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Tinkering; being awesome; having fun; exploring my new neighbourhood; making things out of leather, mostly purses (weird, I know); riding my motorcycle all over the damn place; being a wage slave.....
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being open-minded, critical evaluation, playing devil's advocate, rationalization, I'm good at working with my hands (leather craft, wood working), I'm full of useless trivial information, and I can make most people laugh (although sometimes its more of a 'this guy's f**kin nuts' type of thing). I'm also a pretty good cook/baker.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I don't know. I have my own look,I guess. I like loud or odd sunglasses, and I'm probably wearing a band shirt. Also, it seems many people notice that I have a rather large willow tree tattoo on my forearm, and my ratty Brando-esque leather jacket. Recently I started dressing a little 'nicer' after getting promoted at work; apparently people don't take you seriously if you show up at a meeting wearing a Motorhead shirt (I now own half a dozen button down shirts...)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I read mostly non fiction stuff about social justice, philosophy, history, and other lefty trash. As far as fiction goes, I've read a lot of the classics and those that have been banned. Johnny Got His Gun, The Painted Bird, Orwell's stuff, The Beat gen writers, Bukowski's stuff, The Outsiders. I liked Lullabies for Little Criminals. Canada Reads type stuff.

I watch a LOT of documentaries online but I don't even own a TV. Shows I stream include mostly comedies like 30 Rock, Parks and Rec, Community, and The IT Crowd.

I'm stuck in the 70's-80's musically, mostly brit/euro punk rock, some early metal. I`ll be pretty impressed if you know or like any of these, but here is a partial list: The Partisans, Blitz, Crass, Special Duties, Broken Bones, Skeptix, Disorder, Chaos UK, The Exploited, Amebix, G.B.H., Oi Polloi, ACCIDENT, Vice Squad, Me First and the Gimme Gimmes, Dayglo Abortions, Germ Attak, Gone Drinkin, Wendy O. Williams, the Ripcordz, The Business, Inepsy, The Automatix, Crimes, Get Wrecked, Discharge, The Ramones, Motörhead, Cocksparrer, Iggy Pop, The Clash,
As far as non-punk I like some old country, blues-y type stuff, rock-a-billy, and some other stuff. Johnny Cash, Zeppelin, The Devil Makes Three, Scott H Biram, Hank Williams I&III, pre-90s Micheal Jackson, some Old Country, CCR, The Beatles, Black Sabbath, Public Enemy, Beastie Boys, Woody Guthrie, and yes even some Lady Gaga (Ok maybe not her music, but I love how crazy this lady is; I think she probably is the most philosophical and open-minded 'pop' star around)

I'm pretty adventurous with food and a lot of my friends are chefs so I get to try some pretty wacky things, but I'm not a 'foodie' in the sense that I'd rather cook something nice than drop X number of dollars at that new place in town. I like sea bugs.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A pulse, brain function, oxygen, water, food, some type of blanket....... I guess?!?

Ok I know that's a silly response so I'll include 6 things that I enjoy about life, and that I would be very disappointed if I had to do with out them. (in no particular order)

*The internet and the means to use it. I'm sponge for info, and I love having it at my fingertips. I also spend too much time on sites like reddit, youtube, and news sites.

*Intimacy. I'm a rampant flirt and I like to compliment people. I like to touch people (this sounds creepy); what I mean is I like to put my arm around people, or give them a quick neck rub, or holding hands etc. I've been told give good massages and better hugs.

*Sex. I'll put it bluntly, I really like sex and most things to do with sex. I see very little reason to be ashamed of sexuality, and as long as it's conducted between consenting adults, I see nothing wrong with any of it.

*Good friends. I literally still have friends I've had since kindergarten, and although we might not be all that close anymore, I still love all of them. My best friends are irreplaceable and are people who I could tell anything to and they would still love me and respect me.

*Mobility. A lot of my friends are spread across the continent and I would feel bad if I could never see them again. I also like to travel, and driving long distances is one of my skills that I use fairly regularly.

*Freedom. I need autonomy, or at least a great deal of it. Feeling repressed makes me irrational. If I'm in a situation that limits the choices I can make I want the situation to be something I voluntarily committed to.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The quirks of modern life, capitalism, exploitation, human rights, 'green-washing', food politics, the left, the nouveau riche, housing law, drug policy, the criminal justice system, class, education, alt education, the erosion of the social safety net, critical theory, Micheal Foucault's stuff, Zizek, the labour movement, various other social movements, equality, sexuality, law, community development, the future, and various other less serious things.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I recently became part of the 9-5 crowd (8-4 actually) so Friday nights have been spent feeling kind of old and too tired to party like I used to. Or I'm heading out of town on some adventure on my motorcycle.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I was in the same relationship from when I was 19 until I was 27. I don't regret it, but I feel like I'm a total noob at this whole dating thing.
You should message me if
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*If you feel like it.

*You think you can beat me at Trivial Pursuit.

*You have a sense of humour

*You're intelligent, witty, open-minded, independent, self-assured, confident, self-aware and you masturbate (I swear this makes sense)

*30+ year olds are cool ( I find it supremely hilarious that many progressive, modern, self-actualized women still won't date a guy more than a year or two younger than themselves)

*You don't mind being the responsible one (its either this, or a faceoff of irresponsibility, you choose! :P)

*You're all grown up but miss being juvenile, uninhibited, crass, and/or drinking beer....... ++esp. moms that want to swear, office workers, feminists, lesbian & queer folks who'll at least flirt with me/be my, musicians, mature/returning students. poly/non-monog folks etc.

*You feel like you're becoming 'The Man', especially if you originally planned to 'change it/bring it down from the inside',

*You want to go for a drink/tea/coffee and have a convo/listen to me babble about anything from the Age-Crime Curve to zebra mussel migration.

*You want some help on a project.

I hardly ever send the first message. Having said that, if I've checked out your profile and not messaged you it doesn't mean I'm not interested. In fact if I've checked it out more than once it probably means I am. However, I also know that some women get several messages daily from guys they aren't interested in, and it can become a burden; especially if they feel the need to be polite and write back. I just don't want to contribute to the time wasting exercises of your busy lives. So just send me a hi even!