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_Dumela_

42 F Seattle, WA

My Details

Last Online
Jul 8
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body Type
A little extra
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Medicine
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Monogamous
Offspring
Has kids
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), German (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly), Other (Poorly), Russian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I love myself when I am laughing. ~Zora Neale Hurston

Forget not that the earth delights to feel your bare feet and the winds long to play with your hair. ~Kahlil Gibron

Lately, it all starts (well after OCK-we must give credit to this site even if we mock it!) with a cup of tea, a fun cafe, live music, a walk in a park, people watching, sharing stories, walking barefoot ;)...this 27/7 virtual dating experience should be a little fun, if you are open and positive, say hello and share a fun or random fact and I will say hello back if interested! Perhaps share where you think would be a most fun first date or if you want to explore new I am game for that too. Or, needing more causal, no pressure, first meeting of two fine souls...same idea, just do not call it a date!

Been told that I have a free spirit, entertain and embrace a sensitive nature, hold inner strength, delicate intuition and wicked wisdom, walk to the beat of my own drum...I do agree... and thus...
...extremely important: you holding strength and conviction in your person, expressive in nurture and compassion, comfortable and secure in your own skin, spirit and soul, strong in your emotions and character.

Here is the list of qualities and character that are important to me. Polarities that in the end are supposed to be in balance right? Authentic and true, established and financially responsible yet able to have fun and be light-hearted, sophisticated yet down to earth.

Giver and receiver of nurturing and caring.

“In the house of lovers, the music never stops, the walls are made of songs & the floor dances” ~Rumi

Do you embrace your imperfections, quirks and oddities...
I will share mine if you share yours. :)
Feel free to call me on it if I am unawares...
We really are all more alike than different, it is where and how we choose to put our emphasis when thinking of others.

Sensuous, sassy, silly, smart, sublime.
Luxuries, love, like 'em a lot.
Manifest, meaningful, much.
Silky, soft, spoil me such.
Romantic, real, redefine.
Pretty, peaceful, pamper just fine.

This path of being open to love and accepting of one's self and others as well as receiving love can be fun and full of discovery with open compassionate communication...

I think with each relationship and person you get to know you learn a bit more about yourself, amazing what can be reflected back to you through the eyes of another.

Courageous in honesty and being forthcoming!
Generous, caring and giving!

Free and adult time can be romantically wild and free. Mother time responsible, doing what is best for kiddo's and of course fun too!
Friendship, trust and understanding are all hugely important to me!
What I’m doing with my life
Professionally I have worked for the past 12 years at a nonprofit community clinic as a licensed clinical social worker. Very passionate and thankful for my job, being able to do something that I love to do, am good at and enjoy. Intense work so not sure if enjoy is the word but it feels right and good for me at this time in my life.
I’m really good at
Respecting and listening to others, being quiet and reflective when I need to and laughing and having fun the rest of the time!
The first things people usually notice about me
*Right now my hair is a gorgeous purple, silky shiny smooth!*
A kindness from the heart!
Twinkle in my eye!
But what they do not see at first is my teasing adventurous spirit!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I am often outside relishing nature’s gifts, any park by the water, mountains, ocean or woods (rain or shine). Playing with my kids. I love to play games, read and just hang out with those that are near and dear. I also enjoy fine dining, a good movie, live performances (music and dance-Meany Hall is the best!) and long for the day of returning to international travel…(started by working at age 11, age 12 was learning German so that when I was 16 I as an exchange student in Germany and then it went from there...traveling solo through out Eastern Europe when an Au-pair in Austria, again soloed it thru Guatemala and Honduras (often staying with families) to name a few. Long for the day of international travel yet again...

(Cannot really pick a fav as I enjoy so much. I am quite right brained so do like my left brain stimulated with new topics, searching for the wise mind. How can you challenge me in my learning and growing?)

Time is also spent on trying to keep my house from falling apart. I can live in the mountains of Africa (Lesotho) with no running water or electricity (Peace Corps) but this home thing is proving more challenging. My foot just went through my back porch the other day. Oh but the flowers are so vibrant with color who will notice that gaping hole, careful just do not step there!

I tend to read a lot of books depicting life in other cultures, delving into the depths of the characters' souls. I read Yoga Journal, Psychology Today, Psychotherapy Network and National Geographic monthly. In the past year have added to my genre of literature to include books of a more intimate nature.
The six things I could never do without
Laughter.
Love.
Honesty.
Being in nature.
My camera.
Extravagant chocolate!

My kids were "What about us Mom,?" well of course that is a given!!!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Humanity and how we are all connected. That if there was more respect shown for all living beings: people, those in the animal kingdom and Mother Earth we would all be in a lot better place.
On a typical Friday night I am
It all depends on what is going on in town, what the mood is and how the week has been. So many choices...

I like a little of this and a lot of that, no really I know what I like but I also like to try new things. Could be anything from Jazz clubs, live performances, quiet dinner at home or out, going for a evening walk, a good movie at home curled up on the couch, skinny dipping (gotcha there, I really cannot swim so well and would look funny naked in a life jacket)...if the connection is good I find most anything is fun!

Lately, a restorative yoga class after work (have been doing yoga for over 10 years...)…what a wonderful transition into the weekend, letting myself leave any stress’s from the week behind. If my kids are with me they are there too…son playing basketball and daughter usually swimming!

If kids are with their dad then how about an awesome date, now that would be cool! Where shall we go? What shall we do?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
On line...well...will someday get a tattoo of a butterfly on my right thigh...Coastal Native Artwork to bring magic and meaning to the flight of the wings...to celebrate so many challenges faced in ones life and the movement through them...

Through this on-line dating thing, perhaps, hope to, feel it is possible to meet that man that carries the key to my heart...and I his of course...sshh this is supposed to be private!
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 38–48
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
Can be flexible in meeting up as my kids are pretty much with me full time. Old enough though that I can 'go out' without a babysitter.

At this point in my life, being in my 40's and mother of two growing children (11 and 14) I need to be real, they can be hurt/confused too as they are part of this equation. Really real and somewhat practical!

Here is to you and a new day, make it how you want it to be!

You can feel a strong connection in a long, lovely, heart to heart hug...tons of emotional and physical affection!

"One day someone is going to hug you so tight that all of your broken pieces will stick back together again." Anonymous

Holding hands on walks is enjoyable!

Willing to sometimes share a vegetarian meal (that includes seafood). Salmon being the best by far so really a pescatarian.

Can handle a bit of fiestiness, spunk and mischievousness and moments of intensity as I can be pretty passionate about life and issues I feel strongly about...and it may come from my mostly Italian, Irish, Jewish and Hungarian heritage :-)

Feel comfortable with "I'm sorry's", maybe not for what was said or done but for the hurt or misunderstanding it may have caused. This is reciprocal and I will do the same.

Down the road...if that is where our path shall lead...growing old together and being there for one another as one day turns into the next...best friend's where honesty, love and support are treasures of the heart, body and soul! Where kindred spirits grow and merge to become that special soul mate!