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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 30-49
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Hispanic / Latin, White
5' 8" (1.73m)
Body Type
Atheism and laughing about it
Might want kids
English, Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I love lots of stuff. I've had to put lots of stuff on hold for now. My pictures are all pretty recent, but they are all in a kitchen. I guess that means I'm too busy to probably even be here. If one, even just one picture of me relaxing in central park, climbing into a barrel at the top of Niagara Falls, or hugging a bunch of kids in a land far, far away would mix it up, I would post them…but those pictures would be a lie. So if you mind a busy, busy guy, you would come to resent me quickly. Just being fair.

Don't open a restaurant unless you love it, which I do. I opened my first (and perhaps only) restaurant two years ago and so far so good. I designed the place and built most of it myself, and I'm the chef/accountant/manager/host/busboy/official toilet un-clogger and anything else I need to do when my 30 employees are busy making people happy with good food and drink. I basically live there (hence Long Island City), but actually sleep in Brooklyn for those of you who are scared of Queens. Take a peek....

I realized recently that the reason I'm good at this restaurant/social thing, is that after 43 years of interacting with people, I remain blissfully unaware that each new person that I meet might have a bad side. So far it's worked out pretty well for me. I could write lots of tasty little things here about myself, but
how accurate is anyone's self image??? Instead, here are some things that I've heard people say to me, , and by people, I do not only mean my mother/best friend/biggest if these are the things that you would want to say to someone that you might consider writing to...well...write already,'re pretty bright!
---you don't drink? But you love hanging out at bars? Weird...
....I don't know where your energy comes from.
....I thought the chorizo tart was amazing! Where did you come up with that..
....might be time to get a's starting to look like you're wearing a hat.
....What are you reading this week?
....funk? soul? You have the musical tastes of a 60 yr old black man.
....will you come decorate my apartment?
...a straight guy with a sewing machine?
...what kind of restaurant? played music for 10 years? Why not anymore?

Guess name is nick. I was going to come up with some clever name but I imagine that my parents put a lot of thought into picking out this one, so I'll stick with it.

DEALBREAKERS (one's that you might have). I figure get these out in the open right away.

1. I don't drink. This is a weird thing for a lot of people, but I left it blank for a reason. After working for years for one drunk owner after another, I decided to stop before I opened a joint of my own. I don't go to AA. I ask my friends to "meet up for drinks." I still close down bars sometimes, and I'm completely comfortable surrounded by drunk people and I'm usually having as much fun as they are. The only difference between my new "lifestyle" and my old is what is in the glass in front of me. So put that in your one-hitter and smoke it.

2. I just quit smoking, which means I carry around one of those fake e-smokes. . If you hate that, I'm sorry. One day I will quit completely, but not until after this restaurant is open for a while. In the meantime:

"Smoking is, as far as I'm concerned, the entire point of being an adult. Many people find smoking objectionable. I myself find many--even more--things objectionable. I do not like aftershave lotion, adults who roller-skate, children who speak French, or anyone who is unduly tan. I do not, however, go around enacting legislation and putting up signs.
- Fran Lebowitz

3. I'm not the tallest tool in the shed.
I'm 5'8". That means I'm 5'5" if you have on 3" heels. Thought it was fair for me to do the math. I have dated shorter (obviously), and taller...either way is cool with me, but not to all. So I'm not a swifter with an extension, but I'm also not a hand trowel….something in the middle.

If I email you, a polite, "I don't date teetotalling shorties that smoke" rejection email would be appreciated. Thanks.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Hmmm. Pretty sure I covered this.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Things I'm bad at (or more deal breakers....)
*Spelling - "It is a damn poor mind indeed which cannot think of at least two way to spell any word." - Thank you Andrew Jackson for my "out" on this one.
*not bumping into things
*being on time when it's not essential
*going to bed early
*sitting down for more than 10 minutes
*remembering birthdays
*remembering to eat when I'm busy
*quitting things
*playing poker
*watching sports
*moderation (well, not horrible)

Things I'm good at: most of the other stuff.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I just bumped into them....sorry.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Short lists or long lists? I went with short. This section is where people see if they have anything in common, right? So...chances are that we like some of the same books, some of the same TV shows, some of the same music and some of the same food.

Books: Vonnegut, Fitzgerald, Roth, Chabon, Murakami.
TV: House, West Wing
Music: Funk R&B, Soul
Food: Everything and Anything
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Books...printed on paper, not downloaded.
Music with a little bit of soul.
Good bedding...I spend 1/3 of my life there...pretty damn important.
A sharp knife.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What light fixture should go where. How much salt to use. How to fill up a new restaurant.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hopefully creating good yelp reviews.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have a spreadsheet of all the books I own.....very dorky.

I have a spreadsheet of all the books I own...very cool.
You should message me if
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Quick note: on the age range....for dating I'm looking for someone close to my age, but for friends...all are welcome.

Quick note #2: from what I've gathered, this is the section where I should list all the reasons not to message me. Seems tedious.