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40 Oakland, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 35-52
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 3:07pm
Relationship Type
5' 7" (1.70m)
Body Type
Other and laughing about it
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs and Has cats
English, French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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"Be realistic. Plan for a miracle." Rajineesh.

I'm into being kind, being direct, listening with presence, creating possibilities, showing up, being present with love, following dreams, meeting life on life's terms, wanting life to happen on my terms, failing miserably and trying again (or trying to), telling it like it is, being feisty, sharing stories, living life fully, witnessing you do the same, filling my senses, wearing my heart on my sleeve, and laughing at, pondering, and being in total awe of the mystery - and miracle- of being alive on a swirling Earth in a vast universe we ultimately don't have a clue about.
What I’m doing with my life
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Something outdoors, every day, moving my body. Making adventures out of common experiences with a jolt of imagination to transform them from just another day out to something unique and memorable. Helping people realize how amazing they are, and the greatness in them that was always there, that they lost sight of (that is also my *work*). Deciding whether I want to get a motorcycle again or if I should quit while it still hasn't totally grabbed me. Designing my gigantic backyard. Planning a trip to the mountains- often. Falling madly in love with the ocean again. Pushing my comfort zone in some way from the teeny tiny to the huge, to make sure I stay fully alive. Finding new music. Shaking my booty to said music. Working with and learning about horses and continuing to be blown away by what awe-some creatures they are, and dreaming about having a ranch of my own one day, with horses, dogs galore, some barn kittens, sheep, goats, and a pond you can swim in- and a wide vista to here and beyond to stare off into. Traveling, again, after a 10 year span where that's nearly all I did, and another 10 where I barely did while building my career, and now ready to re-claim my international ways. More recently, singing the blues ... A couple of years ago I had my first -ever (small) public performance and found I was a complete hound for the attention of an audience! Who knew?! I'd love to learn to dance Samba, and a zillion other Latin dances and bring it to the stage somehow. So many things to dream about...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
enjoying the process as well as the outcome, while impatiently hoping the outcome is what I really want, organizing people to get together for inspiring fun from sports (skiing, biking, hiking) to summer parties on my deck, to camping adventures, to fundraisers; parallel parking in tight spaces, dancing till I break a sweat, sitting still and blissing out to the beauty of nothing but the sound of the rustling trees and my dog panting next to me, finding weird little unknown spots on road-trips to the middle of nowhere, sharing presence with animals (horses, dogs, cats- almost all creatures) with huge reverence for their truly wild and naturally present selves, cooking and eating- I love to eat! making fun of you in a way that makes you feel like I really know you, and hopefully humored at how ridiculous we all can be, making fun of myself in the same way, creating almost anything, from songs to pictures to words to decorating to .... and thinking about you and how incredible it will be when you show up in my life.

A big perk if you can teach me to partner dance or will take lessons with me- Salsa, Tango, Swing- I'm open! I've just always wanted to share that with a man I'm connected to- and you don't mind that I might be a little bit shy about it at first (and probably pretty clumsy). :)
The first things people usually notice about me
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my laugh, my green eyes, my presence, and my *energy*. And probably once a year someone tells me I should do stand-up comedy.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Here's a quick list from me to give a little slice...Johannes Linstead is a new favorite, holy cow is that beautiful and fun, Alexi Murdoch, Patty Griffin, Jay Nash, Cesario Evora, Sidestepper, Coralie Clement, Amos Lee, 80s Michael Jackson, Helen Jane Long, Bonnie Raitt, Ray Charles, Billie Holiday, The Wailin' Jennys - listening to them sing "Take It Down" breaks my heart it's so beautiful, Coldplay, old REM, Ray LaMontagne, blues-y vocals, Bob Dylan, Explosions in the Sky, Sarah Maclaughlin, Bon Iver, random hip hop I hear from time to time, almost any piano, old 80s stuff when I get nostalgic (from Journey to New Order to Psychedelic Furs!.. any of it for the flashback in time), Bon Iver, Etta James, Ella Fitzgerald, Gillian Welch, Phosphorescent, Eastern Sun, Mary Chapin Carpenter, old Macy Gray, random electronica like Moby, Thievery Corp, etc., and just about any gorgeous voice with acoustic guitar or piano accompanying it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Wild, rugged, wide- open nature with the elements in my face
good, strong coffee first thing in the morning
the touch of a man I'm crazy about
Music and art in all its forms
an ice cold IPA at the end of a long day or really long hike
the spirit of possibility
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how amazing it will be to lie next to my man, knowing he's the love of my life
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
cooking for friends, sitting at a cafe/ bar somewhere outside having a glass of red wine or a punchy IPA while watching the world go by, heading off to the mountains for the weekend, trying a new restaurant I've never been to (I'm dying to get to Opaque in SF, served in the pitch black darkness by blind waiters...), tinkering on my piano, sitting by the fire doing some writing or watching a movie with a huge bowl of popcorn, hiking in the hills till just past dark with my dog, sitting on my deck listening to the trees and taking it all in. Recently I moved house and it's fast becoming a favorite past-time to watch the sunset over the Bay, past the canyon that my house is perched upon (precariously, perhaps, given I live on top of the Hayward Fault!) while wild turkeys gobble in the not-so-far-off distance -sometimes on the roof of my house!. I love this, my ranch- girl dreams playing out right here in Oakland- who'd have guessed?!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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almost every time I meet a fellow East coaster, an internal "Yes!" wells up, reminding me how direct, straightforward communication with that little bit of feisty *edge* and playful sarcasm just really hits home.

that and, in spite of my addiction to organic foods and vegetables, and a super healthy diet, I crave fast food every time I take a road trip, something about greasy French fries and Coke just hitting the spot after mile 200 or so. Gets me every time.
You should message me if
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You live your life on purpose, and yours is already imbued with the various textures and tones of a full life, though with still- enough room for a sweet new connection in it. Having a connection with a woman who's on fire with life would enhance and add it's own special textures of intimacy and sparkle to yours, and you are excited about the possibility of creating something awe-some together with one special woman.

Men who smile a lot because they are happy turn me on.

You're someone who strives for self -awareness, and places a high value on learning and growing as a person, authentic and mature communication, and true mutuality in connection, and are comfortable with the imperfection of life (somewhat, anyhow) and actually get off on the poetry of the sheer unpredictability, and wildness, and strangeness of it all. You value courage over strength, process over outcome, being fully alive over being perfect, and what your heart says over the stories of your mind- and you know the difference. You'd love to take care of a woman who already knows how to take care of herself, who knows how to lead but can really enjoy the when another leads and she can follow, and would love to totally let down with her man by her side, feeling the comfort and ease of a beautiful, supportive connection. You inspire me to be a better version of myself, don't need me to play small or be small to feel like a man, and I inspire you to be the best man you can be- and we both really believe in each other. If I'm with you, I will be your biggest ally, best friend, and most enthusiastic cheerleader. Finding that in return would rock my world.

And lastly, you got yourself some wildness inside... ! I truly get along with such a wide array of people, AND what's also true is that I resonate most with people with a fair dose of adventure and healthy risk- taking in their juju. I don't mix as naturally with cautious or prudent types, people who see what could go wrong more than what could go right, as much as I honor that we're all showing up in the way that feels right to each of us, and I don't judge.

My sense of humor is dry, often sarcastic (but not the rude obnoxious kind), cerebral and witty, and sometimes just straight-up goofball. I'll do almost anything to get a rise out of someone in a way that makes them bust out laughing at life. I actively look for things to laugh about. It isn't hard.

My main dealbreakers: "modern day flakey-ness" (people who don't return texts, emails, calls, and think that's normal or OK). And not being truly available to an amazing connection, but not being upfront with yourself, first and foremost, about this. Deal makers: successful, powerful and still very feminine women inspire you rather than intimidate or unsettle you, and you find yourself going "woo hoo, you go!!" when you meet one. And you have spent time really getting to know yourself and are motivated by increasing self- awareness, have been humbled by life on some level while still being deeply optimistic at your core, a believer in magic, with a heart open and ready to receive all that yummy-ness- someone who will go for what you love with your whole heart and soul. You see the possibilities more than you see the obstacles, in life, and most especially, in love.

If you read "The Invitation" by Oriah Mountain Dreamer, and Mary Oliver's "When Death Comes" (sounds morbid but is anything but!), and feel their messages in your bones, and find yourself wide-eyed and shouting "Yes!" with resonance, you should definitely say hello.

I reply to almost every email that comes to me, considering it a compliment no matter the attraction, but please don't be offended if you're way outside my age range, lower or higher, and I do not, as that's already been made plain right on my profile. thank you!