33 Auckland, New Zealand
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My self-summary
Hi! I think OKCupid's match score is pretty good at measuring if we have similar values, but it doesn't measure whether we are attracted to the other person's appearance, mannerisms, voice, smell, etc -- the "chemistry". You can best find those things out by meeting in person; exchanging messages can be pleasant but doesn't answer the chemistry question very well. So, if we have a relatively good match score and you value your time, send me a message and we can get a coffee or drink somewhere to quickly find out about the chemistry. I promise I won't bite.

My self-summary

Over the past several years, it has really become clear to me how much I appreciate variety. So many things in life are worth doing at least once a year or once a decade or once a lifetime. Some recent new experiences are Argentine tango and playing street music in a brass band. Some other fun novelties have been sushi rolling and urban exploration.

Because I spend my work day alone in front of a computer, I have a lot of energy for interacting with people in the evenings. This, combined with my desire for variety, leads me to socialize a lot -- I participate in Meetup.com, hang out with CouchSurfers, and go to other interesting things I hear about. This yields many casual acquaintances, but I like it best when the conversation veers away from generic small talk toward a person's unique interests and experiences. From this pool of contacts I've pulled some good friends, and I'd like to continue doing so -- I enjoy the honesty and mutual attention of one-on-one conversations.

I grew up in Michigan and spent 2011-2014 rotating through Australia then New Zealand then New Orleans. I really enjoyed my past time in Auckland, so I applied for and received a permanent residence visa, and I am now back here indefinitely.
What I’m doing with my life
I fancy myself an Internet entrepreneur. I co-founded a recruitment software company while I was getting my MBA. Now I'm working for the company that bought my company.
I’m really good at
I'm good at making people feel comfortable about opening up and telling me about their lives. They apparently enjoy sharing with me, and I enjoy listening.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I usually skip past this section when I read others' profiles. I think it's because I don't get too passionate about these things. Regarding books, movies, and podcasts, I'm only passionate about the non-fiction ones. There are so many amazing things in the world that are real. For example, did you know there is a Pacific island that uses big (up to 4m tall) stones for their money? Or that a graffiti artist in NYC wrote 235 giant panels of his life story before he got caught?

I've enjoyed reading:
While not a book, I regularly read the Economist which never fails to remind me how little I know about the world. The Black Swan, which has nothing to do with the movie, was quite fascinating regarding how unpredictable the world is. Stumbling on Happiness was quite good -- it inspired me to make a Facebook app. I once was reading a book about the multiple wives of Joseph Smith (the Mormon prophet), but then it was stolen along with a book about Common Lisp. I have twice purchased and lost god is not Great before I finished reading it. Divine intervention??

I'm enamored with New Orleans Brass Bands.

I'll eat anything. Spicy is good.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
It's my guilty pleasure to formulate likable anecdotes for Facebook. The current winner is:

"I went to a meetup.com event on Saturday. When talking to new people at these occasions, I find that I usually end up relying on my standard set of small talk questions, often starting with 'Have you been to many events with this group?' If they tell me it's their first time with any such group, I follow up by asking, 'What was the spark that led to you signing up for the event?'

"A while back, one lady told me her therapist had recommended it.

"Last night, I met a therapist who told me her psychic had recommended it.

"I hope I meet a psychic next time."
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have O-negative blood, which I donate.
You should message me if
For people I'm going to spend a lot of time with, I really appreciate their being easygoing. I see a distinction between this and being passive, though -- a particular best friend of mine doesn't sweat the small stuff yet is hyperactive like a cartoon character.

I'm looking for someone with whom to spend time, talk, and have sex. With the right person, a long-term relationship would also be great.

Always excited to hear from people with great stories.