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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 23–37
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My details

Last online
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5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body type
Atheism, and very serious about it
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Mostly monogamous
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)
My self-summary
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Hi! I think OKCupid's match score is pretty good at measuring if we have similar values, but it doesn't measure whether we are attracted to the other person's appearance, mannerisms, voice, smell, etc -- the "chemistry". You can best find those things out by meeting in person; exchanging messages can be pleasant but doesn't answer the chemistry question very well. So, if we have a relatively good match score and you value your time, send me a message and we can get a coffee or drink somewhere to quickly find out about the chemistry. I promise I won't bite.

My self-summary

I like meetups and other group events. In an average month, I probably have introductions with 40 new people and have significant conversations with a dozen of them. I think meeting new people makes me a better person and more enjoyable to be around. I get excited about the exchange of interesting ideas. It's best when the conversation veers away from generic small talk toward a person's unique interests and experiences. I tell people embarrassing stories about myself, and for some reason they often find it endearing.

I enjoy living in new places. I spent most of 2011 in Australia and 2012 in New Zealand. I split 2013 between New Orleans and Ann Arbor, MI. I spent all of 2014 back in New Orleans, but having received a permanent residence visa, I left New Orleans for New Zealand.

In the past couple years, it has really become clear to me how much I appreciate variety. So many things in life are worth doing at least once a year or once a decade or once a lifetime. Some recent new experiences are Argentine tango and playing street music in a brass band. Some other fun novelties have been sushi rolling and urban exploration.

While I own a car, I like walking as a form of transportation.

Because I spend my work day alone in front of a computer, I have a lot of energy for interacting with people in the evenings.
What I’m doing with my life
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I fancy myself an Internet entrepreneur. I co-founded a recruitment software company while I was getting my MBA. Now I'm working for the company that bought my company.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm good at making people feel comfortable about opening up and telling me about their lives. They apparently enjoy sharing with me, and I enjoy listening.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I usually skip past this section when I read others' profiles. I think it's because I don't get too passionate about these things. Regarding books, movies, and podcasts, I'm only passionate about the non-fiction ones. There are so many amazing things in the world that are real. For example, did you know there is a Pacific island that uses big (up to 4m tall) stones for their money? Or that a graffiti artist in NYC wrote 235 giant panels of his life story before he got caught?

I've enjoyed reading:
While not a book, I regularly read the Economist which never fails to remind me how little I know about the world. The Black Swan, which has nothing to do with the movie, was quite fascinating regarding how unpredictable the world is. Stumbling on Happiness was quite good -- it inspired me to make a Facebook app. I once was reading a book about the multiple wives of Joseph Smith (the Mormon prophet), but then it was stolen along with a book about Common Lisp. I have twice purchased and lost god is not Great before I finished reading it. Divine intervention??

A year in, I'm still enamored with New Orleans Brass Bands, though it seems they're best in small individual doses.

I'll eat anything. Spicy is good.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
It's my guilty pleasure to formulate likable anecdotes for Facebook. The current winner is:

"I went to a event on Saturday. When talking to new people at these occasions, I find that I usually end up relying on my standard set of small talk questions, often starting with 'Have you been to many events with this group?' If they tell me it's their first time with any such group, I follow up by asking, 'What was the spark that led to you signing up for the event?'

"A while back, one lady told me her therapist had recommended it.

"Last night, I met a therapist who told me her psychic had recommended it.

"I hope I meet a psychic next time."
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I don't have a Friday usual. I think my weekday nights are busier than most people's, but my weekends are on the quiet side. Some frequent reasons I head out in the evenings: hanging out with couchsurfers at Bacchanal Wine and BJ's Lounge, brass band practice, swimming laps, dinner with friends, dinner alone, and listening to live music.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have O-negative blood, which I donate.
You should message me if
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You read the bit about my nomadic tendencies and that doesn't bother you, especially if you're some sort of freelancer, teleworker, independently wealthy individual, or vagrant who could accompany me on such traipses.

For people I'm going to spend a lot of time with, I really appreciate their being easygoing. I see a distinction between this and being passive, though -- a particular best friend of mine doesn't sweat the small stuff yet is hyperactive like a cartoon character.

Always excited to hear from someone with great stories.