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_be_here_now

34 M Berkeley, CA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 16
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
When drinking
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Sign
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Science / Engineering
Income
$80,000–$100,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
"I seem to be a verb". I have always identified with this quote by the great Buckminster Fuller. The full quote is: "I live on Earth at present, and I don't know what I am. I know that I am not a category. I am not a thing — a noun. I seem to be a verb, an evolutionary process — an integral function of the universe". In addition to highlighting the fact that I am a sucker for existential rumination this quote encapsulates a more general approach I have come to take towards life: life is change, a mystery, an ever mutable form whose true nature is fleeting to those who ask it to stay put, to fit in a category. Stop asking so many questions and just live - If I had to adopt a motto, that would be it! That being said, I've chosen to make a living asking questions and I think mottos are a bit one-dimensional.

I'm living my life as richly as possible. So far I've met many wonderful people from whom to learn from and share this time, and I continue to be surrounded by them in this amazing place that is the bay area. I'm certainly looking forward to meeting many more, especially those who are "mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn" ;)
What I’m doing with my life
(Update: finished, PhD --> got techy-science-data job in the peninsula ----> moved to the mission. Change is good. Life's pretty alright)

Getting paid to be a big nerd

Balancing said nerdiness with healthy doses of raucous abandon and bohemianism

Balancing raucous abandon with mindful self-reflection

Repeat
I’m really good at
Keeping an open mind. Laughing at life. Shaking my ass. Making you shake your ass. Keeping the beat. Staying in a state of perpetual motion.
The first things people usually notice about me
Recently while traveling, I was told that I had a "fucking beautiful" smile by a complete stranger. So, I guess that goes in this section.

Also, to borrow from Big Boi, 'Cooler than a polar bear's toe nails.'
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
"What makes lovemaking and reading resemble each other most is that within both of them times and spaces open, different from measurable time and space." - Calvino

Too many books. Some of my favorite authors---Italo Calvino, Tom Robbins, Henry Miller, Murakami, Pynchon, Michael Chabon, Roberto Bolano, Aldous Huxley, Tom Wolfe, Buckminister Fuller, Kurt Vonnegut, Peter Wiess, Samuel Beckett, Don DeLillo, William Vollmann, Borges, Terrence McKenna, Alan Watts, Alan Ginsburg, Gary Synder, Kerouac, Hesse, .....

Movies by: Kubrick, Woody Allen, The Coen Bros., Charlie Kaufman, Spike Jonze, David Lynch, Christopher Nolan, and pretty much any given documentary ever. And sophomoric, yet genius comedy.

Music is an essential part of life, especially live shows/ performance - I crave the visceral and emotional energy. I have played drums and guitar for years. I love to dance and I love electronic music - especially deep and tech house, but I also have a broad appreciation of rock, jazz and hip-hop. Sounds like: Lee Burridge, Damian Lazarus, DJ Tennis, Blondish, Thugfucker, Black Light Smoke, Hot Since 82', Bob Moses, Hot Creations......

I'm currently obsessed with this mix: https://soundcloud.com/robot-heart/blondish-get-physical-on-the

And completely obsessed with the two of them ;)

I regularly attend many of the city's finest underground dance functions as well as the not-so underground dance functions and, yeah, I'd love to take you (or better yet, have you take me/ introduce me to some!)

And I honestly don't know what I'd do without soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/aaron-hamby-1

Food: Most. Especially if it has garlic. Or ginger. Or both. And noodles. Man, I love noodles. I'm an omnivore but have been becoming increasingly less desirous of meat and more picky about where it comes from. I also absolutely applaud the emergence of vegan/healthy/local/alternative eating choices as a real part of our everyday food culture (at least in the bay area) and not viewing them as strange forms of self-denial.
I rarely "just don't care" what I eat. Depending on the night I enjoy exploring new places to eat out (or old favorites) or creating something spontaneous at home. Also, I will definitely cook for you if you give me the chance!
The six things I could never do without
Physical exertion. Excitement. A good beer. Music. Something good to read. A sexy, well-read conversationalist.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Plasticity of cellular, mental, emotional and social states, how those states come into being, how we can change, modulate and augment them. Also, where are the good parties this weekend?
On a typical Friday night I am
Out with friends, cavorting, merry-making and expanding our minds. Or sleeping under the stars.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 22–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You: have a lust for life (yes, I did just quote Iggy Pop). Understand what a semi-colon is used for. Crave physicality. Like to dance all night. Like to try new things. Explore the liminal space between hippie, intellectual and productive member of society. Appreciate complexity, strive for simplicity. Despise drama. Are rarely satisfied, yet still happy.